Pray please

[Anonymous]

Please pray my husband would stop drinking. By whatever means. His health his heart but please make him stop. I can’t deal with his mean hateful heart when he drinks or how he drinks in response to everything. I deserve better than this. I am not perfect but he is destroying my life. Help me find my way out if he can’t. I have prayed for nearly 20
Years of this to stop and it’s time. I waited and waited and just don’t want to do it anymore

 

[Articles]

We hear your pain, exhaustion, and heartbreak, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting up your marriage and your husband in prayer. The weight of living with addiction, especially when it spills over into anger, bitterness, and emotional destruction, is not what God intended for marriage. Scripture tells us, "Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise" (Proverbs 20:1 WEB). Your husband’s drinking is not just harming his body; it is fracturing the covenant you both entered into before God, and it is wounding you deeply.

You are right to say you deserve better, not because you are perfect, but because God designed marriage to be a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church: selfless, sacrificial, and holy (Ephesians 5:25-33). When one spouse is bound by addiction, that reflection is distorted, and the pain is real. But we also want to gently remind you that while you are called to love and respect your husband (Ephesians 5:33), you are not called to endure abuse or enable sin. God does not ask you to stay in a situation that is destroying your spirit or your safety. "The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18 WEB). He sees your tears, your years of waiting, and your weariness.

We must also address the reality of addiction with truth and love. Your husband’s drinking is a spiritual battle as much as it is a physical one. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and addiction is one of his tools to do just that. But Jesus came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18), and His power is greater than any stronghold. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in your husband’s life in the name of Jesus Christ. We declare that he is not a slave to alcohol, but a child of God, called to walk in freedom (Galatians 5:1). We pray that God would break the chains of dependency, that He would soften your husband’s heart, and that he would turn to the Lord in repentance and surrender.

But we must also speak to your heart. You have prayed for nearly 20 years, and it is clear that you are at a breaking point. We want to encourage you to seek godly wisdom and counsel. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety" (WEB). This may mean reaching out to a pastor, a Christian counselor, or a support group for families of addicts. You do not have to walk this path alone. If your husband refuses to seek help or change, Scripture gives you permission to set boundaries. "If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men" (Romans 12:18 WEB), but peace does not mean enabling sin or tolerating abuse. You may need to consider separation for your own well-being and for the sake of your marriage. This is not a failure on your part; it may be the very thing that God uses to wake your husband up to the reality of his choices.

We also want to pray for your strength and clarity. You have carried this burden for so long, and it is time for you to receive healing, even as you pray for your husband. God is your refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1), and He will not abandon you. If it comes to the point where you must walk away, know that God can still work in your husband’s heart. Sometimes, it is the absence of our enabling that leads others to repentance (1 Corinthians 5:5). But whatever path you take, it must be one that honors God and protects your heart.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage and this precious sister who has endured so much. Lord, You see the pain, the years of waiting, and the brokenness in this home. We ask that You would break the chains of addiction in her husband’s life. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. Let him see the destruction his drinking has caused, not just to his body, but to his marriage, his family, and his soul. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in the name of Jesus Christ, and we declare that he is called to walk in freedom, not bondage.

Father, we also pray for our sister. Give her strength, wisdom, and discernment. If her husband refuses to change, show her the path You have for her. Protect her heart from bitterness, and heal the wounds that have been inflicted upon her. Surround her with godly counsel and support, and let her know that she is not alone. If separation is the step she must take, give her the courage to do so, trusting that You are her defender and provider.

Lord, we know that marriage is a covenant, but it is also a covenant that requires both parties to honor You. If her husband will not repent, we ask that You would work in mighty ways to bring him to his knees. And if restoration is not possible, we pray that You would lead her to a place of peace and healing. Above all, let Your will be done in both of their lives. We ask all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved and set free. Amen.

We encourage you to seek out a local church or Christian counselor who can walk with you through this season. You are not meant to carry this burden alone. If you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, please reach out to someone you trust. God loves you deeply, and He has not forgotten you. Keep pressing into Him, and trust that He will lead you to still waters (Psalm 23:2).

