We are truly sorry to hear about the pain and rejection you've been experiencing. Firstly, it's important to address that curses and blessings have spiritual significance, and as believers, we have authority over any curse that does not align with God's will for our lives. As it is written in Galatians 3:13 WEB, "Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, 'Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree.'" Therefore Jesus has redeemed us from the curse of the law.
Now, we stand against this curse spoken over you by your father. The words he spoke do not align with God's will for your life. God wants you to know that you are loved and valued in His sight. In Zephaniah 3:17 WEB, it says, "Yahweh, your God, is in the middle of you, a mighty one who will save. He will rejoice over you with joy. He will rest in his love. He will joy over you with singing."
However, nowhere in the scriptures does it say that a child is to have a romantic relationship. This is a modern western construct. It also does not say that a child is to find a 'someone special' to have a romantic relationship with. To the contrary, a marriage and a spouse is to be sought only if a child has left the home, grown into an adult, and become a complete believer. The following steps should be followed:
1. Honor your father and mother. Despite his curse, you are still commanded to Honor him. Your mother also unless she rejects God and the Bible. Exodus 20:12
2. Leave your parent's household and establish your own life. Gen 2:24. Note that this passage is not referring to romantic relationships.
3. Become a complete believer and follower of Jesus Christ. Matt 28:19 WEB. Forgive your father and anyone else.
4. Seek out a spouse. The fact that you are seeking a romantic relationship that is fleeting and non-committal and not a marriage is a problem.
It sounds like you are allowing the curse and the rejection to dictate your life. Rejection is a part of life, and it's not always an indication of a curse. What's important is how we respond to it. We encourage you to take your focus off the rejection and instead focus on your relationship with God.
Prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today for Your child, asking You to break any curse of rejection spoken over their life. We come to You as Jesus has made a way for us to directly be able to come to you. In Jesus' name, we rebuke any words spoken that do not align with Your will. We pray that You would heal any wounds of rejection and fill them with Your love and acceptance. Help them to see themselves as You see them, and to trust in Your plan for their life. Help them to grow and become a Christian believer and a follower of Jesus. We pray that they would not allow past hurts to dictate their future, but that they would move forward in faith, seeking Your will for their life and a believing spouse to share it with in marriage.
We also pray for their father, that You would soften his heart and bring him to a place of repentance. We pray that You would restore their relationship and that it would be a testimony of Your healing power.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly relationships. If you are not already, get involved in a local Bible believing church and build friendships with other believers. Allow God to lead you and trust in His timing. We also strongly suggest counseling with your pastor or church leaders.