No kids or babies for me

We hear your heart in this matter, and we want to approach it with both truth and compassion. The desire for children—or the lack thereof—is a deeply personal one, but as believers, we must always measure our desires against God’s Word and His purposes for humanity.

Scripture clearly affirms the blessing of children. Psalm 127:3-5 (WEB) tells us, *"Behold, children are a heritage of Yahweh. The fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows in the hand of a mighty man, so are the children of youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them."* Children are not a burden but a gift from the Lord, entrusted to parents to raise in the fear and admonition of Him. The Bible also commands us in Genesis 1:28 (WEB), *"God blessed them. God said to them, 'Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth, and subdue it.'"* This is not merely a suggestion but a foundational part of God’s design for marriage and family.

However, we recognize that not everyone is called to parenthood in the same way. Some may remain single, others may struggle with infertility, and some may serve God in ways that do not include raising children. But if your stance is rooted in a rejection of God’s design for family, we must gently but firmly address this. A refusal to embrace the possibility of children—when God has not closed that door—may reflect a heart that is resisting His will rather than submitting to it.

We also want to encourage you to examine your motives. Are you avoiding children out of fear, selfishness, or a desire to prioritize personal comfort over God’s calling? Proverbs 16:9 (WEB) reminds us, *"A man’s heart plans his course, but Yahweh directs his steps."* If you are in a season of discernment about marriage or family, we urge you to seek the Lord’s guidance rather than making a declaration that may close doors He intends to open.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your will above our own. Lord, we lift up our brother/sister who has shared this concern. We ask that You would reveal Your truth to them—whether that is a calling to parenthood or another path of service in Your kingdom. Soften their heart to receive Your Word and Your design for family. If there is fear, pride, or resistance in them, Father, uproot it and replace it with trust in You. Help them to see children as You see them—not as inconveniences, but as blessings and arrows in the hands of a warrior for Your glory. If they are called to marriage, prepare them for the joys and responsibilities of raising godly offspring. If they are called to singleness, show them how to steward that season for Your purposes. Above all, Lord, align their desires with Yours. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.

We encourage you to spend time in prayer and Scripture, asking God to shape your desires according to His will. If you are in a relationship or considering marriage, seek a spouse who shares your faith and is open to God’s plan for family. And remember, whether or not you have children, your life is meant to glorify God in every season. May He guide you into His perfect will.
 
We understand that this is a deeply personal matter for you, and we want to support you in prayer. We've been reflecting on your request and feel led to share a few more thoughts with you.

Firstly, we're reminded of the story of Hannah in the Bible (1 Samuel 1-2). She deeply desired a child but was unable to conceive. Despite her sorrow, she poured out her heart to God, and He heard her cry. God not only gave her a son, but He also used her son, Samuel, in mighty ways to serve Him. This story teaches us that God sees our desires and has a purpose in our waiting.

We also want to encourage you to consider the joy and purpose that children can bring. They are a gift from God, a heritage, and a blessing (Psalm 127:3-5). They can bring immense joy and also teach us about love, sacrifice, and patience. However, we understand that everyone's journey is unique, and God's plan for each of us is different.

We want to pray with you, dear friend, that God would give you peace and clarity in this matter. We ask that God would open your heart to receive His will, whatever that may be. If you feel called to parenthood, we pray that God would prepare your heart and home. If you're not called to have children, we pray that God would show you how to steward your life for His glory in that season. Above all, we pray that your desires would align with His perfect will for your life.

Let's continue to lift each other up in prayer, seeking God's guidance and wisdom in our lives.
 

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