My ### never listens to me and has mocked me my entire life

[Anonymous]

My dad repeatedly disrespects my boundaries and often says things to put me down and embarrass me in front of others. I’ve given him so many chances to change and he just goes back to the father I grew up with. I’m always being mocked in front of others by him if I speak up for myself. I was treated so badly growing up and made to feel like I was so dumb and I can’t live with this type of behavior anymore. He just made my trip I just went on all about him and I actually hate him right now. I cried after and I just am so angry and hurt. I honestly just want to move far away from him and my mom and never come back. Plus the phrase that he is the man in my life till I get married means nothing to me honestly. I’m not gonna be abused anymore but it’s just so painful

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and frustration in your words, and our hearts ache with you. What you’ve described is not just disrespect, it’s emotional abuse, and no child of God should endure such treatment, especially from a parent. The Bible makes it clear that fathers are called to nurture, protect, and encourage their children, not tear them down. Ephesians 6:4 says, "You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." What your father is doing is the opposite of God’s design, and it is grievous.

You are not wrong to feel anger, righteous anger is a natural response to injustice. Jesus Himself displayed anger when He saw God’s temple being defiled (John 2:13-17). But we must also guard our hearts, lest bitterness take root. Hebrews 12:15 warns, "Looking carefully lest there be any man who falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it." Your desire to distance yourself is understandable, but we urge you to seek the Lord’s wisdom in how to do so in a way that honors Him and protects your heart.

The phrase your father uses, "the man in your life until you get married", is a distortion of God’s order. While Scripture does call for children to honor their parents (Exodus 20:12), it does not grant parents the right to abuse or belittle. Honor does not mean submission to cruelty. You have every right to set boundaries, and if those boundaries are repeatedly violated, distance may be necessary for your well-being. Proverbs 22:24-25 says, "Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger: lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."

We also want to gently address the weight of the word "hate" in your message. While your feelings are valid, Scripture commands us, "If anyone says, 'I love God,' and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who doesn’t love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?" (1 John 4:20). This does not mean you must reconcile with abuse, but it does mean we must surrender our pain to God and ask Him to soften our hearts toward forgiveness, not for your father’s sake, but for yours. Unforgiveness is a heavy burden, and Christ calls us to lay it down (Matthew 6:14-15).

Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:

"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts on behalf of our sister. Lord, You see the pain she has endured, years of mockery, disrespect, and emotional wounds. You are the God who binds up the brokenhearted and sets the captive free (Psalm 147:3). We ask You to heal her heart, Lord. Replace the lies she has believed about herself with Your truth: that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that she is Your beloved child (1 John 3:1), and that her worth is found in You alone.

Father, we pray for wisdom for her as she navigates this relationship. Give her discernment to know when to speak, when to set boundaries, and when to step back. If distance is what she needs to protect her heart, we ask You to make a way for her, Lord. Provide for her needs, surround her with godly community, and let her know she is not alone.

We also pray for her father, Lord. Only You can change a heart. Soften his heart, convict him of his words and actions, and lead him to repentance. If he will not change, we ask You to shield our sister from further harm and give her the strength to release him into Your hands.

Lord, we ask You to guard her heart from bitterness. Help her to forgive, not because what was done was right, but because You have forgiven her so much (Colossians 3:13). Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let her rest in the knowledge that You are her true Father, the One who will never leave her nor forsake her (Deuteronomy 31:6).

We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our pain and carried our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4). Amen."

Friend, we want you to know that your pain matters to God. He sees every tear, hears every cry, and collects them all (Psalm 56:8). You are not alone in this. If possible, seek out a trusted pastor, biblical counselor, or mature believer who can walk with you through this season. You do not have to carry this burden by yourself.

And if you have not yet placed your trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to consider doing so today. The Bible tells us that "if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). Salvation is a free gift, and it is the first step toward true healing and freedom. Jesus is the only One who can fully heal the wounds of your heart and give you the strength to move forward.

You are loved. You are valued. And you are not defined by the words of those who have sought to tear you down. Your identity is found in Christ, and He calls you His own. Hold fast to that truth.

 

[hostadmin]

We can hear the pain in your words, a lifetime of being put down, mocked, and having your feelings dismissed by the one person who should have been your safe place. That kind of repeated emotional wounding cuts deep, and the anger and hurt you are feeling right now are completely understandable. You are not overreacting, and you are not “dumb.” The way your dad has treated you is abusive, and it has left real scars on how you see yourself.

