Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage

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[Nomnac]

With all this being said, I wonder for myself, if I am not to stand. I was divorce from my first wife over ### years ago. I was remarried and again divorce the early part of the year. As I read the book, and became a Christan while going through my divorce. Is it right to stand for the last marriage as I am now. I will not remarry unless it is to my last wife. Or am I to stand for my first marriage. My first wife is remarried. I guess even this is hard to follow. I feel from what I have read, I am to stand as I am new to the Lord.

 

[Scroggymommy5]

It all seems confusing....I would advise you to pray, fast, seek the Lord diligently and ask Him directly what He would have you do. My husband, ###, was married at a very young age for a few months. When we met and married, we had his first marriage annulled in the Catholic Church.....

 

[Scroggymommy5]

We sought The Lord and He led is to have our marriage recognized and blessed in our home church, the Catholic Church. This was many years ago shortly after we married. Since then, our marriage prospered immensely and we have been blessed with ### children....proving our marriage to be fruitful. So I would seek The Lord on this....

 

[faithope]

Nomnac@ " Or am I to stand for my first marriage. My first wife is remarried."



Deuteronomy clearly answers it: “When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, 2 when she has departed from his house, and goes and becomes another man’s wife, 3 if the latter husband detests her and writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house, or if the latter husband dies who took her as his wife, 4 then her former husband who divorced her must not take her back to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that is an abomination before the Lord, and you shall not bring sin on the land which the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance."



Another cross reference to above scripture is found in Jeremiah 3:1



Being in a second marriage and divorced again, and think of going back to the second ex, even she is not remarried to another, I believe that Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18 still applies because of your first wife despite your first ex is already remarried...seek the Lord on this just to confirm with your spirit.



Last but not least, may these verses encourage your walk in Him- Matthew 7:13-14, Psalms 51:6..and with Psalm 51:6, you will be secured as promised in Jude 1:24-25

 

[Scroggymommy5]

I believe the certificate they are speaking of has to do with the period of betrothal....they were allowed to divorce during that period of time if their wife was found to have been unfaithful....if you look up the words in Hebrew they are NOT the same. The translation uses the same word...see what I mean. The Lord has been very clear to me on this!

 

[faithope]

Betrothal is the first major step of the marriage covenant of a practicing Jewish couple. However, during the time of their betrothal, the couple have to be separated for a year AND then come together again. For Joseph's case, he could break up with Mary and even in secret during that one year period without needing a certificate of divorce—Matthew 1:19.

Once the betrothals get back together after a year later, they become one flesh as husband and wife, a married couple, and if they wanna break after they are married, then they need a certificate of divorce—Matthew 19:6 and Mark 10:8-12

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So in Deuteronomy 24:1-4, Jeremiah 3:1, Mark 10:11-12 and Luke 16:18, clearly spells out as divorce in a marriage situation—a one flesh couple and remarriage, not betrothal or 2 individual people or putting her away or even ReBetrothal like Matthew 1:18. If these given scriptures were to do with betrothal as in Matthew 1:18, then they would have quoted them crystal clear, and not just a guessing game to suit our agenda.

Yes, you notice They (God, Jesus and Holy Spirit through Apostle Paul) did NOT say ReBetrothal, partner or fiance/fiancee BUT marriage, divorce, wife/husband and REMARRIAGE—Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18, Romans 8, Romans 7:1-3 and 1 Corin.7:39. Can't get any clearer as all these nouns in these scriptures are to do with marriage, not betrothal.

I have friends who are in their second marriage and I am for that, as I know they were not born again until after their second marriage. There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit—Romans 8.

 

[Scroggymommy5]

I explained it only as it was explained to me by the Holy Spirit. I have NOT shared this to upset anyone, only to bring about thought and eventual understanding. The Holy Spirit was our guide. I explained earlier that my husband was married before for a brief period of a few months when he was ###. They divorced within ### mo. When we met and fell in love we asked our parish priest what we could do to marry in the church. Of course we weren't permitted to. We married in a small chapel with an on fire pastor then sought to have our marriage recognized by the church, after much paperwork and much prayer and even classes, our marriage was finally recognized and blessed. This may NOT be everyone's path and I would NEVER cast judgment on anyone! I am in no way speaking of anyone else's predicament. My husband wasn't saved at the time of his first marriage and neither was she, so that was the reason given on the annulment. This was only to give food for thought. I am led strongly by The Lord to stay single. My husband (in God's eyes) is now remarried to someone and I have been told by The Lord, that their marriage will never be blessed or recognized by Him. Not that my husband really cares, he doesn't anymore. So sadly, I will continue to just stay right where I am until The Lord leads me otherwise. May God Bless You!

 

[faithope]

It is good we do not be judgmental but as a church whereby whom Jesus is coming for, we therefore, need to clearly divide and understand His word correctly...yes, we need to be a church without spot, without wrinkle, blemish free and pure for His second coming.



In other words, Jesus expects us to clean up our wrong doctrine especially in the area of morality and to be totally line up with His word-His standard, not ours.



Examples will be, where some churches

1. do condone gay life style, and even perform gay marriages,

2. agree to perform remarriage weddings despite one of their ex is still alive and

3. fornication(engaged as fiance/e or not, or a one night stand and etcs)



All these acts are done by the BELIEVERS who believe they are born again, who knows the bible pretty well, even can pray such wonderful spirit filled prayers yet live a lifestyle of blatant sin and contrary to His word-obviously not in line with His word, totally off indeed especially when they can twist the scripture to suit their agenda as usual.



That is why His judgement is at the door of His church and His Hand writing is on her wall-1 Peter 4:17 and Daniel 5.



Last but not least, always remember that the Holy Spirit WILL NOT contradict His word, e.g, if He said something very clearly in His word, such as committing adultery is a sin, then it is, despite how we want to cut the pie just to fulfill the motives of our hearts...



...in my many years of church life, I have met a lot of Christians who love to quote "The Lord told me this and that" which usually do not in line up with His word at all, and years later they wonder why they are drifting away from the Lord or some perpetual problems are always in their face where they can't seem to shake it off. I guess breaking the 3rd Commandment (Exodus 20:7) of the Ten Commandments has its consequences



May God bless you too, ###.

 

[papafishin52]

I married young. The marriage was abusive to me and my children, I was eventually abandoned with 3 children. I stayed in a bad situation for a long time b/c I thought I was supposed to. I have come to know that God does not want any of his children to be mistreated or abused. I eventually married again. I had 2 more children. I have felt God approved and blessed the marriage. Marriage, divorce, remarriage...it's something that goes on for generations and will continue as long as people are in this world. I believe this is an individual thing that is between 2 people and God. I believe the most important key to a happy marriage is for 2 people to be evenly yoked. Marriage needs to be entered into seriously. There is no perfect marriage just as there are no 2 perfect humans. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime commitment. But just as God forgives all sin, he forgives divorce too. He hates divorce, it is true, but God hates sin in general. He doesn't keep score of our sins. It is true that we can serve him better if we can focus only on him. But he is a loving God and he knows humans get lonely for companionship.