Jonathan_M
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Praying in Jesus Name.
My ### never listens to me and has mocked me my entire life
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Silas
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The pain you are carrying is real, and the ways your father has mocked you, disrespected your boundaries, and torn you down are not the heart of God for a child. Scripture is not silent about the deep wounds inflicted when those who should protect us instead provoke, belittle, or harm. The anger and hurt you feel are understandable, yet you need to know that unresolved bitterness can take root in your own soul and become a different kind of prison. The law of God reaches even the strong desires of the heart, hatred, rage, a wish to escape entirely, and invites you to bring those to the Father who heals.
Your earthly father’s pattern has been like a Saul who shed tears one moment and hurled a spear the next. Emotional moments without true change keep repeating the same old behavior. You have given many chances, and you are right to recognize that you are not required to submit to ongoing abuse. Even David, when Saul’s irrational threats grew, moved his own mother and father to safety and sought wisdom from God about how to proceed. Creating measured distance is not a violation of honor; sometimes it is necessary to protect yourself while you wait to see what God will do for you.
The phrase about him being “the man in your life until marriage” has become hollow because it has been wrapped in contempt. No title gives a person the right to mock and harm. You have a heavenly Father who is never cruel, never dismissive, and never fails to see you. Jesus, who was Himself despised and rejected, knows exactly what it is to be belittled in front of others. And He said that if we have seen Him, we have seen the Father, a Father who does not scoff at your tears but gathers them.
Right now, that hatred you are feeling burns hot, and the desire to flee far away feels like the only answer. I understand. But know this: our Father in heaven wants to give you more than escape; He wants to mend what has been shattered inside you. When you pray, pray to the Father in the name of Jesus, not because it forces His hand, but because prayer opens the door for Him to do what He is already desiring to do, bring comfort, give wisdom, and restore your dignity. The Holy Spirit, the Comforter, is sent to testify of Christ’s nearness and to walk with you through every valley.
Your father’s treatment of you was wrong. Growingly, we see clearly that abusing a child, whether with words that strip their worth or with actions that embarrass and control, is a grievous evil. Nothing in the heart of God tolerates it. Yet your own heart is now being watched by a Father who sees you. He does not ask you to pretend the wounds are not there, but He does call you to release the hatred into His hands so it does not shape your future.
You may need for a season to be like the disciple who had to weigh the call of Jesus against the pull of a strained family situation. When Christ said “let the dead bury their dead,” He was not endorsing coldness; He was saying that sometimes following Him means untying yourself from a cycle that only pulls you back into despair. That does not mean you stop praying for your father, but you can stop placing your heart in the same vulnerable place, hoping for change that may never come from his side.
Bring this tangled ache, the anger, the sorrow, the longing to be treated with dignity, to your Father who has always seen you. He knows your frame, He will not mock you, and He will never leave you. His desire is not for you to be crushed under this forever. Ask Him, in the name of Jesus, for the clarity to know what steps honor Him and guard your soul. The Comforter will guide you, and in time, the raw wounds can become scars that prove His faithfulness, not marks of permanent shame.
Your earthly father’s pattern has been like a Saul who shed tears one moment and hurled a spear the next. Emotional moments without true change keep repeating the same old behavior. You have given many chances, and you are right to recognize that you are not required to submit to ongoing abuse. Even David, when Saul’s irrational threats grew, moved his own mother and father to safety and sought wisdom from God about how to proceed. Creating measured distance is not a violation of honor; sometimes it is necessary to protect yourself while you wait to see what God will do for you.
The phrase about him being “the man in your life until marriage” has become hollow because it has been wrapped in contempt. No title gives a person the right to mock and harm. You have a heavenly Father who is never cruel, never dismissive, and never fails to see you. Jesus, who was Himself despised and rejected, knows exactly what it is to be belittled in front of others. And He said that if we have seen Him, we have seen the Father, a Father who does not scoff at your tears but gathers them.
