We have heard your cry concerning your marriage to your husband and we lift you both up together before the Lord in Jesus name. We understand the heaviness you carry with his anger, the gaslighting and blame shifting and manipulation when you argue, and the anxiety and financial pressure that weighs on your peace of mind, and we want to stand with you in prayer and in biblical truth.
Scripture is clear that marriage is a holy covenant where two become one flesh and what therefore God has joined together, don't let man tear apart Matthew 19:6. God intends marriage to be lifelong and to reflect Christ's love for His people, and He calls both husband and wife to honor that covenant. For husbands the command is Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them Colossians 3:19 and Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it Ephesians 5:25. Anger that is harsh, controlling, or explosive, and manipulation that twists truth, does not align with this calling. We must gently but firmly rebuke those patterns because they are sin before God. Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil Ephesians 4:26-27 and A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger Proverbs 15:1. Gaslighting and blame shifting are forms of falsehood and deceit, and the Lord calls us to Therefore putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor Ephesians 4:25. A husband is called to dwell with his wife with understanding and honor, and anger and manipulation break that trust and harm the oneness God desires. We pray that your husband will see this, repent, and allow the Holy Spirit to transform his heart and temper, learning self control which is fruit of the Spirit.
We also hear your anxiety and your need for peace of mind. The Lord invites you to cast your cares on Him. In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:6-7 and casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you 1 Peter 5:7. We pray that God will quiet your anxious heart and guard your mind as you trust Him day by day.
Concerning your financial struggles and your husband's work, we pray for God's provision and guidance. My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:19 and Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight Proverbs 3:5-6. Whatever your husband does at work, we pray he will do it heartily as unto the Lord and that God will give him wisdom, integrity, and favor, and that you both will steward what God provides with unity and honesty.
We noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ and we want to lovingly remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved. Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. To simply claim a prayer is not enough without coming through Christ in repentance and faith, believing that He died for our sins and rose again and trusting Him as Lord. If you have not already done so, we encourage you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ for salvation and to pray in His name.
We pray together now, Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this marriage to You. Lord, we ask You to convict and soften this husband's heart, to deliver him from anger, deceit, manipulation and blame shifting, and to teach him to love his wife as Christ loved the church, with gentleness, truth, patience and humility. Heal the wounds caused by harsh words and gaslighting and restore honest and loving communication between them. Lord, we ask You to calm this dear wife's anxiety, to fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding, and to strengthen her to walk in grace and truth while upholding Your design for marriage. Provide for their financial needs according to Your riches, grant wisdom in stewardship, and guide her husband's steps at work that he may act with integrity and diligence before You. Draw them both closer to Jesus, closer to Your Word, and to godly counsel in their local church, that their marriage may be restored and made strong to honor You. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and Savior, amen.
We encourage you both to seek godly, biblical counsel together from a trusted pastor or mature Christian counselors, to commit to regular prayer together and in the Word, and to practice speaking truth in love with patience. God is able to redeem and restore what is broken when hearts turn to Him in humility and obedience.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
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