My marriage is in trouble. I'm always anxious. I ...

[clsapr26]

My marriage is in trouble. I'm always anxious. I think of life and how happy I'd be if I wasn't married. It causes me to feel guilt and shame. I have two daughters and my husband is an alcoholic. Sometimes I wonder if I'm not doing a good job as a wife for him to behave this way. Sometimes I wonder if I'm not doing a good job as a mother to allow my children be affected by this. It's not about blame, but Lord, show me what I can do on my part. Show me how to be strong and still have joy amidst the struggles and to keep my focus where you would want me to.

 

[Newhoy]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[alijahspal]

I'm lifting you up to Jesus asking He wrap His arms around you and comfort you. May He touch your husband and take the desire to drink away from him. May your family be blessed with the Peace and joy only the Holy Spirit can bring.

Thank you Jesus amen.

 

[Ellan]

If you husband is an alcoholic, you need to get help.  My parents were heavy drinkers and this really affected me in a bad way.  I was the oldest child fell into  the role of the third parent.  My siblings think of me like a parent and not as a sister.  There are programs available for family members called ALANON as well as 12 step programs for alcoholics.  I have learned some about this subject because I read books about it.  A book which may help you is called, John Bradshaw on :The Family, A Revolutionary Way of Self-Discovery.  In this book it describes the characteristics of adult children of alcoholics.  

I would describe my family as loving but dysfunctional.  There was a lot of denial about the alcohol abuse.  My mother tried to go for help when she realized that my father had a drinking problem.  My mother would never admit that she had an addiction to alcohol as well.  My parents were "closet" drinkers and much of the drinking was done in the evening after the younger children went to bed.

Another interesting twist to this story is that I married an adult child of an alcoholic without knowing it.  One of the ways that it has affected both of us is that we don't have as much confidence as we should.  My husband has always been very handsome but he does not think that he is.

Please try to get your husband to go for help.  Many of these programs are free.  There are also places to go for counseling that base the fees on a sliding scale.

I will pray for you and your family.

Ellan

 

[KBriese]

I pray a Touch of God and His Love on you So Strong and Attention-Getting on your part that you throw ALL your other cares and concerns to the wind - then decide to continue to seek His Face, not His Hand, not letting ANYTHING stop you in presenting yourself to Him as you honestly are -moment-by-moment-by-moment - for as long as you are alive. HE says that when THIS is our focus, THEN He pours blessings on us! I pray this for my own self as well. Be Encouraged!!!!!!!!

 

[jeremy3]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[dcrandjr]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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