Marriage problem
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We lift you up before the Lord with deep concern for your marriage, knowing that God’s heart is for unity, love, and mutual respect between a husband and wife. The behavior you describe—controlling finances, anger, verbal abuse, and destructive actions—is not aligned with how Scripture calls a husband to lead. Ephesians 5:25 commands, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her."* A husband’s love should reflect Christ’s sacrificial, patient, and selfless love, not domination or anger.
The anger and outbursts you describe are dangerous and sinful. Proverbs 29:22 warns, *"An angry man stirs up strife, and a wrathful man abounds in sin."* James 1:20 reminds us, *"The anger of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God."* His behavior is not only harmful to you but also dishonoring to God. If his anger has escalated to physical threats or violence, we strongly urge you to seek immediate safety and counsel from trusted believers or authorities. Your well-being matters to God, and you are not called to endure abuse in silence.
As for financial control, Scripture teaches that a husband is to provide and lead with wisdom, but not to dominate or withhold in a way that creates fear or resentment. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* However, this provision should be done in love, not control. Finances in a marriage should be managed with transparency, trust, and mutual agreement, as you are *"heirs together of the grace of life"* (1 Peter 3:7).
We also grieve over the verbal abuse you’re enduring. Colossians 3:8 commands, *"But now you also put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth."* No believer should speak to their spouse in ways that tear down rather than build up. Your husband’s words should reflect the love and encouragement of Christ, not bitterness or cruelty.
Now, let us pray for you and your husband:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the fear, and the brokenness in this home. We ask for Your intervention, Your healing, and Your conviction. Father, soften her husband’s heart and break the spirit of anger and control that has taken root in him. Rebuke the enemy who seeks to destroy this marriage through strife and bitterness. Lord, remind him that his strength is to be used to protect and cherish, not to intimidate or harm.
Grant this wife wisdom, courage, and discernment. If she needs to set boundaries for her safety or seek godly counsel, give her the strength to do so. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses understanding and remind her that she is deeply loved by You. Restore trust, communication, and mutual respect in this marriage. May both of them turn to You in repentance and humility, seeking to honor You in their words and actions.
Father, we pray for reconciliation, but only as it aligns with Your will and Your holiness. If there is unrepentant sin, bring conviction and true change. Let this marriage be a testament to Your redeeming power. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal and restore. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek support from your church leadership or a biblical counselor who can walk with you through this. You are not alone, and God’s desire is for your protection and flourishing. If your husband is unwilling to change, remember that you cannot force his repentance, but you can choose to honor God in your responses and seek His guidance for your steps forward. Stay rooted in prayer, in Scripture, and in the community of believers who can uphold you. May the Lord grant you peace and clarity as you trust in Him.
The anger and outbursts you describe are dangerous and sinful. Proverbs 29:22 warns, *"An angry man stirs up strife, and a wrathful man abounds in sin."* James 1:20 reminds us, *"The anger of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God."* His behavior is not only harmful to you but also dishonoring to God. If his anger has escalated to physical threats or violence, we strongly urge you to seek immediate safety and counsel from trusted believers or authorities. Your well-being matters to God, and you are not called to endure abuse in silence.
As for financial control, Scripture teaches that a husband is to provide and lead with wisdom, but not to dominate or withhold in a way that creates fear or resentment. 1 Timothy 5:8 says, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* However, this provision should be done in love, not control. Finances in a marriage should be managed with transparency, trust, and mutual agreement, as you are *"heirs together of the grace of life"* (1 Peter 3:7).
We also grieve over the verbal abuse you’re enduring. Colossians 3:8 commands, *"But now you also put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth."* No believer should speak to their spouse in ways that tear down rather than build up. Your husband’s words should reflect the love and encouragement of Christ, not bitterness or cruelty.
Now, let us pray for you and your husband:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her marriage. Lord, You see the pain, the fear, and the brokenness in this home. We ask for Your intervention, Your healing, and Your conviction. Father, soften her husband’s heart and break the spirit of anger and control that has taken root in him. Rebuke the enemy who seeks to destroy this marriage through strife and bitterness. Lord, remind him that his strength is to be used to protect and cherish, not to intimidate or harm.
Grant this wife wisdom, courage, and discernment. If she needs to set boundaries for her safety or seek godly counsel, give her the strength to do so. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses understanding and remind her that she is deeply loved by You. Restore trust, communication, and mutual respect in this marriage. May both of them turn to You in repentance and humility, seeking to honor You in their words and actions.
Father, we pray for reconciliation, but only as it aligns with Your will and Your holiness. If there is unrepentant sin, bring conviction and true change. Let this marriage be a testament to Your redeeming power. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal and restore. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to seek support from your church leadership or a biblical counselor who can walk with you through this. You are not alone, and God’s desire is for your protection and flourishing. If your husband is unwilling to change, remember that you cannot force his repentance, but you can choose to honor God in your responses and seek His guidance for your steps forward. Stay rooted in prayer, in Scripture, and in the community of believers who can uphold you. May the Lord grant you peace and clarity as you trust in Him.
We're here for you, sister. We've been praying for you and your husband, asking God to bring healing and understanding to your marriage. We know it's tough, with the controlling behavior, the anger, and the hurtful words. It's not easy, but remember, God sees you, He hears you, and He loves you.
We've been thinking about Ephesians 4:29, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." We're praying that your husband's words will reflect this, that they'll be words of love, encouragement, and respect.
We've also been asking God to help your husband manage finances and hobbies in a way that's fair and considerate, not controlling. We're praying for wisdom for both of you, that you'll be able to communicate openly and honestly, and that you'll both seek to honor God in your actions.
We're here to support you, sister. If you need someone to talk to, to pray with, or if you need help finding a biblical counselor, just let us know. You're not alone in this. We're walking this path with you, and we trust that God will guide and strengthen you every step of the way. Keep holding on to Him, and remember, "God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Let's keep praying for each other, and let's keep trusting in God's love and care for us.
We've been thinking about Ephesians 4:29, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." We're praying that your husband's words will reflect this, that they'll be words of love, encouragement, and respect.
We've also been asking God to help your husband manage finances and hobbies in a way that's fair and considerate, not controlling. We're praying for wisdom for both of you, that you'll be able to communicate openly and honestly, and that you'll both seek to honor God in your actions.
We're here to support you, sister. If you need someone to talk to, to pray with, or if you need help finding a biblical counselor, just let us know. You're not alone in this. We're walking this path with you, and we trust that God will guide and strengthen you every step of the way. Keep holding on to Him, and remember, "God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Let's keep praying for each other, and let's keep trusting in God's love and care for us.
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Praying for this in Jesus Name.
Father, please meet deepest spiritual, physical, emotional, financial needs according to Your Will and timing in Jesus Name Amen
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
The Encourager
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I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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