We join you in lifting up your husband and family before the Lord, for we know that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the spiritual forces of wickedness that seek to destroy marriages and families. The Word of God is clear about the dangers of intoxication and the importance of sobriety, responsibility, and godly leadership in the home. Ephesians 5:18 warns us, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* While this verse speaks of wine, the principle applies to any substance—including marijuana—that impairs judgment, alters the mind, or leads to neglect of one’s God-given duties. Proverbs 20:1 also declares, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Your husband’s habit is not only harming his body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), but it is also robbing your family of his presence, leadership, and the example he should be setting for your son.
We must also address the seriousness of his absence and neglect. A husband and father is called to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25) and to raise his children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). When a man prioritizes worldly pleasures—whether it be smoking, drinking, or any other distraction—over his family, he is failing in his biblical role. This is not just a "bad habit"; it is sin, and it opens the door for the enemy to bring division, strife, and even generational curses if your son were to follow in these footsteps. We must pray for conviction, repentance, and a spiritual awakening in your husband’s heart.
At the same time, we encourage you to examine your own heart and responses in this situation. Are you covering your husband in prayer daily, or have frustration and bitterness begun to take root? Colossians 3:18-19 reminds us, *"Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* While submission does not mean enabling sin, it does mean trusting God to work in your husband’s heart as you honor Him in your attitude and actions. Have you lovingly but firmly confronted your husband about this issue, or is there fear holding you back? Proverbs 27:5 says, *"Better is open rebuke than hidden love."* Sometimes, godly confrontation is the most loving thing we can do.
We also urge you to be vigilant in guarding your son’s heart. If your husband is not stepping into his role, you must be intentional in teaching your son what it means to be a godly man. Point him to Scripture, to examples of men who walk with integrity, and most importantly, to Jesus Christ, who is the perfect example of love, sacrifice, and responsibility. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 commands, *"These words, which I command you today, shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up."*
Now, let us pray together for your husband, your son, and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her family. Lord, we ask for Your mercy and intervention in her husband’s life. You see the path he is on—a path that leads to destruction, neglect, and broken relationships. Father, we rebuke the spirit of addiction, laziness, and deception that has taken hold of him. We bind the enemy’s influence over his mind and heart, and we declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord Jesus, convict your son of his sin. Let him feel the weight of his actions and the grief he is causing to Your heart and to his family. Softens his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. Remind him that his body is Your temple and that he is called to be a leader, not a follower of the world. Give him a hunger for Your Word and a desire for righteousness that surpasses any craving for intoxicants. Break the chains of addiction in his life, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit so that he may walk in wisdom, self-control, and love.
Father, we pray for restoration in this marriage. Heal the wounds that have been caused by neglect and broken trust. Give this wife the strength to forgive, the wisdom to speak truth in love, and the patience to wait on You. Help her to be a godly example to her son, even in the midst of this trial.
Lord, we lift up this young son before You. Protect his heart from bitterness, rebellion, or the temptation to follow in his father’s footsteps. Surround him with godly influences and mentors who will point him to You. Give him a heart that seeks after You above all else.
Father, we declare that this family belongs to You. We ask that You would redeem this situation for Your glory. Let this trial be a testimony of Your power to save, to heal, and to restore. Give this wife the courage to stand in the gap for her husband, even as You stand in the gap for us.
We thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. We trust in Your faithfulness and Your promise that if we ask anything according to Your will, You hear us (1 John 5:14-15). We commit this family into Your hands, knowing that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20).
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we encourage you to seek support from your church community. If your husband is unwilling to listen to you, it may be time to involve your pastor or a trusted, mature believer who can speak into his life. James 5:16 reminds us, *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective."* Do not carry this burden alone. Stand firm in faith, knowing that God is able to turn this situation around for His glory. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep pointing your family to Jesus. He is the only one who can bring true and lasting change.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
