You have prayed for clarity concerning a revelation about a future husband. First, I urge you to consider the wisdom of the apostle who warned that the deceiver has a third grievous snare, when he invests the sin with a show of devotion. How many have withdrawn from their own duties or fallen into unseemly fixations, thinking they are doing something spiritual, yet thereby drive themselves into confusion and open a door to the enemy? The heart is an untamed thing, and even what seems a godly forecast may be a baited hook if we rush to claim it without deep prostration of soul.
Consider the words of our Lord to the Samaritan woman. He told her, “Thou hast had five husbands, and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband.” This foreknowledge was not a flattering promise but a sharp reproof to draw her to repentance. True prophecy, the very work of God which devils can only counterfeit among the simpler sort, often serves to humble, not to exalt. If this impression truly comes from above, then it must bear the fruit of sobriety, patience, and greater fear of God, not a restless eagerness to secure an outcome. The evil one can mimic signs and twist our own desires into an oracle, and his most subtle trick is to make us mistake a burning inclination for a divine voice.
Therefore, instead of fixing your gaze upon a particular man as though the matter were already settled, fix it upon the Lord who sees all things in His own time. The Scriptures command, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord,” and “the husband is the head of the wife.” If it be God’s will to join you in a godly house, He needs no frantic sign-seeking from you; He requires a soul that is quiet, meek, and properly ordered. For a woman does not win a chaste and godly husband by elaborate schemes or by pressing forward with private revelations, but by gentleness, modesty, and freedom from worldly pride. Even if a husband were infinitely debased, these are the things that would most effectually draw him, how much more a man who fears the Lord. Yet if you let your heart be consumed with this one hope, you may neglect the present duties of your station and, by your inward turmoil, repel the very peace you seek.
Be on your guard, lest you prefer a friend’s favor or a dream of the future to your own salvation. When the fever of a passion seizes the mind, it throws everything into confusion, and we no longer recognize the difference between Master and servant, between God’s quiet leading and our own clamoring. Do not mistake the devil’s dainty poison for the bread of heaven. Submit the whole matter to the Lord with such humility that you truly mean, “If this is not Thy revelation, correct me and uproot every false thought.” Then rest in that prayer with hands unclenched. If the thing is from God, He is able to prepare both you and him without your anxious meddling; if it is not, no amount of straining will make it holy.
Devote your prayers not to the securing of a particular person, but to the cleansing of your own soul, to the mastery of your will, and to a sincere delight in whatever Providence ordains, whether marriage to this man, to another, or to none at all. For great evils come when we seize what seems devout in order to feed our own hidden desires, and great benefits when we let the God of prophecy write your story with the ink of His own choosing. Be still, and know that He who foretold Peter’s name and the Samaritan’s sins knows your path perfectly, and His timing is without error. May He grant you the spirit of sober-mindedness and an undistracted heart, that whether in marriage or in waiting you may please Him who is the true Bridegroom of the faithful.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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