You have brought your hope before the Lord, and that is the only safe place for any desire of the heart. Many a soul rushes ahead with bold plans, saying, “Today or tomorrow I will do this, and I will get that,” as if the future were a ship they could steer by their own compass. But you have knelt down and whispered, “If You will, Lord.” That is the beginning of wisdom, and it is the posture of a child who trusts her Father’s hand in the dark.
You like this brother, and you have seen in him what you believe to be the marks of a godly man. That is no small thing. And as you have been praying for the Lord’s approval, for more time, for clarity, these are the prayers of a heart that is in earnest and yet does not wish to move one inch beyond her Master’s will. Take comfort in this: the Lord who taught you from your youth, who has made you His own and calls you “beloved” though you were once not beloved, will not play games with your affections. He is not a Father who mocks His children’s whispered hopes. If this desire has been planted in you, He will tend it as He sees best; if it is a mist that must lift, He will lift it gently.
While you wait, remember that before any man ever takes your hand, you already have a Husband in heaven who will never prove unfaithful. It was the Lord who said of old, “I was a Husband unto them.” He led His people with tenderness through the wilderness; He gave Egypt for their ransom; He set His peculiar love upon them, though they were a stiff-necked flock. And He still deals with His own in the same steadfast way. You are not adrift on the sea of chance, but anchored in the heart of Christ. Let that husband-love of God be your peace while you watch and pray. If this man is indeed to be a husband to you one day, his love will be but a faint shadow of that greater love with which Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. That is the pattern, and it is a holy mystery. So your prayer for a home where Jesus is the center is a prayer that touches the deepest things of the Gospel. A union that reflects the tenderness of Christ for His bride, what could be more pleasing to Him?
Keep praying, and keep your heart quiet before Him. The very breath of prayer is the pulse of the new life. “Behold, he prayeth,” was proof enough that Saul was a changed man. So your steadfast coming to the throne is a sign that the Lord is at work in you already. He will teach you as you go. Clarity will not likely come in a single dazzling flash, but like the slow dawning of a morning that grows brighter until the full day. You need not strain your eyes to see the end of the road; it is enough that He sees it. A little child walking through a dark lane does not tremble when she holds her father’s hand. You have placed your hand in His; He will guide you concerning this man, whether he is to be a companion for life or whether a different path is in store. Either way, you will find that the Lord does all things well.
Rest, then, in this: the God who has loved you with an everlasting love has His eye upon this matter. He will neither hurry you blindly into a mistake nor cruelly withhold a good gift out of neglect. Wait on Him with a teachable spirit, and let the peace of Christ rule in your heart while you pray. He will speak in His own time, and you will know.
Lord Jesus, You are the Bridegroom of Your church, and You never fail those who wait for You. Take this dear sister by the hand and lead her in the way everlasting. Grant her a quiet heart, a patient hope, and a wise discernment. If this brother is indeed Your choice for a husband, make it plain as noonday; if not, gently turn her steps and keep her from every snare. Give her more of Yourself in the waiting, and let her life, whether single or wedded, be a Godly house where You are the center, today and always. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