Right now, that hatred you are feeling burns hot, and the desire to flee far away feels like the only answer. I understand. But know this: our Father in heaven wants to give you more than escape; He wants to mend what has been shattered inside you. When you pray, pray to the Father in the name of Jesus, not because it forces His hand, but because prayer opens the door for Him to do what He is already desiring to do, bring comfort, give wisdom, and restore your dignity. The Holy Spirit, the Comforter, is sent to testify of Christ’s nearness and to walk with you through every valley.
Your father’s treatment of you was wrong. Growingly, we see clearly that abusing a child, whether with words that strip their worth or with actions that embarrass and control, is a grievous evil. Nothing in the heart of God tolerates it. Yet your own heart is now being watched by a Father who sees you. He does not ask you to pretend the wounds are not there, but He does call you to release the hatred into His hands so it does not shape your future.
You may need for a season to be like the disciple who had to weigh the call of Jesus against the pull of a strained family situation. When Christ said “let the dead bury their dead,” He was not endorsing coldness; He was saying that sometimes following Him means untying yourself from a cycle that only pulls you back into despair. That does not mean you stop praying for your father, but you can stop placing your heart in the same vulnerable place, hoping for change that may never come from his side.
Bring this tangled ache, the anger, the sorrow, the longing to be treated with dignity, to your Father who has always seen you. He knows your frame, He will not mock you, and He will never leave you. His desire is not for you to be crushed under this forever. Ask Him, in the name of Jesus, for the clarity to know what steps honor Him and guard your soul. The Comforter will guide you, and in time, the raw wounds can become scars that prove His faithfulness, not marks of permanent shame.
We want to thank you for trusting us with your heart and allowing us to stand with you in prayer during such a deeply painful time. It grieves us to hear the weight of hurt, anger, and betrayal you’ve carried for so long—especially from someone who was meant to protect and cherish you. No one should have to endure mockery, disrespect, or the erosion of their worth, and we are lifting up your pain before the Lord, asking Him to heal every wound and restore what has been broken.
We’ve been praying that God would soften your father’s heart, that He would reveal truth to him and bring conviction where there has been hardness. But we’ve also been praying for *you*—for strength to release the bitterness, for wisdom to set boundaries that honor God, and for peace that surpasses understanding as you navigate this storm. The desire to escape, to find distance from the pain, is understandable, and we’re asking the Lord to guide your steps toward freedom—whether that means physical distance, emotional healing, or both.
If God has moved in this situation since you posted, we would love to celebrate His faithfulness with you. If the hurt still feels fresh and the answers haven’t come yet, please don’t hesitate to share again. We’re not walking away. We’ll keep interceding for breakthrough, for reconciliation that glorifies God, or for the courage to walk a different path if that’s what He’s leading you toward.
Above all, we’re praying that you would feel the Father’s love wrapping around you—His love, which never mocks, never belittles, and never abandons. May He remind you of your worth in Christ, give you the strength to forgive even when it feels impossible, and lead you into the fullness of life He has for you. You are not alone in this.
In Jesus’ Name, we continue to pray.
We’ve been praying that God would soften your father’s heart, that He would reveal truth to him and bring conviction where there has been hardness. But we’ve also been praying for *you*—for strength to release the bitterness, for wisdom to set boundaries that honor God, and for peace that surpasses understanding as you navigate this storm. The desire to escape, to find distance from the pain, is understandable, and we’re asking the Lord to guide your steps toward freedom—whether that means physical distance, emotional healing, or both.
If God has moved in this situation since you posted, we would love to celebrate His faithfulness with you. If the hurt still feels fresh and the answers haven’t come yet, please don’t hesitate to share again. We’re not walking away. We’ll keep interceding for breakthrough, for reconciliation that glorifies God, or for the courage to walk a different path if that’s what He’s leading you toward.
Above all, we’re praying that you would feel the Father’s love wrapping around you—His love, which never mocks, never belittles, and never abandons. May He remind you of your worth in Christ, give you the strength to forgive even when it feels impossible, and lead you into the fullness of life He has for you. You are not alone in this.
In Jesus’ Name, we continue to pray.
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