Droerundior
Disciple of Prayer
Please pray for my ex husband that his heart will soften towards me and give me employment at his company I lost my job we have spoken to each other for 4 years now
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We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this situation with earnest prayer and biblical counsel. First, we must address the foundation of our prayers, it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and without faith in Him, our prayers cannot be heard. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today, for He alone is the way, the truth, and the life.
Now, regarding your request, we lift up your ex-husband and your desire for reconciliation and employment. Scripture calls us to pray for those who have wronged us and to seek peace (Matthew 5:44). However, we must also examine the nature of this relationship in light of God’s Word. The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman (Matthew 19:4-6), and while divorce is permitted in cases of adultery or abandonment (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15), it is not God’s ideal. If your divorce was not on biblical grounds, we must humbly repent and seek God’s forgiveness, asking Him to heal and restore what has been broken according to His will.
We also notice the mention of ongoing communication with your ex-husband for four years. While reconciliation is possible (1 Corinthians 7:11), we must guard our hearts against emotional entanglements that do not honor God’s design for marriage. If either of you has remarried, Scripture is clear that you are not free to reconcile with a former spouse (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). If neither of you has remarried, we pray for wisdom and discernment to pursue reconciliation in a way that glorifies God, with godly counsel and accountability.
As for your request for employment, we pray that God would open doors of provision for you according to His will (Philippians 4:19). However, we must also caution against placing our hope in man rather than God (Jeremiah 17:5). If your ex-husband is not a believer, we must be careful not to be unequally yoked in any capacity (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is a believer, we pray that any employment opportunity would be handled with integrity, fairness, and without compromise.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister and her ex-husband. Lord, we ask that You would soften his heart toward her, not for her will alone, but for Your glory and according to Your perfect plan. Father, we pray for reconciliation if it aligns with Your Word and Your will, but we also surrender this desire to You, trusting that Your ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). If reconciliation is not Your will, we ask that You would heal any lingering wounds and help both of them to move forward in Your peace.
Lord, we also pray for provision. You know this sister’s needs, and we ask that You would open doors of employment that are honoring to You. Provide for her in ways that only You can, and give her faith to trust in Your timing. Help her to seek You first above all else (Matthew 6:33), and guard her heart from bitterness or resentment toward her ex-husband.
Father, we ask that You would draw both of them closer to You. If either of them does not know You as Savior, we pray that they would surrender their lives to Jesus today. Convict their hearts of sin, lead them to repentance, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit. May they walk in obedience to Your Word and experience the fullness of life that only You can give.
We rebuke any spirit of division, unforgiveness, or strife in this situation, and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). We trust You, Lord, to work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28).
In Jesus’ precious name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor as you navigate this season. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and hold you accountable to God’s Word. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). He is faithful, and He will direct your paths.
Now, regarding your request, we lift up your ex-husband and your desire for reconciliation and employment. Scripture calls us to pray for those who have wronged us and to seek peace (Matthew 5:44). However, we must also examine the nature of this relationship in light of God’s Word. The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman (Matthew 19:4-6), and while divorce is permitted in cases of adultery or abandonment (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15), it is not God’s ideal. If your divorce was not on biblical grounds, we must humbly repent and seek God’s forgiveness, asking Him to heal and restore what has been broken according to His will.
We also notice the mention of ongoing communication with your ex-husband for four years. While reconciliation is possible (1 Corinthians 7:11), we must guard our hearts against emotional entanglements that do not honor God’s design for marriage. If either of you has remarried, Scripture is clear that you are not free to reconcile with a former spouse (Deuteronomy 24:1-4). If neither of you has remarried, we pray for wisdom and discernment to pursue reconciliation in a way that glorifies God, with godly counsel and accountability.
As for your request for employment, we pray that God would open doors of provision for you according to His will (Philippians 4:19). However, we must also caution against placing our hope in man rather than God (Jeremiah 17:5). If your ex-husband is not a believer, we must be careful not to be unequally yoked in any capacity (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he is a believer, we pray that any employment opportunity would be handled with integrity, fairness, and without compromise.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister and her ex-husband. Lord, we ask that You would soften his heart toward her, not for her will alone, but for Your glory and according to Your perfect plan. Father, we pray for reconciliation if it aligns with Your Word and Your will, but we also surrender this desire to You, trusting that Your ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). If reconciliation is not Your will, we ask that You would heal any lingering wounds and help both of them to move forward in Your peace.
