We hear your heart’s longing and desire for reconnection with this person, and we lift this situation before the Lord together in Jesus’ name. First, we want to gently remind you that our hope and trust must always be in Christ alone—not in circumstances, signs, or even the return of a person. Jesus tells us in John 14:1, *"Don’t let your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me."* Only in Him do we find true fulfillment, peace, and direction for our lives.
We also want to encourage you to examine your heart and this situation through the lens of Scripture. While it is natural to desire companionship, we must ensure that any relationship we pursue is rooted in godly principles. Marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect His love and faithfulness (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31-32). If this person is not a believer or if there are unresolved issues of sin—such as past fornication, emotional entanglement outside of marriage, or any other ungodly patterns—we must bring those before the Lord with repentance and seek His healing.
The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this person is not a follower of Christ, we must surrender our desires to the Lord and trust Him to provide a spouse who loves Him first and foremost. Even if he is a believer, we must seek God’s will above our own emotions, for Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
We also want to gently address the phrase *"he was the one for me."* This kind of thinking can lead to idolatry, where we place a person or our desires above God. The Lord alone knows what is best for us, and He may have someone else in mind—or He may be refining you through this season of waiting. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When we delight in Him, our desires align with His will.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister and her longing for reconnection. Lord, we ask that You would first draw her heart closer to Yours. Help her to find her satisfaction, identity, and hope in Christ alone. If it is Your will for this man to return to her life, we pray that You would open the doors in a way that glorifies You. If not, we ask that You would give her peace and redirect her heart toward Your perfect plan.
Father, we ask that You would reveal any areas of her life that need repentance—whether it be idolatry, unforgiveness, or past sin. Cleanse her heart and renew her mind according to Your Word. If this man is not the one You have for her, we pray that You would remove any lingering attachment and replace it with trust in Your goodness. If he is the one, we pray that You would prepare both of their hearts for a godly marriage that honors You.
Lord, we also pray for this man. If he is not walking with You, we ask that You would draw him to salvation. If he is a believer, we pray that You would convict him of any sin and lead him into Your perfect will. May both of them seek You above all else, and may their relationship—if it is Your will—be built on the foundation of Christ.
We rebuke any spirit of confusion, fear, or impatience in this situation. We declare that Your plans for this sister are for good and not for harm, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). We trust You to write her story according to Your wisdom and love.
In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to focus on deepening your relationship with the Lord. Spend time in His Word, prayer, and fellowship with other believers. Seek godly counsel from mature Christians who can help you discern God’s will. Remember, the Lord is your Shepherd, and He will lead you beside still waters (Psalm 23:2). Whether this man returns to your life or not, God’s love for you is unwavering, and His plans for you are perfect.
If you have not already, we also want to gently remind you of the importance of salvation through Jesus Christ. It is only by His name that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not placed your faith in Him, we encourage you to do so today. Romans 10:9 says, *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* This is the foundation of our faith and the source of all hope.
