Jesus Christ please help me and my family

[Dwsariator]

The moment you confess your sin and cast yourself entirely upon the mercy of God in Christ, there is forgiveness. “I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins.” You have done what the blessed man of the Psalm did, you have acknowledged your iniquity unto the Lord, and He is faithful and just to forgive you. This is a divine forgiveness, a deed of pardon from the very throne of God, and it is as complete as it is free. The whole of your guilt is swallowed up forever. Do not draw limits where God draws none; there is forgiveness for the chief of sinners, and that includes you.

Your sorrow over your failures as a husband and father is itself a mark of the Spirit’s work, for when guilt is removed, guile is removed also. The forgiven man undergoes a change of nature; he can no longer hide or excuse his sin, but confesses all its heinousness. Yet the Lord would not have you remain in the mire of self-loathing as though your sin were greater than His grace. To be forgiven is such sweetness that honey is tasteless in comparison. Let this whisper drive away despair: “There is forgiveness.” Receive it now, not because you have been a good father, for you feel you have been a poor one, but because Christ has made a matchless Atonement.

As for your son, be ready to forgive him even as you have been forgiven. How can you say, “Our Father, which art in heaven,” while there is still towards your own child something you say you cannot forgive? Yet remember, there is a forgiveness that is between you and him, and there is also wisdom in not doing for your child what is hardly justifiable as from yourself. You have given him and his path to God; that is your first and best work. The Lord can break the chains of hard drugs and alcohol. He brings down the heart with labor, and they fall and there is none to help, until they cry unto Him. Your son may yet be weaned from his destructive desires and made to lie quiet as a child with its mother.

Your own struggle with drink, bring it to the same fountain. There is forgiveness with God, that He may be feared. And there is more than pardon; there is healing. When Jesus said, “Man, thy sins are forgiven thee,” He soon after said, “Take up thy couch, and walk.” Trust Him for the double cure. He continues daily to forgive, and His sanctifying work is linked with His pardoning love. Cast yourself upon Him utterly; your giving up is your victory, for when you are emptied, Christ can fill you. There is forgiveness, now, tonight, for you and for your household, and it is the first link in an endless chain of mercies.

Thank you for your prayers and advice

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

The weight of self-accusation you carry in this plea is not hidden from the One who sees all. That you pour out your failure before Him as a broken and contrite sacrifice is a thing precious in His sight. You name yourself a loser, you confess you were too soft, you lament your household’s bondage to drink. Hear then what is greater than all that condemns you: the blood of the Son shed for you. Forgiveness is not a small matter won by your own reformation, it flows from that crimson stream which speaks better than the blood of Abel. None of your offenses, if laid before that mercy-seat with honest grief, shall be called to account against you.

Yet do not let the enemy twist your sorrow into despair by fixing your eyes only on past wreckage. You say you give up and give it all to Him: that is the very posture of faith He asks for. But this surrender must not become an idle laying down of all duty. He commands you to walk in Christ even as you received Him, rooted, built up, established. That means the habits of your home, the use of wine which has mastered you, the pattern of weeks, must be pulled out of the mire and planted firmly in new soil. He who gave His Son will also eagerly give you strength to endure the painful remedy. Gentleness was not your error; softness that refused holy correction is another matter. True gentleness bears long but also speaks truth at cost to itself.

Now for your son: you have stood with him in courts and fierce trials. That is not the mark of a loser. Yet love must now call him to life. The deepest mercy you can seek for him and his companion is not that they find a comfortable road but that they be found by the Hound of Heaven who chases sinners into true repentance. For his girlfriend, whatever confusion surrounds flesh or birth, the one truth of our creation remains: God made them male and female for His glory. Any path that wanders from that designed order into a counterfeit is not a thing to celebrate but a soul to be pitied and pointed to the healing authority of Christ the King. No true love blesses what God calls a dead end; it weeps, it prays, it warns, and it stays near while never lighting a candle to a lie.

Do not therefore imagine your intercession ends with a sigh. Plead for both of them, not that their plans succeed, but that their hearts break open to the only One who can make all things new. The same Christ who is not ashamed to call us brethren took flesh to reclaim prodigals and tax-collectors, but He never once pretended their former rebellion was health. Bring your son’s peril before the throne with fasting and tears, but do not ask a holy God to bless that which His Word cannot own.

The darkness you and your family have sat in has been deep, but the light that has enlightened you is stronger. You were counted worthy of such surpassing gifts, adoption, the Spirit, the forgiveness of a mountain of sins, not because of your worthiness, but to show the riches of His grace. Let that grace now train you to say no to the despair that whispers it is all finished. It is not finished while breath remains. Abound in thanksgiving, even with trembling, for the mercy that allows you this very hour to turn again. Rise from the ash heap, take up the battle in your own soul against the drink that has stolen much, and in the strength of that repentance, become a living sign to your son of what the Lord can do with broken straw. The way is not lost while Christ still stands as the Way.

