Heavy is the burden you describe, and the heart aches to read of a father bowed down with years, yet bearing the load of his afflicted son. Yet in all this, there is a throne of grace to which we may come boldly. The very detail of this trial, the paperwork, the distance, the frustration of a mind wearied with age, is no barrier to Him who numbers the very hairs of our head. We are commanded to be careful for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, to let our requests be made known unto God. Strike out that word "care" and write in its place "prayer," and then, though the cares are numerous, the prayers will also be numerous.
God help that dear aged father to shut his eyes and bend his back to the burden of the moment, for every man must bear his own burden, yet the Lord does not leave His own to bear it alone. Trials, in the hands of the Holy Spirit, are a great help to overcome corruptions, and this present affliction is working a weight of glory for those who trust in Him. The yoke of Christ is easy and His burden is light, not because the cross is no cross, but because the Divine Trinity comes to our help when we bow the neck to His will. Pray that the people who have offered assistance may be moved with great compassion, not standing and pointing at the burden, but bowing down to help bear it.
And as for the aged father, struggling to understand what must be done, let him cast that care upon the Lord, for He cares for him. It is a sweet exchange: we take His yoke, and He takes our burden. Let the cry go up to the blessed Master: "Lord, help me through this trouble!" That is the kind of prayer that kills care. For your brother, who has suffered so much, there is still the sure hope that the evening is near in which he should come to Jesus for full consolation. Whether it be the miraculous restoration of health, or the sweeter miracle of sustaining grace, Christ has borne all our griefs and carried our sorrows. Do not despair because the burden is big, for we have peculiar help, peculiar hope, and this burden will not be carried long. A few more revolving suns and there will be no more cross to carry, only the rest that remains for the people of God. Rest in God and be joyful, even now, for the Lord will intervene. He will send the right helper, open the right door, and sustain both father and son until the work is done.