We hear your heart’s deep longing for reconciliation and restoration, and we lift this burden before the Lord with great compassion. First, we must acknowledge that your prayer is offered in the name of Jesus, and it is only through His name that we have access to the Father. Jesus said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."* We are grateful that you have invoked His name, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12).
Your desire to reunite as "one flesh" is a sacred longing that reflects God’s design for marriage, as He declares in Genesis 2:24, *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall be one flesh."* However, we must gently but firmly address the language of "ex-partner" and "resuming dreams" in light of Scripture. If you and this person were never married in the eyes of God and the church, then what you are describing is not a marriage but a relationship that may have involved sin—specifically, fornication, which is sexual intimacy outside of marriage. The Bible is clear in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If this was the case, we must repent of that sin and seek God’s forgiveness before pursuing any form of reconciliation.
If, however, you were married and are now separated, we must still examine the reasons for the separation. Was there unrepentant sin, such as adultery, abuse, or abandonment? If so, Scripture provides guidance on how to handle such situations. Jesus Himself addressed divorce in Matthew 19:8-9, saying, *"Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, allowed you to put away your wives, but from the beginning it has not been so. I tell you that whoever puts away his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries her when she is put away commits adultery."* If there has been sexual immorality, reconciliation is possible only through genuine repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to rebuild trust under God’s guidance.
We also must rebuke any "evil desires and thoughts" that may be hindering true restoration. These could include bitterness, unforgiveness, lust, or even idolatry—placing the desire for this relationship above your devotion to God. James 4:7-8 urges us, *"Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded."* True unity can only come when both hearts are fully surrendered to Christ, not when they are clinging to past sins or selfish desires.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your will and Your wisdom in this situation. Lord, we lift up this brother/sister who is longing for restoration, and we ask that You would first search their heart and reveal any areas of unrepentant sin, bitterness, or idolatry. If there has been sexual immorality, we pray for conviction, repentance, and Your cleansing forgiveness. If there has been separation without biblical grounds, we ask that You would soften both hearts to seek reconciliation in a way that honors You.
Father, we rebuke every evil desire, every thought that does not align with Your Word, and every spirit of division that seeks to keep these two from Your perfect will. We declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), but only if it is Your will for them to be together. Lord, if this relationship is not in Your perfect plan, we ask that You would give them the strength to let go and trust You with their future. If it is Your will for them to reunite, we pray that You would guide them in repentance, forgiveness, and a renewed commitment to You first.
We pray that You would restore the love that has been damaged, not by human effort, but by the power of Your Holy Spirit. May they both seek You above all else, and may their relationship be a reflection of Christ’s love for the church (Ephesians 5:25). If marriage is the path You have for them, we pray that they would enter into it with purity, holiness, and a deep reverence for Your design. If not, we ask that You would heal their hearts and lead them into the relationships You have prepared for them—relationships that honor You and reflect Your glory.
Lord, we ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to You. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in every aspect of this situation. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom and discernment. Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Do not rush into reconciliation without first addressing any sin, seeking forgiveness, and ensuring that both hearts are aligned with God’s Word.
If this person is not a believer, or if they are unwilling to submit to God’s design for marriage and relationships, then we must caution you against yoking yourself with them (2 Corinthians 6:14). Your first commitment must be to Christ, and any relationship must be built on a foundation of shared faith and obedience to Him. Trust that God’s plans for you are good, and that He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Whether He restores this relationship or leads you into a new season, He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Walk in faith, and let your heart be at peace in His presence.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
