There is a woman who has a crush on me, but she is probably not a committed Christian. Let us pray that God will give me understanding and wisdom to ask her out. Let us pray that God will give me wisdom, guidance, and the right approach to this woman so that I can do God's will to the fullest and be a blessing, in the Name of Jesus Christ! Perhaps I will have the opportunity to share my faith in Christ, God willing...
Perhaps I will have the opportunity to share my faith in Christ
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We hear your heart’s desire to walk in wisdom and godly discernment as you consider this woman. It is clear you want to honor the Lord in how you proceed, and we join you in seeking His perfect will in this matter. First, let us affirm that your priority to share your faith in Christ is commendable and aligns with Scripture. Jesus commands us in Matthew 28:19-20, "Go and make disciples of all nations... teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you." Your willingness to be a light in this woman’s life is a beautiful reflection of Christ’s love.
However, we must also address the biblical principles surrounding relationships and marriage. Scripture is clear that believers are called to marry fellow believers. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 warns, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness? What agreement has Christ with Belial? Or what portion has a believer with an unbeliever?" This is not a matter of judgment but of protection, both for your spiritual walk and for the potential of a marriage that honors God. While it is possible for someone to come to faith through a relationship, Scripture does not encourage pursuing romantic relationships with the primary goal of evangelism. Instead, we are called to love others as Christ loves us, without placing ourselves in situations where our hearts may be led astray from God’s design.
That said, we recognize your desire to be a witness to this woman. If you feel led to spend time with her in a platonic context, such as friendship, we encourage you to do so with boundaries and prayerful discernment. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Guard your heart carefully, as emotions can often cloud wisdom. If you choose to pursue friendship, let your actions and words consistently point her to Christ, not to yourself. 1 Peter 3:15 instructs, "But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts; and always be ready to give an answer to everyone who asks you a reason concerning the hope that is in you, with humility and fear."
If you feel the Lord leading you to ask her out, we urge you to first seek confirmation through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel. James 1:5 assures us, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." Ask the Lord to reveal His will clearly and to give you the courage to follow it, even if it means walking away from a relationship that does not align with His Word. Remember, God’s plans for you are good, and He desires to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). If this woman is not the one He has for you, trust that He will bring the right godly spouse into your life at the perfect time.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our brother in Christ. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would align them with Your perfect will. Give him clarity and discernment as he considers this woman, and help him to prioritize Your kingdom above all else. If it is Your will for him to pursue a relationship with her, we pray that You would soften her heart to receive the gospel and draw her into a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. If it is not Your will, we ask that You would close the door gently and lead him to the godly spouse You have prepared for him.
Father, we pray that You would guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Help him to walk in purity, both in his thoughts and actions, and to set boundaries that honor You. Give him the courage to follow Your leading, even when it is difficult, and the faith to trust in Your timing. May his life be a testimony of Your love and grace, and may he always seek to glorify You in all that he does.
Lord, we also pray for this woman. If she does not know You, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. Draw her to Jesus, and let her experience the transforming love of Christ. If she is not the one You have for our brother, we ask that You would prepare her heart for the man You have chosen for her.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer and to seek the counsel of mature believers in your life. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Surround yourself with godly men who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). He will direct your paths.
However, we must also address the biblical principles surrounding relationships and marriage. Scripture is clear that believers are called to marry fellow believers. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 warns, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness? What agreement has Christ with Belial? Or what portion has a believer with an unbeliever?" This is not a matter of judgment but of protection, both for your spiritual walk and for the potential of a marriage that honors God. While it is possible for someone to come to faith through a relationship, Scripture does not encourage pursuing romantic relationships with the primary goal of evangelism. Instead, we are called to love others as Christ loves us, without placing ourselves in situations where our hearts may be led astray from God’s design.
That said, we recognize your desire to be a witness to this woman. If you feel led to spend time with her in a platonic context, such as friendship, we encourage you to do so with boundaries and prayerful discernment. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Guard your heart carefully, as emotions can often cloud wisdom. If you choose to pursue friendship, let your actions and words consistently point her to Christ, not to yourself. 1 Peter 3:15 instructs, "But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts; and always be ready to give an answer to everyone who asks you a reason concerning the hope that is in you, with humility and fear."
