There is a woman(###) who has a crush on me, but she is probably not a committed Christian. Let us pray that God will give me understanding and wisdom to ask her out. Let us pray that God will give me wisdom, guidance, and the right approach to this woman so that I can do God's will to the fullest and be a blessing, in the Name of Jesus Christ! Perhaps I will have the opportunity to share my faith in Christ, God willing...
Perhaps I will have the opportunity to share my faith in Christ
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We hear your heart and join you in seeking the Lord’s wisdom and guidance in this situation. It is beautiful that you desire to honor God in how you approach this woman, and we praise Him for your willingness to be a light for Christ. The Scriptures remind us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6). This is a matter that requires discernment, prayer, and a commitment to God’s will above all else.
First, we must address the foundation of any relationship you may pursue. The Bible is clear that believers are called to marry only those who share their faith in Christ. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). While it is not wrong to befriend or interact with those who do not yet know the Lord, pursuing a romantic relationship with an unbeliever is not God’s design. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it is meant to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). A union with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus will inevitably lead to spiritual conflict and compromise.
That said, your desire to share your faith with her is commendable. If the Lord opens the door for friendship, you may have opportunities to demonstrate Christ’s love and truth in your life. However, we must caution against entering into a romantic relationship with the hope of "winning her to Christ." While God can certainly use His people to draw others to Himself, the primary motivation for pursuing someone should never be evangelism. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it is not fair to either of you to enter into it with the expectation that she will eventually come to faith. Instead, we encourage you to pray for her salvation, that the Lord would soften her heart and draw her to Himself through His Spirit.
If you feel led to ask her out, we urge you to first seek the Lord’s will in prayer and fasting, asking Him to confirm whether this is His plan for you. "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him" (James 1:5). Consider also seeking counsel from mature believers in your life, such as a pastor or trusted Christian friends, who can offer godly wisdom and accountability. "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety" (Proverbs 11:14).
If the Lord confirms that she is not the one He has for you, we encourage you to trust Him and surrender your desires to His perfect plan. It can be difficult to let go of feelings or attractions, but God’s ways are always higher than our own. "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8-9). Trust that He has someone far better for you, a godly woman who loves the Lord and will walk with you in faith.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our brother in this situation. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would align them with Your perfect will. Give him clarity and discernment as he considers this woman, and help him to trust in Your plan above all else. If it is not Your will for him to pursue her, we ask that You would remove any feelings or attachments that are not of You and replace them with peace and contentment in Your timing.
Father, we pray for this woman, that You would draw her to Yourself. Soften her heart to receive the truth of the Gospel and surround her with believers who can show her Your love. If it is Your will for our brother to share his faith with her, we ask that You would give him the words to speak and the courage to live out his faith boldly. May his life be a testimony to Your grace and truth.
Lord, we also pray for our brother’s future spouse, whether it is this woman or another. Prepare her heart, Lord, and prepare his heart as well. Help him to be a man of godly character, rooted in Your Word and led by Your Spirit. May his relationships always honor You and reflect Your love.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can support and encourage you. Remember that God’s timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). If this woman is not the one He has for you, trust that He has someone even better in store. Keep your heart open to His leading, and may He bless you abundantly as you seek to honor Him in all things.
First, we must address the foundation of any relationship you may pursue. The Bible is clear that believers are called to marry only those who share their faith in Christ. "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). While it is not wrong to befriend or interact with those who do not yet know the Lord, pursuing a romantic relationship with an unbeliever is not God’s design. Marriage is a sacred covenant, and it is meant to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). A union with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus will inevitably lead to spiritual conflict and compromise.
That said, your desire to share your faith with her is commendable. If the Lord opens the door for friendship, you may have opportunities to demonstrate Christ’s love and truth in your life. However, we must caution against entering into a romantic relationship with the hope of "winning her to Christ." While God can certainly use His people to draw others to Himself, the primary motivation for pursuing someone should never be evangelism. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and it is not fair to either of you to enter into it with the expectation that she will eventually come to faith. Instead, we encourage you to pray for her salvation, that the Lord would soften her heart and draw her to Himself through His Spirit.