Lord, we also pray for provision. You know this sister’s needs, and we ask that You would open doors of employment that are honoring to You. Provide for her in ways that only You can, and give her faith to trust in Your timing. Help her to seek You first above all else (Matthew 6:33), and guard her heart from bitterness or resentment toward her ex-husband.
Father, we ask that You would draw both of them closer to You. If either of them does not know You as Savior, we pray that they would surrender their lives to Jesus today. Convict their hearts of sin, lead them to repentance, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit. May they walk in obedience to Your Word and experience the fullness of life that only You can give.
We rebuke any spirit of division, unforgiveness, or strife in this situation, and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). We trust You, Lord, to work all things together for good for those who love You and are called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28).
In Jesus’ precious name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian mentor as you navigate this season. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and hold you accountable to God’s Word. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). He is faithful, and He will direct your paths.
We understand the weight you’re carrying right now, losing a job is its own kind of grief, and when the only doorway you can see passes through someone you’ve been estranged from, it’s especially painful. You’re not just asking for provision; you’re asking for a relationship to thaw after a long winter. That takes courage to bring to God, and we’re honored to stand with you in it.
It’s natural to focus on this one hope, but sometimes the pressure of a single outcome keeps us from seeing other doors God may already be opening. While we pray for your ex-husband’s heart to soften, and we will, we’d also gently encourage you to begin exploring other employment options in parallel. Dust off your resume, reach out to a former colleague, or simply take one small, practical step today. That doesn’t mean you’re giving up on your request; it just means you’re making room for God to answer in ways you haven’t imagined yet. Often, getting a little movement going eases the anxiety and helps you think more clearly about what you really need.
We also want to reassure you: your worth isn’t tied to a job title or to how someone from your past sees you. The pain of this season is real, but it doesn’t define where you’re heading.
Let’s pray:
Father, we lift up this sister who is hurting and uncertain. You know the ache of a relationship gone silent and the fear that comes with financial insecurity. Please meet her in this place. Soften her ex-husband’s heart, if it is Your will, and provide for her through whatever means You choose, whether through his company or another opportunity entirely. Give her clarity to see the next step, and steady her spirit with the quiet confidence that You see her, You care, and You are working even now. In Jesus’ name, amen.
It’s natural to focus on this one hope, but sometimes the pressure of a single outcome keeps us from seeing other doors God may already be opening. While we pray for your ex-husband’s heart to soften, and we will, we’d also gently encourage you to begin exploring other employment options in parallel. Dust off your resume, reach out to a former colleague, or simply take one small, practical step today. That doesn’t mean you’re giving up on your request; it just means you’re making room for God to answer in ways you haven’t imagined yet. Often, getting a little movement going eases the anxiety and helps you think more clearly about what you really need.
We also want to reassure you: your worth isn’t tied to a job title or to how someone from your past sees you. The pain of this season is real, but it doesn’t define where you’re heading.
Let’s pray:
Father, we lift up this sister who is hurting and uncertain. You know the ache of a relationship gone silent and the fear that comes with financial insecurity. Please meet her in this place. Soften her ex-husband’s heart, if it is Your will, and provide for her through whatever means You choose, whether through his company or another opportunity entirely. Give her clarity to see the next step, and steady her spirit with the quiet confidence that You see her, You care, and You are working even now. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your chief concern is that a stony heart be softened, yet consider whether your own heart is wholly set upon the Lord. The Eternal God is the Husband of His people, and He makes no divorce; He is ever faithful to the widow and the lonely. When earthly affections fail, He draws near with a love that no husband of flesh can ever match. It is He who takes away the heart of stone and gives a heart of flesh, writing His law upon its softened tablet. Beware lest your heart be divided between trust in Him and hope in an arm of flesh, for a divided heart misses the blessing and proves itself guilty before the all‑seeing God.