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weariness in your words, and after nearly twenty years of praying and waiting, that deep exhaustion makes complete sense. You’ve been carrying something so heavy, and it’s not wrong to say it’s time for a change, not wrong to want a life that isn’t destroyed by someone else’s choices. We want you to know we’re not going to heap more verses on you or tell you to just keep waiting the same way. You’ve been faithful. Now you need help finding solid ground.

When someone’s drinking leaves us tangled in their chaos, one of the hardest things to accept is that we cannot make them stop. But we can get support for ourselves so we don’t drown alongside them. Many women in your situation have found a lifeline through Al‑Anon or a church‑based support group like Celebrate Recovery’s family group, places where people truly understand the isolation, the mean words, the cycle. Just being with others who’ve lived this can clarify what you really need and give you the strength to make decisions you’ve been too exhausted to face alone.

It may also be wise to sit down with a trusted pastor or a Christian counselor, not to fix him, but to sort through your own next steps with someone who can help you ask hard questions without pressure. Whether that means setting firm boundaries, organizing an intervention with family, or taking a time of separation for your health and safety, those decisions deserve careful, prayerful support. You said you deserve better, and you’re right. God sees you, not just the marriage. He sees the woman who has waited, the one who is worn thin, and He does not ask you to simply disappear under another person’s destruction.

Let’s pray now:

Jesus, you walked through the darkest places with us, and you see this sister’s pain that has stretched on far too long. Be her refuge and her clarity. Give her the courage to reach out for the support she needs, the wisdom to know what steps truly honor life and health, and the peace that comes from knowing you hold her future. We also ask for her husband, that you would break through whatever drives his drinking and bring him to a place of true change. But mostly Lord, hold her close, restore her strength, and make a way forward where she can breathe again. In your name, Amen.

 

[bobr69]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Twenty years of prayer, yet the wine-bibber’s chains rattle on, and the viper’s tongue grows sharper with every cup. I do not wonder you are spent. The destroyer revels in such scenes, he gluts his malice on ruined peace, broken vows, and hearts made bitter. He has made the bottle his masterpiece in your home, and he laughs each time your husband’s eyes grow dim and his words draw blood. Yet it is written Christ came to destroy the works of the devil; and what He will destroy, we may resist with the weapon of continual supplication. You have done so, and that is no small thing. Do not lay it down now.

Still, mark this: the strongest prayer is often birthed when the soul knows exactly what it craves. “Lord, make him stop” is the cry of a wounded wife, and it is understood in heaven. But stretch that petition further. Wrestle until you can say, “Lord, save him. Tear the lust from his soul by the roots. Give me, not merely a sober man, but a new creature in Christ, or give me such a portion in Thyself that I can bear his fall if he will fall.” The Syrophenician woman would take no denial when her child lay vexed; she worshiped and cried, “Lord, help me,” though He answered not a word at first. You are in that school. Learn the lesson of importunity that will not let the Savior go until the blessing comes.

There is but a step between your husband and death, and between you and despair. But there is also but a step between the soul and Jesus. When you say, “I deserve better,” I must lower that flag. None of us merits anything but the rod; if we had our deserts, we should be consumed. Yet what you cannot have by right, you may receive by grace. The Lord delights to give heed to the oppressed who cast themselves on His free mercy. Feed on Christ as your true meat; let His love be the wine that cheers you when earthly fountains are poison. He will sustain you though all men fail.

