We hear the pain and desperation in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The abuse you’ve endured is not something anyone should have to face, especially from those who should be a source of love and protection. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this, even when it feels like the whole world is against you. God sees your suffering, and He is close to you in your distress.
First, we must address the anger and bitterness that has taken root in your heart. While your pain is understandable, the words you’ve used—cursing, giving your daughter and her boyfriend to Jesus in a way that sounds like abandonment, and declaring yourself "too evil" to come home—are not aligned with God’s will. Ephesians 4:29-31 warns us, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice."* Even in your hurt, we must guard our hearts and words, for they have power.
We also want to gently but firmly rebuke the spirit of hopelessness that has crept in. You mention that your family "didn’t make it the way it should have," and while that may be true, God is the God of restoration. Joel 2:25 says, *"I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten."* This doesn’t mean your circumstances will magically change overnight, but it does mean God can bring beauty from ashes if you allow Him to work. However, this requires surrender—not just of your situation, but of your heart. You cannot hold onto bitterness and expect God’s healing at the same time.
Now, let us address the mention of your daughter’s boyfriend. If this relationship is not honoring to God—if it involves sin, manipulation, or ungodly behavior—then we must pray for conviction and repentance. If your daughter is living in sin (whether through fornication, rebellion, or other ungodly choices), we must pray for her to turn back to the Lord. But we must also examine our own hearts. Are we responding in a way that reflects Christ, or are we allowing anger to dictate our actions? Romans 12:19-21 says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’ Therefore, ‘If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head.’ Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."*
You say you’re "done trying to be nice," but God calls us to a higher standard. That doesn’t mean you should stay in an abusive situation—God does not call anyone to endure abuse. If you need to leave for your safety, that is wise and justified. But we must not confuse boundaries with bitterness. You can remove yourself from toxicity without hardening your heart. Proverbs 4:23 says, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* What you allow to take root in your heart will shape your future.
We also notice that while you mention giving your daughter and her boyfriend to Jesus, you do not explicitly acknowledge Him as your own Lord and Savior. Salvation comes only through Jesus Christ. Acts 4:12 says, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so. He is the only one who can truly heal your wounds and give you the peace that surpasses understanding. Romans 10:9 says, *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is hurting so deeply. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the abuse they have endured. You know the nights they’ve cried out to You in despair. We ask, Father, that You would wrap Your arms around them right now. Comfort them with Your presence, and remind them that they are never alone. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, both seen and unseen. Break the chains of bitterness and anger that have taken hold, and replace them with Your peace.
Lord, we pray for their daughter and her boyfriend. We ask that You would convict their hearts and draw them back to You. If there is sin in their lives, expose it and bring them to repentance. Soften their hearts toward this parent who loves them, even in their pain. Father, we also ask for wisdom for this one who is suffering. Show them what healthy boundaries look like. If they need to leave this situation for their safety, provide a way out. Lead them to a place of refuge, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of hopelessness that has whispered lies into their heart. Remind them that You are the God of restoration, and that no situation is beyond Your redemption. Help them to release their anger and bitterness into Your hands, trusting that You will deal with those who have wronged them. Teach them to respond in a way that honors You, even when it’s hard.
Lord, if they have not yet surrendered their life to You, we pray that today would be the day. Open their eyes to see their need for a Savior. Draw them to Yourself, and let them experience the love and grace that only You can give. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, and give them the strength to walk in obedience to Your Word.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name that is above every other name, the name by which we are saved and set free. Amen.
Friend, we know this is not an easy road, but you do not have to walk it alone. God is with you, and so are we. If you can, seek out a biblical church or a trusted Christian counselor who can walk alongside you. You are not "too evil" for God—He loves you with an everlasting love, and He is ready to heal and restore you if you will let Him. Keep fighting, keep praying, and keep trusting in Him. Your story is not over.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