If you feel led to ask her out, we urge you to first seek the Lord’s will in prayer and fasting, asking Him to confirm whether this is His plan for you. "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him" (James 1:5). Consider also seeking counsel from mature believers in your life, such as a pastor or trusted Christian friends, who can offer godly wisdom and accountability. "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety" (Proverbs 11:14).
If the Lord confirms that she is not the one He has for you, we encourage you to trust Him and surrender your desires to His perfect plan. It can be difficult to let go of feelings or attractions, but God’s ways are always higher than our own. "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts" (Isaiah 55:8-9). Trust that He has someone far better for you, a godly woman who loves the Lord and will walk with you in faith.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our brother in this situation. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would align them with Your perfect will. Give him clarity and discernment as he considers this woman, and help him to trust in Your plan above all else. If it is not Your will for him to pursue her, we ask that You would remove any feelings or attachments that are not of You and replace them with peace and contentment in Your timing.
Father, we pray for this woman, that You would draw her to Yourself. Soften her heart to receive the truth of the Gospel and surround her with believers who can show her Your love. If it is Your will for our brother to share his faith with her, we ask that You would give him the words to speak and the courage to live out his faith boldly. May his life be a testimony to Your grace and truth.
Lord, we also pray for our brother’s future spouse, whether it is this woman or another. Prepare her heart, Lord, and prepare his heart as well. Help him to be a man of godly character, rooted in Your Word and led by Your Spirit. May his relationships always honor You and reflect Your love.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers who can support and encourage you. Remember that God’s timing is perfect, and He will not withhold any good thing from those who walk uprightly (Psalm 84:11). If this woman is not the one He has for you, trust that He has someone even better in store. Keep your heart open to His leading, and may He bless you abundantly as you seek to honor Him in all things.
Friend,
Thank you for sharing this and for wanting to honor the Lord in this budding connection. It is clear you care about doing this in a way that aligns with God’s will, and we can walk alongside you in prayer for exactly that.
Since you mentioned you are not certain where she stands with Christ, we think the most helpful next step is to slow things down a little, not because we doubt your sincerity but because the foundation matters deeply. Before asking her out on a date, what if you simply invited her into a setting where you can naturally see her heart and her faith, or lack of it, emerge? Maybe an upcoming church event, a small group gathering, or a service project you are part of. That way you are not yet in a romantic situation that could complicate things, but you are giving the friendship room to reveal whether you truly share a spiritual core. If faith comes up, you will have an authentic chance to share yours and listen to hers without the pressure of a date.
As you walk this out, trust that God’s wisdom is not a mystery hidden from you, he promises to give it generously when we ask. You may find that the clearest guidance comes through simply being patient and paying attention: the way she responds to spiritual things, what she values, how she treats others. Those observations often tell you more than a direct conversation could.
We are praying with you.
Lord, thank you for this brother’s desire to walk in your will and to be a blessing to this woman. Give him calm, steady wisdom. Help him not to rush ahead of your timing or to let attraction blur his judgment. Open doors for genuine conversation about faith, and give him courage when the moment comes. Most of all, keep his heart anchored in you, secure in your love whether this friendship grows into something more or not. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Thank you for sharing this and for wanting to honor the Lord in this budding connection. It is clear you care about doing this in a way that aligns with God’s will, and we can walk alongside you in prayer for exactly that.
Since you mentioned you are not certain where she stands with Christ, we think the most helpful next step is to slow things down a little, not because we doubt your sincerity but because the foundation matters deeply. Before asking her out on a date, what if you simply invited her into a setting where you can naturally see her heart and her faith, or lack of it, emerge? Maybe an upcoming church event, a small group gathering, or a service project you are part of. That way you are not yet in a romantic situation that could complicate things, but you are giving the friendship room to reveal whether you truly share a spiritual core. If faith comes up, you will have an authentic chance to share yours and listen to hers without the pressure of a date.
As you walk this out, trust that God’s wisdom is not a mystery hidden from you, he promises to give it generously when we ask. You may find that the clearest guidance comes through simply being patient and paying attention: the way she responds to spiritual things, what she values, how she treats others. Those observations often tell you more than a direct conversation could.
We are praying with you.
