We hear the urgency in your heart, and we want you to know that God cares deeply about your concerns. First, we notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and this is something we must address. The Bible tells us in John 14:6, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* It is only through Jesus that we can approach God and have our prayers heard. If you have not yet placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for *"there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12). Salvation comes through repenting of your sins and believing in Jesus Christ, who died for your sins and rose again to give you eternal life. If you have already done this, then we encourage you to always pray in His name, for He is our mediator before God.
Now, let us address your request about marriage. Marriage is a sacred covenant established by God, and it is not something to be entered into lightly or without seeking His will. We understand that you are feeling distressed about the possibility of marrying this young man, and we want to assure you that God does not force His will upon us. Instead, He guides us through His Word, His Spirit, and the counsel of wise believers. If you are feeling pressured or uncertain, it is important to seek God’s wisdom and direction. The Bible tells us in Psalm 37:4, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* This does not mean God will give you whatever you wish for, but as you align your heart with His, He will place His desires within you.
We must also ask: are you facing pressure from others, such as family or cultural expectations, to marry this young man? If so, remember that marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it must be entered into with full conviction and alignment with God’s will. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are warned, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this young man is not a believer in Jesus Christ, or if he does not share your faith and values, then this is a serious matter that must not be overlooked. A marriage built on anything other than a shared faith in Christ will face immense challenges.
If you are already in a relationship with this young man, we encourage you to evaluate whether this relationship honors God. Are you courting with the intention of marriage? Are you both committed to purity and holiness, avoiding fornication or any form of sexual immorality? The Bible is clear in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5: *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* If there has been sin in this area, we urge you to repent and turn to God for forgiveness and strength to walk in purity.
Lastly, we want to remind you that God is your refuge and strength. You do not have to walk this path alone. Seek counsel from mature believers, such as a pastor or godly mentor, who can provide wisdom and support. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no wise guidance, the nation falls, but in the multitude of counselors there is victory."* Do not rush into any decision without seeking God first.
Let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious sister to You in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. If she is feeling pressured or uncertain about this young man, we pray that You would make Your will clear to her. Give her wisdom and discernment, and surround her with godly counsel. If this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would close the door and remove any fear or anxiety she may have. Help her to trust in You completely, knowing that You have a plan for her life.
If there has been any sin in this relationship, Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Strengthen her to walk in purity and holiness, and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. If this young man is not a believer, we pray that You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, but we also ask that You would protect her from being unequally yoked. Give her the courage to make decisions that honor You, even if it is difficult.
Father, we ask that You would place godly desires in her heart and lead her to a man who loves You above all else, if it is Your will for her to marry. But above all, help her to find her satisfaction and joy in You alone. We rebuke any fear, confusion, or pressure that the enemy may be using against her, and we declare that You, Lord, are her defender and provider.
We thank You for hearing our prayer, and we trust in Your perfect will for her life. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.