When you’ve given him chance after chance and he keeps returning to the same demeaning patterns, it is wise to recognize that you cannot control his behavior, only your own choices moving forward. That desire to move far away isn’t something to feel guilty about; it is your heart crying out for the safety and peace you have rarely known. Sometimes physical distance is a necessary part of healing, because it gives you space to breathe and to rebuild your sense of dignity without constant attacks.

As you think about your next steps, one concrete action that might help is to seek out a Christian counselor or a pastor trained in family abuse. They can walk with you as you untangle the confusion, learn to set firm boundaries, and grieve the father you deserved but never had. Some of the most helpful support groups for adult children of emotionally abusive parents are led by laypeople and counselors who understand this pain intimately. You do not have to sort through this alone.

Please also remember that forgiving someone, when you are ready, is not the same as letting them keep hurting you. God sees your suffering and calls you to guard your heart, not to endure ongoing mistreatment. Moving toward health might mean limiting contact for a season, and that choice is not unloving.

We are praying you find safe people who will listen without judgment, and that little by little you will rediscover the truth that you are precious in God’s sight, worthy of respect and kindness.

Father, we lift up this hurting daughter to you. Wrap her in your comfort, and give her clear wisdom for what boundaries to set. Surround her with mature believers who can offer steady support and help her heal from the deep wounds her father has caused. Protect her from further emotional harm, and gently restore her sense of worth in Jesus’ name. Amen.

 

[EnricoLange]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[JesusourLordandSavior]

Thank you Heavenly Father for blessing us with another day, and for all you do for all of us. All glory and honor belongs to you Father. Please Heavenly Father soften hearts and heal this relationship. I lift this prayer up on your glory Father God and ask that you grant your perfect will. In Jesus name I pray. Amen



““But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.”

‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭17‬:‭7‬ ‭NIV‬‬

 

[Violetblue]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The bitterness of another's sin against you can eat like acid into the soul, and I do not wonder that you cry out in such anguish. The mockery of a father, the very one who ought to have nourished and cherished you, strikes with a peculiar cruelty. Yet I must press this upon you: the wounds you have received, deep as they are, are not beyond the reach of the Great Physician, nor is the sin in your own heart that now cries out, "I actually hate him right now." There is forgiveness with God for that, even that. O man, let me catch you in my arms and tell you that "there is forgiveness!" However sinful the anger, however justified the hurt may feel, there is forgiveness with God even for you. The hatred which has sprung up in your spirit must be confessed as your own sin before His throne, for while He knows every cruel word that has lashed your soul, He bids you come for cleansing from the bitterness that defiles you.

Yet see how we are called to something higher than mere escape. Even as Christ forgave you, so also do you. What is this forgiveness of Christ? He was much tried, but He was never provoked to wrath. His life of forgiveness was crowned by His dying prayer for His persecutors. He loved His enemies. He lived for His enemies. He died for His enemies. This is the pattern set before you, not to pretend the wrong is nothing, for sin is that bitter fruit of which you have tasted the shame and anguish, but to loose the debtor from your own heart's reckoning. You say you have given so many chances, and he returns to the father you grew up with. So did Christ bear with us, again and again, when we returned to our vomit. The earthly parent may kindly pass over the faults of the prodigal, but our heavenly Father keeps no back reckonings. He retains no reserves of anger. Are we not to be imitators of God as dear children?

I hear the cry, "I just want to move far away and never come back." Distance may spare the flesh, but it will not heal the spirit. The victory is not won by fleeing the field, but by overcoming evil with good. To win it in God's way, with no weapons but love, patience and forgiveness, this is the most glorious of victories! Blessed is that soul which, having been mocked and disrespected, inflicts no wounds in the conflict, but commits itself to Him who judges righteously. You need not trust that man to be your covering or your head in any spiritual sense if his conduct belies the office. Your refuge is in another Man, the wounded Man in glory. Oh, thy wounds, oh Jesus! Thy wounds are the refuge for your trouble. The neglect of an earthly father cannot shut you out from the Father who, for Christ's sake, says, "I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions." Look not to the broken cistern that can hold no water, but to the fountain opened for sin and for uncleanness.

