We hear your cry and we have carried your burden before the Lord with you, for we know how heavy fifteen years of broken sleep and being ignored can be. The lack of rest wears down the body and the spirit, and feeling alone without anyone to stand beside you and without support from others in the building makes it even harder. We want you to know that God sees your affliction and He is near to you in this trial.
The Lord understands the gift of sleep and His desire is to give His beloved rest. As it is written, I will both lay myself down and sleep in peace, for you, Yahweh alone, make me live in safety. Psalm 4:8 and It is vain for you to rise up early, to stay up late, eating the bread of toil, for he gives sleep to his loved ones. Psalm 127:2 We pray that He will restore to you peaceful nights and guard your mind and body when you are deprived and weary.
We also hear your longing for a godly husband who will protect and support you, and this desire is good and honors God. We believe marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman ordained by God, and we pray that if it is His will He will lead you to a faithful Christian man who will love you as Christ loved the church and cherish you and exercise godly authority with gentleness and strength to protect you. As it is written, Whosoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh. Proverbs 18:22 and Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it. Ephesians 5:25 We encourage you to seek a spouse through prayer and through courtship that honors God, with purity and with the goal of marriage to a believer, trusting that the Lord knows the loneliness you feel as a woman who has had to endure so much alone. He has not forgotten you and He Himself is your defender when no man stands beside you. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1 and Casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
Regarding your neighbor, we understand your exhaustion and your plea for the noise to end and for that apartment to be empty or to be filled with a considerate neighbor. We gently encourage you to guard your heart against desiring harm or vengeance, and instead to entrust justice to God while also using the lawful means He has provided. Vengeance belongs to the Lord and we are called to seek peace where we are able. As it is written, If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, Vengeance belongs to me, I will repay, says the Lord. Romans 12:18-19 and also Love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you. Matthew 5:44 This does not mean you must accept ongoing disturbance or disrespect for the house order. God has ordained authorities for the protection of peace and order, Let every soul be in subjection to the higher authorities, for there is no authority except from God. Romans 13:1 Even when others in the building seek only their own profit and will not help, you may still quietly document what happens and humbly appeal to the proper building management or civil authorities who are appointed to uphold order, not to persecute in anger but to seek a lawful and peaceful resolution.
We also must address what you have shared about his behavior, the loud gatherings through the night, the marijuana use for years and the alcohol, the aggressive pacing and the lies when you plead politely. These things dull the conscience and harden the heart toward neighbors and toward God. As it is written, Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit. Ephesians 5:18 and Wine is a mocker and beer is a brawler, whoever is led astray by them is not wise. Proverbs 20:1 We do not condone this conduct and we pray that the Lord will convict him of his need for repentance and bring him to sobriety and to salvation in Christ, for only a changed heart will make him a truly thoughtful neighbor.
We join our faith with yours now and pray together.
Father in heaven, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before Your throne of grace and we lift up our sister to You. Lord, You see her sleepless nights, the trembling walls, the loud music and voices until four in the morning, the exhaustion that keeps her from resting even after seven or eight, and the fifteen years of pleading without being heard. We ask You to be her refuge and her protector where she feels she has no man to stand with her. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 Grant her deep and healing sleep and restore her strength day by day. We ask that You would intervene in the apartment above, either by changing this young man’s heart to bring him to repentance and to consideration for others, or by Your sovereign hand to bring an end to the disturbance and to provide either quiet or a new and thoughtful neighbor who will respect the house order and live peaceably. Move in the hearts of those in authority in the building and in the community to act justly and not merely for profit. Convict this young man of his use of marijuana and alcohol and his selfishness, and draw him to Yourself that he may be saved and transformed. And Father, if it is Your will, we ask that You would in Your time bring to our sister a godly husband, a faithful Christian man who will love her, lead her well, and stand beside her with strength and tenderness all the days of her life. Give her wisdom to know how to speak and when to be silent, grace to forgive and not grow bitter, and endurance to continue to do what is right while she waits on You. We trust that You hear our prayer because we ask in the name of Your Son Jesus, who alone is our access to You and our salvation, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12 We thank You that You are working even now. Amen.
We encourage you to continue to bring every anxiety to the Lord in prayer, to keep a gentle and respectful manner while also not neglecting the proper and lawful channels for help, and to seek fellowship with faithful believers who can stand with you in prayer and give wise counsel. The Lord is close to the weary and He will not forsake you. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6 We are standing with you and trusting God for His peace to fill your home and for His good will to be done in your building and in your future marriage.