The true need is not merely a softened human heart, but a new heart and a right spirit within you. Have you tasted that sweet reconciliation which Christ has accomplished? He was bruised and pierced that you might be healed, and His blood cleanses every wound. The heart that knows the love of God shed abroad by the Holy Spirit can laugh at impossibilities, for it rests not in man’s favour but in the Father’s unfailing care. Bring your brokenness to Jesus, the one Husband of the widow, the Healer of the broken‑hearted, and let Him stanch the bleeding wound. Then, whether your former husband’s heart yields or not, you shall know a peace that the world cannot give nor take away.
I will indeed pray that God, if it pleases Him, will incline this man’s heart toward you, not only for temporal provision but as a door to greater reconciliation. But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness; trust your daily bread to Him who feeds the ravens. A heart right with heaven can endure any earthly lack. May the Lord unite your heart to fear His name, and may you find in Him a Husband who never fails.
The true need is not merely a softened human heart, but a new heart and a right spirit within you. Have you tasted that sweet reconciliation which Christ has accomplished? He was bruised and pierced that you might be healed, and His blood cleanses every wound. The heart that knows the love of God shed abroad by the Holy Spirit can laugh at impossibilities, for it rests not in man’s favour but in the Father’s unfailing care. Bring your brokenness to Jesus, the one Husband of the widow, the Healer of the broken‑hearted, and let Him stanch the bleeding wound. Then, whether your former husband’s heart yields or not, you shall know a peace that the world cannot give nor take away.
I will indeed pray that God, if it pleases Him, will incline this man’s heart toward you, not only for temporal provision but as a door to greater reconciliation. But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness; trust your daily bread to Him who feeds the ravens. A heart right with heaven can endure any earthly lack. May the Lord unite your heart to fear His name, and may you find in Him a Husband who never fails.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
You ask prayer that your ex-husband’s heart may soften, that he might give you employment. Yet consider what ground you stand upon. You have spoken not a word to each other for four years, and now you seek not reconciliation in Christ, but a worldly advantage. The bond of marriage, while the husband lives, is not dissolved; the Law binds the woman to her husband so long as he lives. If you now approach him as an ex-husband and seek to move his heart for your provision, you must first examine your own heart before the Judge who sits within your conscience.
What sort of connection is there between the gift you seek and the state of your soul? Do you desire glory from men, setting your heart on that which comes from a former spouse, rather than from our gracious God? Beware lest you seek to display a need while hiding shame, as the Samaritan woman concealed her circumstances. She came seeking water; Christ bid her call her husband, revealing all things. She did not flee when reproved, but marveled and sought higher doctrines. You, however, ask only for bodily health and wealth from one to whom you were joined, while the impediment of silence and separation remains.
If you truly wish to please and move him, it is not by schemes of employment that you will gain a chaste and regular heart, but by gentleness, meekness, propriety. A profligate you will not restrain by such requests; a sober-minded man you will only cause inward pain, clothing yourself with the reputation of a lover of the world. Trials arise hence, and actions, and countless vexations. Strip off this anxiety for honor and provision from that source. Open the doors of your conscience; behold the judgment that awaits those who seek to shake others for their own ends. Let your prayer rather be that both your hearts be softened unto repentance, lest you fall into a temptation of the devil, who stirs up the weaker sort through such worldly cares.
What sort of connection is there between the gift you seek and the state of your soul? Do you desire glory from men, setting your heart on that which comes from a former spouse, rather than from our gracious God? Beware lest you seek to display a need while hiding shame, as the Samaritan woman concealed her circumstances. She came seeking water; Christ bid her call her husband, revealing all things. She did not flee when reproved, but marveled and sought higher doctrines. You, however, ask only for bodily health and wealth from one to whom you were joined, while the impediment of silence and separation remains.
If you truly wish to please and move him, it is not by schemes of employment that you will gain a chaste and regular heart, but by gentleness, meekness, propriety. A profligate you will not restrain by such requests; a sober-minded man you will only cause inward pain, clothing yourself with the reputation of a lover of the world. Trials arise hence, and actions, and countless vexations. Strip off this anxiety for honor and provision from that source. Open the doors of your conscience; behold the judgment that awaits those who seek to shake others for their own ends. Let your prayer rather be that both your hearts be softened unto repentance, lest you fall into a temptation of the devil, who stirs up the weaker sort through such worldly cares.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.
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