If you feel the Lord leading you to ask her out, we urge you to first seek confirmation through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel. James 1:5 assures us, "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." Ask the Lord to reveal His will clearly and to give you the courage to follow it, even if it means walking away from a relationship that does not align with His Word. Remember, God’s plans for you are good, and He desires to give you hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). If this woman is not the one He has for you, trust that He will bring the right godly spouse into your life at the perfect time.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and guidance for our brother in Christ. Lord, You know the desires of his heart, and we ask that You would align them with Your perfect will. Give him clarity and discernment as he considers this woman, and help him to prioritize Your kingdom above all else. If it is Your will for him to pursue a relationship with her, we pray that You would soften her heart to receive the gospel and draw her into a saving relationship with Jesus Christ. If it is not Your will, we ask that You would close the door gently and lead him to the godly spouse You have prepared for him.
Father, we pray that You would guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Help him to walk in purity, both in his thoughts and actions, and to set boundaries that honor You. Give him the courage to follow Your leading, even when it is difficult, and the faith to trust in Your timing. May his life be a testimony of Your love and grace, and may he always seek to glorify You in all that he does.
Lord, we also pray for this woman. If she does not know You, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a powerful way. Draw her to Jesus, and let her experience the transforming love of Christ. If she is not the one You have for our brother, we ask that You would prepare her heart for the man You have chosen for her.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer and to seek the counsel of mature believers in your life. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Surround yourself with godly men who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). He will direct your paths.
We can appreciate the careful way you’re approaching this, wanting God’s wisdom before you move, and holding a genuine desire to be a blessing and to share your faith. That speaks well of where your heart is, and we join you in asking for God’s direction here.
Something we’ve seen help in situations like this is slowing down to simply be a genuine, attentive friend first. If she already has a crush on you, she’ll pay attention to how you live, how you treat her, and where your hope comes from. Keeping things unhurried protects you both and gives space to see whether she has a living faith or just a comfortable openness to the idea of one. It also gives you time to honestly ask yourself whether you could genuinely lead her spiritually if things grew deeper, or whether, right now, you’d be pulled in different directions. Sometimes the most faithful first step isn’t a formal date but simply getting to know her in group settings and natural conversations, watching how she responds to the things that matter most to you.
We’re praying with you for that wisdom, for clarity about timing, and for the courage to keep Christ first no matter how the relationship unfolds. And we’re praying that whether through you or through someone else, she would come to know Him in a real and transforming way.
Lord, give our brother a calm and discerning heart. Guard him from rushing ahead of You or settling for less than Your best. Give him genuine care for this woman’s soul, and let his kindness and integrity point her toward You. Open doors for honest conversation, and give him the courage to walk the path that honors You, whatever that looks like. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Something we’ve seen help in situations like this is slowing down to simply be a genuine, attentive friend first. If she already has a crush on you, she’ll pay attention to how you live, how you treat her, and where your hope comes from. Keeping things unhurried protects you both and gives space to see whether she has a living faith or just a comfortable openness to the idea of one. It also gives you time to honestly ask yourself whether you could genuinely lead her spiritually if things grew deeper, or whether, right now, you’d be pulled in different directions. Sometimes the most faithful first step isn’t a formal date but simply getting to know her in group settings and natural conversations, watching how she responds to the things that matter most to you.
We’re praying with you for that wisdom, for clarity about timing, and for the courage to keep Christ first no matter how the relationship unfolds. And we’re praying that whether through you or through someone else, she would come to know Him in a real and transforming way.
Lord, give our brother a calm and discerning heart. Guard him from rushing ahead of You or settling for less than Your best. Give him genuine care for this woman’s soul, and let his kindness and integrity point her toward You. Open doors for honest conversation, and give him the courage to walk the path that honors You, whatever that looks like. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Father, please meet deepest spiritual, physical, emotional, financial needs according to Your Will and timing in Jesus Name Amen
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Lord Jesus please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
It fills me with great concern to hear such a request, for it smells of the old serpent's craft. You speak of asking a woman, who is probably no committed follower of Christ, to be your companion, and you cloak it under a desire to share your faith. Beware, lest you deceive your own soul! What saith the Scripture? "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers." You think to yoke yourself with one who knows not the Lord, and yet hope to do God's will? That is a delusion of the carnal heart. You would harness an ox and an ass together; you would bind a living saint to a soul dead in trespasses and sins, and then pray for God's blessing upon it? God forbid! The love of Christ constraineth us to walk by a higher rule.
Examine your own faith. If it be true, it will lead you to hate the very garment spotted by the flesh, not to seek entanglement with the world. You say she has a crush on you; but what is that to a redeemed man whose life is hid with Christ in God? The path of wisdom saith, "Avoid everything that is evil." To enter a romantic attachment with one who is not born again is to set your feet in a way that leads to mischief. You may think yourself strong, but remember the warning: "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners." How can you hope to win that soul if you first surrender your own principle by entering a bond which God forbids? The most earnest missionary spirit does not stoop to unholy alliances to gain a hearing; it preaches the word boldly, but keeps itself unspotted from the world.
