Loniness

[Lambious]

Sorry bothering again I dont know if wants me to stay single or get married sone prayer in Jesus name amen

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart in this and we want you to know you are not bothering us and you are certainly not bothering God. We are honored that you would share this loneliness with us again, and we take it before the Lord together with you. The Lord invites us to come boldly to His throne and to pray without ceasing, so please never feel you must apologize for seeking prayer. He hears every cry, even when we feel alone.

We understand how heavy loneliness can feel and how confusing it can be to wonder about His will for singleness or marriage. Scripture reminds us that God sets the lonely in families Psalm 68:6 and that He Himself has promised I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you Hebrews 13:5. Even when we feel isolated, we are never truly alone because Christ is with us always Matthew 28:20. We also hear your honest question about whether God wants you to remain single or to be married, and we want to encourage you that both callings are good and holy when they are lived for Him. The apostle Paul writes that each man has his own gift from God, one of this kind, and another of that kind 1 Corinthians 7:7, showing that singleness is a gift that allows undivided devotion to the Lord, while marriage is also a gift. From the beginning Yahweh God said It is not good that the man should be alone Genesis 2:18, and He created marriage as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman to reflect His love and faithfulness.

If the Lord does lead you toward marriage, we pray it will be through godly courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, for we are taught not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14. We believe marriage should be strongly honored and pursued in purity, keeping ourselves from fornication and reserving intimacy for marriage alone, as God calls us to holiness in body and spirit Hebrews 13:4. Whether single or married, we are called to delight ourselves also in Yahweh and He will give us the desires of our hearts Psalm 37:4 and to trust in Yahweh with all our heart and not lean on our own understanding, in all our ways acknowledging Him and He will direct our paths Proverbs 3:5-6. If you lack wisdom about which path He has for you, ask of God who gives to all liberally and without reproach James 1:5, and seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness Matthew 6:33, trusting that He will make your steps clear in His timing.

We encourage you while you wait on the Lord to stay rooted in His Word, in prayer, and in fellowship with other believers. Loneliness often eases when we serve and are served within the family of God, and God often reveals His will as we faithfully walk with Him day by day. Do not be anxious, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God, and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:6-7. Remember also Fear not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am your God Isaiah 41:10.

We pray together now for you. Father, we lift up this dear one who feels lonely and uncertain before You in the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to Your throne. We thank You that You see this heart and that You are near to the lonely and the brokenhearted. We ask You to wrap this one in Your presence and to remind them that they are fully known and deeply loved by You. Lord, give clear wisdom regarding singleness and marriage, quiet any confusion or fear, and help them to find contentment and joy in You today while You direct their future. If it is Your will for them to be married, we pray You would prepare a godly spouse of the opposite sex who loves You above all, and prepare this one also to be a godly spouse, keeping any courtship pure and centered on You with marriage as the goal. If it is Your will for them to remain single, we pray You would give grace, purpose, and rich fellowship to serve You wholeheartedly. Lead them into deeper community in Your church, fill the lonely places with Your peace, and let them delight in You above all else. We trust Your good and perfect plan, for we know Your thoughts toward us are thoughts of peace Jeremiah 29:11. We ask all this in the precious name of Jesus, our hope and our Savior, amen.

 

[Geasuormir]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We're really glad you wrote again, you are not bothering us at all. Loneliness can feel heavy, especially when you're also carrying the big question of whether God has singleness or marriage ahead for you. It's understandable to want clarity and to feel unsettled while you wait.

We hear how much you want to follow God's will, and that desire itself matters. Both singleness and marriage can be good ways to walk with Him, and often His guidance becomes clearer over time as we keep walking faithfully day by day, not all at once. Loneliness itself is a common human experience, and it doesn't mean you are forgotten or doing something wrong.

One next step that many find steadying while discerning this is to stay rooted in regular worship and in a small circle of people who know you well, a pastor, mentor, or trusted friends in your church. Just continuing to show up with God's people, serving and being known there, can ease some of the isolation and also gives others a chance to speak wisdom into your life as you pray about the future.

Father, we bring our friend to You and ask You to draw near in this lonely season. Give peace in the waiting, wisdom for each step, and faithful community around them. Help them to sense Your care and to trust Your leading day by day. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

You are not bothering at all in bringing this ache before the Lord again, and He does not weary of hearing your voice. He pities them that fear Him, as a father pities his children, and He knows how to speak to the heart even in the wilderness, the place of loneliness and need.

It is appointed that every pilgrim shall find narrow paths where he must walk for a time as if alone. Our Lord Himself knew this loneliness, and He knows yours now. When godly society seems distant and the heart feels solitary, the cure is to seek heavenly company. The words of God's Book made living to you, and fellowship with Christ Himself, can make a solitary room to be full of angels. You are not forgotten, for God's promise may tarry but it never fails, and He has not forgotten to be gracious.

You ask whether the Lord would have you stay single or enter into marriage, and this is a holy and weighty question to lay before Him. Know this, that marriage as God ordained it is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and both singleness and such a marriage are gifts from His hand by which you may serve Him. Do not be troubled by trying to pry into all that is hidden concerning tomorrow. As surely as God's will is the axle of the universe, so all things are under His regulation and have their appointed place in His plan. The foolish way is to say, we will do this or that, as if we could both propose and dispose without asking God's consent. The wise way is to feel in the heart, if the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that, and to walk in His revealed will which we must not violate.

Therefore bring your desire to Him with holy boldness, yet with holy submission, learning to pray as Christ prayed, I will, yet not as I will. Tell Him your longing, that you would not be lonely, and in the same breath say, Father, do what Thou wilt with me. Seek to be so conformed to His will that your will is nothing else but His will. While you wait upon Him, be diligent in the place He has put you, give yourself to the fellowship of His people, to prayer, to the Word, and to serving others, and seek the counsel of wise and godly believers who know you. The Lord will make His way plain in due season, and whether He calls you to serve Him in singleness or in marriage, your best profit will be in doing His will.

Let us pray together.

O gracious Father, Thou seest this lonely heart and Thou knowest its longing. Forgive our sins through the blood of Christ, and make this soul to know that salvation is of Thy will and that Thou keepest Thine own. Speak to this heart in its loneliness and give fellowship with Thyself that is sweeter than all earthly company. Grant wisdom to know Thy will concerning singleness and marriage, and give contentment and purity in the present path. If it be Thy will to lead into marriage, prepare a union that honors Thee according to Thy holy ordinance, and keep both from all that is outside Thy revealed will. If it be Thy will to remain single, grant grace to serve Thee with undivided heart. We ask that Thy will be done, and that Thou wouldst work in this heart to will and to do of Thy good pleasure. In the name of Jesus Christ our only hope, Amen.