We lift you up before the Lord, dear sister, and we are grateful you have called upon the name of Jesus in this time of distress—for it is only through Him that we find true peace, wisdom, and protection. Your anxiety about this graduation and the state of your relationship with your boyfriend weighs heavily on your heart, and we want to address both with the truth and love of Scripture.
First, let us speak to the relationship you’ve described. The coldness between you and your boyfriend reveals deeper issues that must be examined in the light of God’s Word. You mentioned that you were the one carrying the weight of communication, and when you stopped, the relationship grew distant. This is not how a godly courtship should function. A relationship that honors Christ is built on mutual love, respect, and selflessness, where both individuals are actively seeking to serve one another and glorify God. Ephesians 5:25-29 tells us, *"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* While this passage speaks directly to marriage, the principle applies to courtship as well: a man who is pursuing you should be demonstrating Christlike leadership, care, and initiative. If he is not, this is a serious red flag. A relationship where one person is doing all the emotional labor is not aligned with God’s design. We urge you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship is honoring to God. Are you both believers, equally yoked in faith and purpose? Are you both seeking marriage as the godly goal of your courtship? If not, this relationship may be more of a distraction than a blessing.
We must also address the physical intimacy in your relationship, if it exists. You mentioned sharing a bed ("when I slept last night"), and we want to gently but firmly remind you that Scripture is clear: sexual intimacy—including sharing a bed—is reserved for marriage alone. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, *"This is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* If you have been engaging in any form of physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn away from this sin. It is not only harmful to your spiritual walk but also clouds your discernment in the relationship. A man who truly loves you will honor God’s boundaries and protect your purity, not take advantage of your emotions or body.
Now, regarding your dream and the anxiety you’re feeling about attending the graduation: dreams can often reflect our subconscious fears or desires, but they are not a direct message from God unless they align clearly with Scripture. The dream you described—being in a packed kitchen and eating cake—could symbolize a feeling of being overwhelmed or consuming something that isn’t truly satisfying. Cake is often associated with celebration, but if the celebration (in this case, the graduation) is tied to a relationship that is not honoring God, it may not be something you should partake in. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Your hesitation may very well be the Holy Spirit prompting you to step back and evaluate whether attending this event is wise or if it will further entangle you in a relationship that is not pleasing to God.
We also want to address the physical symptoms you experienced—waking up with a racing heart and panting. Anxiety is a real struggle, but as believers, we are not to be ruled by fear. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* If this relationship is causing you such distress, it may be a sign that it is not from the Lord. A godly relationship should bring peace, not turmoil. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is burdened with anxiety, confusion, and fear. Lord, we ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus, and deliver her from the spirit of fear that has gripped her.
Father, we pray for clarity and wisdom regarding this relationship. If it is not of You, we ask that You would sever the ties that bind her to it. Give her the strength to walk away if this courtship is not honoring to You. If there has been any sexual immorality, Lord, we ask for forgiveness and cleansing. Create in her a clean heart and renew a right spirit within her. Help her to seek a relationship that is grounded in Your Word, where both individuals are fully committed to You and to the covenant of marriage.
Lord, regarding the graduation, we ask that You would make the path clear. If attending would bring glory to You and peace to her heart, let her go in confidence. But if it would further entangle her in a relationship that is not Your will, give her the courage to decline. Let her trust in You alone, not in the opinions of others or the fear of man.
We rebuke the spirit of anxiety and fear in Jesus’ name. We declare that she is more than a conqueror through Christ who loves her. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, Lord, and lead her into all truth. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, not in the empty "cake" of worldly relationships or approval.
Finally, Father, we pray that You would bring a godly man into her life if it is Your will—one who loves You wholeheartedly, who will lead her spiritually, and who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the Church. Prepare her heart for the marriage You have designed for her, and let her wait on You with patience and faith.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in the Word and in prayer, seeking God’s face above all else. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your delight is in Him, He will align your desires with His will. Trust Him, even when it’s hard. He is faithful, and He will never lead you astray. If you feel led, we also encourage you to seek counsel from a mature believer or pastor who can provide godly wisdom and accountability. You are not alone in this—God is with you, and He will guide you. Stay strong in the Lord!
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