Stand on Calvary in imagination, and look into the wounds of Jesus. There must be forgiveness there, for the Just suffered for the unjust. There is forgiveness for the chief of sinners, and there is grace to enable you to walk in a way that seems impossible to the natural man. The hatred you feel is a debt you cannot pay; bring it to the cross. The sting of every mockery is a burden He invites you to cast upon Him. You cannot change that man; you cannot make his heart tender or his tongue kind. But He who sends the message, "There is forgiveness," can make your heart so free from its own gall that you can stand unshaken, neither returning evil for evil, nor being destroyed in your inner man by another's sin. Go now, and seek not the forgiveness of your father, that may be a long labor, but seek for him the forgiveness that is with God, and for yourself that divine love which, for Christ's sake, has forgiven you and teaches you to forgive.

 

[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

The pain you feel cuts deep, for it is a wound not of the body but of the soul, inflicted by one who should have been a source of protection and love, not of mockery. When a father sets himself up as a constant tearer-down, his tongue becomes a sword, and his words, fiery darts that pierce the heart and linger in the memory. Your anger and desire to flee are born of this long injury, and rightly you recognize that such treatment must not be endured as though it were your lot. God did not create you to be trampled upon; He made you to bear His image, and He calls you now into a healing that the world cannot give.

First, fix your eyes not on the man who has failed you, but on the One who will never mock or abandon you. Do you not know what dignity has been bestowed upon you through Christ? The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs indeed. Let no human voice drown out that divine testimony. When your earthly father belittles you, remember that the eternal Father, who is the Lord and guide of your soul, has spoken a different word over you. Christ took your sins and bore them to the Father that you might be forgiven and adopted; He suffered all indignity that He might make the Lord your true Father. That man may claim to be the man in your life, but the one true guide and master of your heart is Christ. He alone has purchased you with His own blood, and no one else can claim that place. So when the mockery comes, let your inner ear listen instead to the Spirit crying, “Abba, Father,” into your heart.

Yet what of the fire of hatred that burns within you now? I do not diminish the offense; it is real and grievous. But hatred is a prison that locks itself from within. The Lord Jesus did not come to excuse sin, nor to command you to pretend that cruelty is love. He came to heal both the sinned against and, when they will, the sinner. His path for you now is not to suckle the venom of resentment, but to turn your wound into a place where grace might enter. Examine your own soul: you see clearly the filth of another’s wrongdoing, and it disgusts you. Be just as swift to cleanse your own heart from the stain of anger and hate, because the garments of mercy, forbearance, and patience are the weapons with which we overcome evil. You have told yourself you will not be abused anymore, and you are wise to refuse to sit under contempt. Yet the danger is that the abuse you rightly reject might give birth in you to a wound that festers into bitterness, which destroys no one so much as the one who carries it.

Therefore, while you guard your soul from further harm, do the one thing that can set you free from the injury itself: will to forgive. Not because he deserves it, nor because the relationship must continue unchanged, but because the forgiveness of your own sins depends upon this very choice. The Lord has made the way plain: if you forgive those who injure you, your own trespasses are forgiven. Here is the medicine that costs no money, requires no long journey, demands no arduous labor, only the will moved by faith. You cry out that he does not change, that he returns to his old ways. Let that be his burden. Your burden is to refuse to return hatred for hatred, even as you distance yourself for a time, if that is needed for your peace and his potential shame unto repentance. The blessedness spoken by the prophet is not for those who pretend no sin occurred, but for those whose iniquities are forgiven and whose sins are covered. Reach for that blessedness by releasing the debt he owes you into the hands of the righteous Judge.

Consider the Physician of our souls: even in the very hour He was betrayed, He sought the amendment of those who wronged Him. He bore it all that the Scriptures might be fulfilled and that we might have an example. So you, too, endure this trial not passively as a dog that licks its wounds, but actively as one who runs the race with patience, looking to the one Guide. If he mocks you when you speak up for yourself, understand that the world often hates truth; but the word you must cling to is not your own defense, but Christ’s commandment: love your enemies, pray for those who despitefully use you. That prayer will cool the rage inside you far more than distance alone ever could.

Move forward, then, in the dignity of your calling. You are no slave to another’s scorn, for Christ has made you free. If physical separation is prudent for a season, go with a heart that seeks God’s honor, not merely escape. Let your tears be turned into supplication for both your own healing and, astonishing though it seems, for your father’s soul. That is the wisdom that confounds the proud. God Himself will be your shelter, and in the company of His faithful people, you will find the honor that the world and a broken home have withheld. Keep His commandments, listen to His voice alone as your true guide, and trust that as you set your house in order inwardly, the Lord will deal with the outward storms according to His perfect will.