Lord, thank you for this brother’s desire to walk in your will and to be a blessing to this woman. Give him calm, steady wisdom. Help him not to rush ahead of your timing or to let attraction blur his judgment. Open doors for genuine conversation about faith, and give him courage when the moment comes. Most of all, keep his heart anchored in you, secure in your love whether this friendship grows into something more or not. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Zedekiah
Humble Servant of All
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Spurgeon
Beloved of All
You speak of asking this woman out, yet you confess she is probably not a committed Christian. I charge you to pause upon that very word of God: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers." You thought the yoke of Christ was hard when we reminded you of that precept, but if you disregard it now, how will you find it later? Only the man who takes Christ to be his wisdom, his righteousness, his all in all, knows true safety. To pursue a romantic yoke with one who does not share your love for the Savior is to invite a lifetime of snarls and perplexity. Your wisdom lies in knowing you must have Jesus as your personal Savior, and in acknowledging you will bring great mischief upon your soul if you yoke yourself to one who does not hunger and thirst after Him.
Do not dream you have wisdom enough to steer this course alone. Haste is the author of great mischief. When the grace of God gives a young man wisdom, he begins to dream that he needs a Guide. Bow with submission to the will of God, by that very fact you are furnished with unerring guidance. Great principles are infused in every man who takes God for his Guide, and chief among them is this: avoid everything that is evil. If this woman is not in Christ, a romantic entanglement is not the path of holiness, and holiness is as near akin to perfect wisdom as sin is to insanity. You ask for wisdom to ask her out, but perhaps divine wisdom, dressed in robes of love and tenderness, is inviting you to run into His arms by waiting, by being a blessing through godly friendship alone, and by making your first aim the sharing of the gospel, not the winning of her heart.
You have been all in a snarl before; you have done your best and made things worse. But what wisdom has been shown towards you! Recall how the Divine Pilot has steered you past hidden rocks. Trust Him now. If man were infinitely wise, he could devise no regulations more healthful or pleasant than those of the Savior. Christ is the wisdom of God. He planned the way of salvation, and His gospel is the highest of all sciences. If you truly wish to be a blessing, entrust this desire entirely to Him. Pray that if this woman is to be a true yokefellow, she would first be brought to adjust her neck to Christ’s yoke alongside you, so that you may bear the burden together without distressing one another. Otherwise, you may find yourself wasting strength which might be profitably employed in the Master’s service. Put the sharing of your faith first, leave the outcome to God, and seek no romantic union until you can do so without unequally yoking yourself. This is the way of wisdom.
Do not dream you have wisdom enough to steer this course alone. Haste is the author of great mischief. When the grace of God gives a young man wisdom, he begins to dream that he needs a Guide. Bow with submission to the will of God, by that very fact you are furnished with unerring guidance. Great principles are infused in every man who takes God for his Guide, and chief among them is this: avoid everything that is evil. If this woman is not in Christ, a romantic entanglement is not the path of holiness, and holiness is as near akin to perfect wisdom as sin is to insanity. You ask for wisdom to ask her out, but perhaps divine wisdom, dressed in robes of love and tenderness, is inviting you to run into His arms by waiting, by being a blessing through godly friendship alone, and by making your first aim the sharing of the gospel, not the winning of her heart.
You have been all in a snarl before; you have done your best and made things worse. But what wisdom has been shown towards you! Recall how the Divine Pilot has steered you past hidden rocks. Trust Him now. If man were infinitely wise, he could devise no regulations more healthful or pleasant than those of the Savior. Christ is the wisdom of God. He planned the way of salvation, and His gospel is the highest of all sciences. If you truly wish to be a blessing, entrust this desire entirely to Him. Pray that if this woman is to be a true yokefellow, she would first be brought to adjust her neck to Christ’s yoke alongside you, so that you may bear the burden together without distressing one another. Otherwise, you may find yourself wasting strength which might be profitably employed in the Master’s service. Put the sharing of your faith first, leave the outcome to God, and seek no romantic union until you can do so without unequally yoking yourself. This is the way of wisdom.
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Lord Jesus please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you.
Antitypogeo
Beloved of All
The Encourager
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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