Perhaps your faith is but little; I would handle it tenderly. Yet even little faith obeys the precept. It cries, "Lord, bid me come," and waits for His word. If you have a spark of true faith, it will teach you to bow with submission to God's will, not to rush ahead with schemes of your own devising. You ask for wisdom; I answer, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. That wisdom says plainly, "Do not be unequally yoked." You ask for guidance? The infallible Guide has spoken: "Come out from among them, and be ye separate." You cannot take fire into your bosom and not be burned. The woman who would draw your heart away from undivided devotion to Christ is not a blessing, but a snare. What profiteth it to build a house with the devil's tools, though you intend it for a chapel afterwards? The foundation is rotten.
Let me put it practically: You feel an attraction, and you dress it in evangelistic garb. But the heart is deceitful above all things. Would you not better serve her soul by plainly witnessing to Christ as a brother in the Lord, without that peculiar intimacy which kindles a flame that may consume you both? If she be not committed, pray for her, speak the truth in love, but keep the distance of one who belongs to another kingdom. You must not take Christ's name to bless a union which He has forbidden. He is the Bridegroom of your soul; let no earthly affection rival His throne.
So, then, instead of asking God to bless your plan, fall on your knees and cry, "Lord, cleanse me from secret faults; keep back thy servant from presumptuous sins. Show me Thy way, and write Thy law upon my heart." That is the prayer of faith. When you have done so, you will find that taking the yoke of Christ upon you means learning of Him who was separate from sinners. The true way to be a blessing is to walk in holiness, not in compromise. If God intends her salvation, He can use your faithful, pure conversation, without the romantic yoke that would grieve the Spirit. But if you insist on your own path, you may win a companion for a season, yet lose the smile of God and bring leanness into your own soul. I charge you before the Lord, examine yourself whether you be in the faith. True faith works by love, purifies the heart, and overcomes the world. Let it overcome this snare. May the Lord give you wisdom from above, which is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
Examine your own faith. If it be true, it will lead you to hate the very garment spotted by the flesh, not to seek entanglement with the world. You say she has a crush on you; but what is that to a redeemed man whose life is hid with Christ in God? The path of wisdom saith, "Avoid everything that is evil." To enter a romantic attachment with one who is not born again is to set your feet in a way that leads to mischief. You may think yourself strong, but remember the warning: "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners." How can you hope to win that soul if you first surrender your own principle by entering a bond which God forbids? The most earnest missionary spirit does not stoop to unholy alliances to gain a hearing; it preaches the word boldly, but keeps itself unspotted from the world.
Perhaps your faith is but little; I would handle it tenderly. Yet even little faith obeys the precept. It cries, "Lord, bid me come," and waits for His word. If you have a spark of true faith, it will teach you to bow with submission to God's will, not to rush ahead with schemes of your own devising. You ask for wisdom; I answer, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. That wisdom says plainly, "Do not be unequally yoked." You ask for guidance? The infallible Guide has spoken: "Come out from among them, and be ye separate." You cannot take fire into your bosom and not be burned. The woman who would draw your heart away from undivided devotion to Christ is not a blessing, but a snare. What profiteth it to build a house with the devil's tools, though you intend it for a chapel afterwards? The foundation is rotten.
Let me put it practically: You feel an attraction, and you dress it in evangelistic garb. But the heart is deceitful above all things. Would you not better serve her soul by plainly witnessing to Christ as a brother in the Lord, without that peculiar intimacy which kindles a flame that may consume you both? If she be not committed, pray for her, speak the truth in love, but keep the distance of one who belongs to another kingdom. You must not take Christ's name to bless a union which He has forbidden. He is the Bridegroom of your soul; let no earthly affection rival His throne.
So, then, instead of asking God to bless your plan, fall on your knees and cry, "Lord, cleanse me from secret faults; keep back thy servant from presumptuous sins. Show me Thy way, and write Thy law upon my heart." That is the prayer of faith. When you have done so, you will find that taking the yoke of Christ upon you means learning of Him who was separate from sinners. The true way to be a blessing is to walk in holiness, not in compromise. If God intends her salvation, He can use your faithful, pure conversation, without the romantic yoke that would grieve the Spirit. But if you insist on your own path, you may win a companion for a season, yet lose the smile of God and bring leanness into your own soul. I charge you before the Lord, examine yourself whether you be in the faith. True faith works by love, purifies the heart, and overcomes the world. Let it overcome this snare. May the Lord give you wisdom from above, which is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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