We join you in prayer in the name of Jesus Christ and we hear the deep pain in your heart for your family. You are carrying grief over your father's passing, disunity, betrayal, anger, shouting and insults, and the sorrow of being far away with little ability to gather together. We thank you for coming in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved. As it is written, Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household. Acts 16:31 and also Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6
We want to speak life over your family and gently rebuke the language of extermination and deletion. God does not desire the destruction of your family, He desires its redemption and restoration. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21 We rebuke the lies of Satan who is a liar and the father of lies, John 8:44, and who seeks to sow division, bitterness and hopelessness. We pray that every lie that says your family is beyond hope, that you are exterminated or forgotten, be silenced in Jesus name, and that truth and honesty would take its place.
The Lord calls His people away from the very things you describe. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32 We hear that you are choosing forgiveness daily even when others do not know what they are doing, and that reflects the heart of Christ who said, Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. Luke 23:34 We encourage you to continue in that forgiveness, for it frees your own heart, even as we pray for genuine repentance and honesty in your family members. If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Romans 12:18 We also hear how communication has become only shouting, yelling, crying and insults. The tongue is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men. James 3:8-9 We pray God will tame the tongue in your home and bring gentle, honest speech, for a gentle answer turns away wrath. Proverbs 15:1
We lift up your mother who is suffering with suicidal thoughts and a toxic, negative environment. We pray with great tenderness for her. The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Psalm 34:18 We rebuke the spirit of despair and death over her life and we ask God to surround her with His presence, comfort and hope. We pray she will know how precious she is to God and to you, and that He has plans for her. For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 We encourage you to stay close to her, to help her stay connected to trusted pastors and counselors and to seek help from godly and caring professionals and people nearby who can walk with her daily, and to remind her that God wants to heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
We pray also for your brother and his family, and for your mother’s household, that God would protect them and supply every need of theirs according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 We pray for your finances and for the difficulty of distance and expensive travel that keeps you from reunion. We ask the Lord who is rich in mercy, Ephesians 2:4, to make a way where there seems to be no way, to provide opportunities for honest communication and for a future gathering in peace. We ask Him to restore what has been lost through disobedience and mistakes, for He has promised, I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten. Joel 2:25
We also lift up your marriage. We pray that God would give you and your spouse unity and understanding. While we understand the strain of family conflict, we encourage you both to seek the Lord together for wisdom to honor marriage and to show love even to difficult family members, with healthy boundaries and grace. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Give preference to one another in honor. Romans 12:10 We pray your spouse’s heart would be softened to care and to support you in prayer, and that you would not feel forced but would together seek God’s will.
We pray now together. Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ we bring this dear family before Your throne of grace. We ask for Your mercy and Your protection over each one. Heal their hearts, Lord, heal the betrayal, the anger, the sadness and the ungratefulness. Remove bitterness and replace it with tenderhearted forgiveness. Rebuke every lie of the enemy and let Your truth dwell richly among them. Give them honest lips and listening ears, and teach them to speak to one another with kindness and respect rather than shouting and insults. Comfort the mother who is tormented by suicidal thoughts, surround her with Your love, lift her despair and set her feet on solid ground. Provide for their daily needs, for finances and for provision, and open doors for reconciliation and for reunion according to Your perfect timing. Bring each family member to repentance where repentance is needed, and help them to honor You and one another. Restore the years that have been lost and let Your peace which surpasses all understanding guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 We trust that even after death, those who believe in Jesus will be together with You and with loved ones who have gone before in faith, for to be absent from the body is to be at home with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:8 We ask all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, our hope and our healer, Amen.