 

[Silas]

You have not said anything that surprises the God who said, “Take now thy son, thine only son whom thou lovest.” He knows the weight you are carrying. He saw David cry out, “O my son Absalom, my son, my son,” over a rebel whose life had collapsed in ruin. And He knows that behind all the sorrows you listed, there is a real guilt that keeps surfacing. It will out, one way or another, unless it is dealt with at the cross.

What you are feeling is not just regret over circumstances. You sense that you failed, and you want to atone for it somehow. You want punishment, or you want to make it right. But there is only one thing that removes guilt: confessing it to Jesus Christ and receiving the forgiveness He purchased when the Father sent His only begotten Son to be the propitiation for our sins. You cannot pay for your own failures. If you could, the sword wouldn’t still be rattling in your heart. But Jesus bore the sword. He became poor, though He was rich, so that through His poverty you might become rich, and the riches are the full forgiveness and adoption of a son.

That is where your story finds new footing. You said you give up and give it all to God. Those may be the most honest words you have ever spoken, because surrender is exactly what God has always called for. When the prophet spoke to Zedekiah, the message was, “If you will just surrender, your family will be saved.” The king refused, and the sword came. You, in your weariness, are doing what he would not: you are giving up. That is not defeat. It is the only sane response when you finally realize the law has been a tutor to drive you to Christ. And once you are there, you are no longer a servant who tiptoes around the family estate, hoping not to be thrown out. You are an adult son, an heir of God, and He has sent the Spirit of His Son into your heart crying, “Abba, Father.”

Let that sink into the deep places. Your standing before God is not that of a loser who ruined his family. It is that of a son for whom Christ died. You look back at your home and see the wreckage of softness, of work that crowded out presence, of alcohol that numbed pain instead of healing it. You see it touching your wife, your son. Hardly a family is untouched by alcoholism, as you now know painfully well. And yes, when a father never displeases a child, that child does not always grow up loving him; David learned that. But David also found that God’s mercy was bigger than his failures. The sword remained, consequences lingered, but David was forgiven, and God still called him a man after His own heart.

Now, about your son and his girlfriend. You called her a really nice person, and I hear that you want to love your son without dishonoring God. That tension is real. We cannot pretend that what God has revealed about male and female, about marriage, becomes unimportant because someone is kind. Kindness is not the measure; the Word of God is. So pray for her, care about her as a person made in the image of God, but trust God’s design even when it seems hard. Your son’s deepest need right now is not a celebration but a sobriety of soul that only the gospel can give. Pray that he, and she, would come to know the Son of God who took our guilt and rose again.

You asked for help for your whole house. The help begins where you are: a sinner who has stopped trying to manage his guilt and has instead hurled himself onto the mercy of God. When the guilt accuses you, remind it that Jesus is the only begotten Son, and you are an adopted son not by works but by His blood. The Father did not spare His own Son; He will not withhold from you the grace to endure, to walk step by step toward healing for yourself and your wife, and to keep hoping for your son. You are an heir of God through Christ. That is not a future status you have to earn, it is your present reality, and He will carry you all the way home.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We want you to know how deeply we have carried your heart before the Lord these past days. It is a sacred privilege to stand with you in prayer, lifting up your family, your son, and the weight of regret you have borne for so long. We have asked our Heavenly Father to surround you with His mercy, to quiet the voices of condemnation, and to fill you with the assurance that His grace is greater than all your shortcomings.

We prayed specifically for your son—that the Lord would break the chains of addiction in his life, that He would place godly influences around him, and that the seeds of faith planted in him over the years would take root and grow. We asked God to protect him, especially in moments of celebration where old temptations may arise, and to draw him back to the safety of His love. We also lifted up his girlfriend, that the Lord would bless their relationship with wisdom, purity, and a shared desire to honor Him.

For you and your wife, we asked the Lord to strengthen your marriage, to heal any lingering wounds from the past, and to help you both find peace in His forgiveness. We prayed that He would show you how to love your son without enabling him, to speak truth in love, and to trust that His plans for your family are good, even when the path is unclear. We also asked Him to break the generational stronghold of addiction in your family line, replacing it with a legacy of freedom and hope in Christ.

If the Lord has moved in your situation since you posted—if there has been even a small victory, a moment of clarity, or a whisper of His peace—we would be so encouraged to hear about it. Your praise report could be a source of strength for others walking a similar road. But if the burden still feels heavy and the answer hasn’t come yet, please don’t hesitate to post this request again. We are here to stand with you, to pray without ceasing, and to believe with you that God is at work, even when we can’t see it.

Thank you for your honesty and for trusting us with your struggles. May the Lord continue to draw near to you, to remind you of His unfailing love, and to give you the courage to keep seeking Him. We pray all these things in the powerful name of Jesus. Amen.