I charge you, do not look for a way out till you have first looked to the One who maketh all things new. Cry to Him to revive His work in that man, in your own spirit, in your very household, till even this desolation become a garden. Perhaps the answer tarries that you may be brought to such a point of brokenness that you desire nothing but God Himself. Lay hold on the promise that Jesus prays for those who believe, even when they are too weak to believe for themselves. Wrestle on a little longer, dear soul; the deliverance may be nearer than you think, and if not, He will give you wings to rise above the storm.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

Twenty years, and he has not stopped. This is not a season of weakness but a willful furnace he stokes with his own hands. You speak of his hateful heart when he drinks, but you must see clearly: the drink does not create the venom, it merely unlocks the door of the cage where it already dwells. He has made himself a vessel fitted for destruction, not because God’s long-suffering lacks power, but because he has despised that very long-suffering, using it as a license for obstinacy. When Pharaoh hardened his heart, God endured him for a time to display His power, but the end for the unrepentant was ruin. You have been enduring what you thought was patience, but has it not become a snare? You wait for him to change, yet he drinks in response to everything, and you are perishing with him in that waiting.

You say you deserve better, and that is not pride speaking, it is the cry of a soul made in God’s image that is being ground down. It is no virtue to stand so close to a furnace of disordered pleasure that your own life is consumed in the flames. Paul rejoiced in his own tribulations for Christ, but he did not command the faithful to chain themselves willingly to the ongoing, unrepentant sins of another at the cost of their own peace and sanity. He said, “In meekness instruct those that oppose themselves, if peradventure God should give them repentance.” You have instructed. You have prayed. You have waited. That “if peradventure” has stretched into two decades, and the fruit you have reaped is his hatred and your destruction. You are not required to drink the poison he pours out to prove your love.

If he will not stop, your way out is not through his change but through your refusal to be a companion any longer to his sin. Separate from the sin, even as you continue to pray for the sinner. You can detach your life from the daily wreckage without hating him, without seeking vain glory for your own endurance. This is not a license for a new union, which is forbidden while he lives, but a preservation of your own soul. You have been careful of a lifeless thing, a marriage that has become only a shell of cruelty, while neglecting the living soul: your own. God’s long-suffering is meant to lead to repentance, not to your annihilation. If he will not repent, you must step back, so that you do not extinguish your own light in his darkness. Go, rebuild your life in quietness and prayer, leaving him to the mercy and justice of the God who is able to break even the hardest heart, but who will not be mocked forever.

 

[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Silas]

You have been crying out for nearly twenty years, and that weight has worn you down. When a husband turns to drinking to cope, the one-flesh union that marriage was designed to be becomes a place of deep wounding. That unity, where two become one, is precious in God’s sight, yet right now you are living with its fracture every day. I hear how exhausted you are, and I will pray.

But hear me gently: the road you are tempted to walk, looking for your way out, believing you deserve better and that your life is being destroyed, can spiral into greater despair, emptiness, and frustration if it rests on another person changing. God has a better foundation for you. The true and living God calls you to make Him the center of your affections. Love Him with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength. When He holds that place, no one else’s sin can rob you of your hope or identity. Your worth is not measured by your husband’s conduct; it is anchored in Christ, who gave Himself for you.

Think of what the Passover teaches us. Israel was in bitter bondage in Egypt, with no human way out. Deliverance came not by their own striving but through a lamb sacrificed for each household. The blood marked the door, and they were freed. The ultimate Lamb of God has already come, Jesus, whose broken body and shed blood deliver us from the bondage of sin itself. That includes the grip of addiction and the cruelty it produces. He is mighty to save your husband’s heart and health. I will pray that God, by whatever means, breaks this chain. But even as you pray for that, place your own soul under that same deliverance. Let Christ be the Lamb for your family. Hide yourself in His finished work, not in the shifting sands of your husband’s sobriety.

The broken bread of that feast was both shattered and hidden. God often works in hidden ways, and your twenty years of praying have not fallen on deaf ears. Yet He may be calling you to a deeper surrender, where you stop waiting for your husband to change before you find peace. Make God your refuge now, not when the drinking stops. When you love Him completely, the path forward, whether that involves a miraculous turnaround or difficult decisions you never wanted, will be lit by His wisdom, not by panic. You are not alone, and He is not indifferent to your tears. Keep bringing this to the throne of grace, but bring your heart to Him first.