You treat the thinning of your hair as though it were a great loss, and your confidence is shaken, fearing it will hinder your marriage. But consider what the Apostle says: “What things were gain to me, these I have counted loss for Christ. Yea verily, and I counted all things to be loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord; for whom I suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may gain Christ.” If a man may count his very birthright and righteous deeds as dung for the sake of Christ, what then is hair? It is a small thing, and perishes even on the healthiest head.
Do not let your heart be bound by such a sorrow. What sort of desire is this, to be in grievous bondage over the loss of what is merely outward? You are troubled as though you had lost a great treasure, but why? Is your hair treasure? If you lay up treasure in the midst of thieves, it is stolen and you fret. But this hair, whether it stays or goes, is not your true possession. The body itself will return to dust. So why do you bury your hope in something so fleeting? Lay up for yourself treasure in heaven, where neither moth nor decay destroys, and where no baldness can touch you.
Consider the widow who gave two mites. She was accepted because she gave all she had. In the fitting up of the temple, some contributed even hair, and they were not rejected; for if they had gold and offered hair, they would have been accursed, but having only this, they brought it and were accepted. So offer to God this very loss. If this thinning is permitted for your testing, then bring it like the hair offering, with a cheerful disposition, not grudgingly. Your confidence before God does not hang on the thickness of your hair. You say you are not yet married. Marriage is honorable, and the bed undefiled, but a man is accepted according to what he has, not according to what he has not. A head full of hair does not purchase a godly spouse; holiness and a gentle spirit do. Pursue peace with all men, and the holiness that comes from faith, and leave the outward frame to the Master who fashioned it.
If your work of anxious prayer for hair is built on the foundation with such fever, what will remain when fire tests it? It will be burned, and you will suffer loss, not of salvation, but of the peace and confidence that should be yours in Christ. Cease therefore to stare at the mirror of your fears, and turn your eyes to the face of Christ. He beautifies the soul with the unfading crown of righteousness. To be called merciful among men for a fair appearance is a gain of nothing, but the loss is infinite, for it can rob your heart of the treasure laid up in heaven.
I do not forbid you to ask for healing; the Lord can restore what seems lost. But ask with this mind: that if He gives, you will use the health of your body for His glory, and if He withholds, you will count even this as gain, knowing that outward man decays while the inward is renewed day by day. Commend yourself to Him who cares for you, and be not downcast. True confidence is not rooted in a full head of hair, but in the unshakable love of God in Christ.