We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we want you to know that your sorrow is seen and your cries are heard. The rejection you’ve endured—from family, past relationships, and now this young man—has left wounds that only the healing touch of Jesus can fully restore. You are not forgotten, nor are you worthless. The enemy may have whispered lies to you, but we stand together to declare the truth of God’s Word over your life.
First, we must address the weight of rejection you carry, for it has shaped your view of yourself and even your view of God. Scripture tells us in Psalm 27:10, *"Though my father and my mother have forsaken me, Yahweh will take me up."* Even when earthly parents fail, our Heavenly Father does not. He is the perfect Father who loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). The abuse you suffered was never His will, and we renounce any lies that suggest you deserved it or that you are unlovable because of it. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your worth is not defined by the brokenness of others.
We also recognize the mention of a possible "curse" on your life. The Bible is clear that in Christ, we are set free from any curses or generational strongholds. Galatians 3:13 declares, *"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us."* If there are patterns of rejection or abuse in your family line, we break them now in the name of Jesus. You are not bound to the failures of your ancestors. Through His blood, you are a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
Now, let us speak to your current situation with this young man. While his rejection stings deeply, we must also examine whether this relationship was aligned with God’s design from the beginning. You mentioned he is a Christian, yet he made it clear he did not want a romantic relationship. If you entered into this with the hope of marriage, his lack of commitment may have been a mercy in disguise—a protection from further heartache. Proverbs 4:23 warns us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Guarding your heart means not investing emotionally where there is no mutual commitment to God’s plan for marriage.
We must also address the pain of feeling "easily abused" and the tendency to love others who do not love you in return. This is not a reflection of your worth but may reveal a pattern of seeking validation in the wrong places. Jesus calls us to love others, but not at the expense of our own dignity or His standards. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, *"Don’t be deceived! Evil companionships corrupt good morals."* You deserve a spouse who cherishes you, honors you, and loves you as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Do not settle for less than God’s best, even if the wait feels unbearable.
Your struggle with self-hatred, eating disorders, and depression is not something to carry alone. Psalm 34:18 assures us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* We encourage you to seek godly counseling and surround yourself with believers who can speak life into you. You are not meant to heal in isolation. James 5:16 says, *"Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed."*
And to the lie that God has forgotten you—oh, beloved, He has not. Isaiah 49:15-16 says, *"Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you! Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands."* You are etched into His hands, and His love for you is relentless. Even in your darkest moments, He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious daughter who has known so much pain. Lord, You see every tear she has cried, every wound she has endured, and every lie she has believed. We ask You to break the chains of rejection, abuse, and self-hatred in the mighty name of Jesus. Pour out Your healing balm upon her heart, mind, and body. Restore her identity in You, reminding her that she is Your beloved, chosen, and dearly loved child.
Father, we renounce any generational curses or strongholds over her life. We declare that she is free in Christ, and no weapon formed against her shall prosper. Heal her from the trauma of her past, and give her the strength to forgive those who have hurt her, even as You have forgiven her. Replace her self-hatred with Your love, her emptiness with Your fullness, and her despair with Your hope.
Lord, we ask for wisdom and discernment as she navigates relationships. Protect her heart from those who would misuse or reject her. Bring godly friendships and, in Your perfect timing, a husband who will love her as Christ loves the Church. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as a woman of value, dignity, and purpose.
We also pray for her struggles with depression and eating disorders. Touch her mind and body, Lord, and lead her to the help she needs. Surround her with believers who will uplift and encourage her. Remind her daily that she is not alone, for You are with her always.
Above all, draw her closer to You. Let her experience Your presence in tangible ways so that she may know beyond a shadow of a doubt that You have not forgotten her. Fill her with Your peace, Your joy, and Your unshakable hope.
We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, the name above every name, the One who heals, restores, and redeems. Amen.
Beloved, your healing is not a distant hope—it is a present reality in Christ. The same power that raised Jesus from the dead lives in you (Ephesians 1:19-20). You are not defined by your past, your pain, or the rejection of others. You are defined by the One who calls you His own. Keep pressing into Him, even when it feels impossible. His love is the only love that will never fail you.
And when the lies creep in—*"You are worthless," "No one will ever love you," "God has forgotten you"*—we urge you to combat them with the truth of Scripture. Write down verses that speak to your identity in Christ and declare them over your life daily. Romans 8:38-39 says, *"For I am persuaded that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing will be able to separate us from God’s love which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."* Nothing can separate you from His love—not your past, not your pain, not even your own doubts.
You are not alone in this journey. Lean on your brothers and sisters in Christ, and allow them to carry your burdens with you. And when the longing for a spouse feels overwhelming, remember that your ultimate fulfillment is found in Christ alone. He is enough, even when nothing else is. Trust Him with your heart, and He will lead you to the healing and the love you so deeply desire.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
