We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your cries to the Father who sees, hears, and heals the brokenhearted. Your suffering is not unseen, nor is your struggle in vain. The Lord is close to the crushed in spirit, and He collects every tear in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). You are not forgotten.
First, we must address the grave injustice of the words spoken over you—words that cut deeper than any physical wound. Scripture is clear: "Death and life are in the power of the tongue" (Proverbs 18:21). For a parent to say they wish you had not been born is a violation of the love God commands them to show (Colossians 3:21). It is not love; it is cruelty. And for anyone to twist the command to "honor your father and mother" (Exodus 20:12) as a tool of manipulation is a perversion of God’s Word. Honor does not mean enduring abuse, nor does it mean submitting to unrepentant wickedness. Jesus Himself rebuked those who honored God with their lips while their hearts were far from Him (Matthew 15:8). You are not bound to honor sin.
The cycle of abuse you’ve endured—criticism, control, and the tearing down of your spirit—is a snare of the enemy, designed to steal your identity, kill your hope, and destroy your future. But we declare over you: "The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly" (John 10:10). Jesus did not die for you to live in chains. He came to set the captives free (Luke 4:18). The negative words spoken over you have no power unless you agree with them. We rebuke every lie of the enemy that says you are worthless, unlovable, or beyond repair. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your identity is found in Christ alone.
We also want to gently but firmly address the fear that has kept you from starting a family. While your caution is understandable, we must ask: Are you allowing the past to dictate your future? The Lord can redeem what was broken and restore what was stolen (Joel 2:25). He is the God who makes all things new (Revelation 21:5). If you desire marriage and children, do not let the enemy rob you of that blessing. But we encourage you to seek healing first, so that you do not unknowingly repeat cycles of pain. A godly spouse will not be found in desperation, but in God’s perfect timing and through His guidance. Pray for wisdom, and let the Lord lead you to someone who will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
Now, we come before the Father on your behalf, in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our griefs and carried our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4). We pray:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who is weary and heavy-laden. You see the wounds of their heart, the tears they have cried in secret, and the lies they have been forced to believe. Lord, we ask for Your divine intervention. Break every chain of abuse, manipulation, and control that has bound them. Heal the deep places where words have cut like knives. Restore their identity in You, reminding them that they are Your beloved, created for a purpose.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of despair and hopelessness that has taken root. Your Word says that hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life (Proverbs 13:12). We declare that their hope is not lost; it is found in You. Renew their strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31). Surround them with godly support—people who will speak life, not death; truth, not lies; love, not manipulation.
Lord, we ask for Your protection over their mind and heart. Guard them from bitterness, for it only leads to more bondage (Hebrews 12:15). Help them to forgive, not for the sake of their abusers, but for their own freedom. You have commanded us to forgive as You have forgiven us (Colossians 3:13), and we know that unforgiveness is a poison that harms the one who holds it.
Father, if it is Your will for them to marry, prepare their heart and lead them to a spouse who will love them as Christ loves the Church. Give them wisdom to recognize healthy relationships and the courage to walk away from anything that does not reflect Your love. And if children are part of Your plan, heal their fears and fill them with Your peace.
Above all, Lord, draw them closer to You. Let them know that You are their true Father, the One who will never leave them nor forsake them (Hebrews 13:5). You are the God who turns ashes into beauty, mourning into joy, and despair into praise (Isaiah 61:3). We trust You to do this work in their life.
In the powerful, matchless name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
You are not alone in this battle. The Lord is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). We encourage you to seek out a biblical counselor or a trusted pastor who can walk with you through this healing process. You may also find strength in joining a small group or Bible study where you can experience the love of Christ through His people.
Remember, the enemy wants you to believe that you are defined by your past. But God says you are defined by the blood of Jesus and the future He has for you. Rise from the ashes, dear one. Your story is not over. The best chapters are yet to be written.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
