Is it okay to end a friendship

I think about this for almost a year now and just don‘t know what I should do.
I have a friend I can‘t handle because she has some mental problems and we also had fights and misunderstandings in the past.
She came to Europe from the US about 2 years ago.Married some-not very nice- guy and struggles with depression here.She doesn‘t work,is not reliable and I don‘t feel comfortable meeting her anymore.She‘s not a bad person and I still have love for her.But I don‘t want drama and insecurity in my life.
I‘m the only friend she has.So I feel responsible.I feel bad that I feel this way,because god doesn‘t reject me either.I feel like I MUST be there for her because Jesus would‘ve done that.
But my bad feelings for her don‘t go away.

 

[natasha2]

Maybe this will help:

 

[Vlee63]

You are a good and loving person. Most would not even consider all that you have concerns about. As far as letting go of a toxic relationship, I do not believe it is wrong and you should not have any guilt about it. Guilt are feelings that do not come from God.

Dear Heavenly Father
I ask that you give MissJ the answers that she needs in this situation. I pray that she is able to make the correct decision in this without any guilt or anxiety about it.
I thank you Father for the generousity of spirit that MissJ has displayed toward this woman. I pray for the healing of this person so that she may be healed of this illness of mind and spirit. Remove the spirit of depression, anger and unreliability from her.
I thank you Father for your love and mercy that all of your children receive that is without bounds.
In Jesus name.
Amen

 

[Ellisworth]

The first thing you should do is this. A. Fast and pray for her. Jesus can deliver her from any problem she would have. B. Be friendly and love other just as Jesus love us. C. Attend church services and invite to join the choir of your church. Singing praises to the Lord will make satan flee from her life.

 

[natasha2]

I have in my spirit it would be very good to read every day some affirmations connected to identity in Christ. Sometimes we stay in wrong relationships because we copy the relationship with our parents or very close siblings. if they were wrong we would subconsciously want to repeat them because we dont know better. We dont know what is love. Love is respect and suport and understanding. I know there is no perfect relationship but if you feel every time after speaking with her bad, or guilt, there is a spirit that diminishes your value in Christ or even manipulates you to stay with that person, and that something is wrong with you and not with her. I know what i am talking about, i had few freinds that had mental problems but the time came when i saw their feal face. People with mental illnesses have mostly problem with pride and rebellion and they dont want to submitt to God. But they are sometimes not guilty for that, because they are simply possessed by demons. So think about that, do you want to have relationship with demons. I am sure you dont want to. But you can still pray and fast for her and spend much less time then before. You may do it slowly so that it is not so hard to you and to her. Bind demons before you speak with her with the blood of Jesus. Couple of prophets say that this is the season (last couple of months) where christians will must get rid of old habits, old people etc. in order to achieve their real purpose in Christ. God has good things in store for you. Think about them. Do you have a dream? God has given you that dream. These are the desires of your heart. Can you take her with you to realize that dream, would she support your dream or would she dragg you down. Think about it....I have ended some relationship only after a long time of suffering because i was not sure, just as you are....so take your time.....God bless you....

 

[natasha2]

Listen to this every day to prevent being confused and to know who you are in Christ and how God loves you. This is what you should pray for from God to give you WHO YOU ARE IN CHRIST and HOW GOD LOVES YOU.

 

[Steven Bobb]

Sounds similar to a situation with one of my customers, who also is a "problem person" for me.I would say ,maybe pray for wisdom to get the balance, she sees where she's being a problem and is divinely helped in her problems ,a nd therefore doesn't need to put the lean on you anymore.Or finds someone else to help her {who doesn't mind}, so you're off the hook.Or just pray for her from a distance, so she gets the help she needs,yet without draining you. Like I say , this reminds me of a person I deal with, who creates her own problems by doing things in a dumb way, then falls on others to bail her out.{And doesn't take advice to get a better way of doing things.} So I can relate to what you're saying.

 

[MissJ]

I have in my spirit it would be very good to read every day some affirmations connected to identity in Christ. Sometimes we stay in wrong relationships because we copy the relationship with our parents or very close siblings. if they were wrong we would subconsciously want to repeat them because we dont know better. We dont know what is love. Love is respect and suport and understanding. I know there is no perfect relationship but if you feel every time after speaking with her bad, or guilt, there is a spirit that diminishes your value in Christ or even manipulates you to stay with that person, and that something is wrong with you and not with her. I know what i am talking about, i had few freinds that had mental problems but the time came when i saw their feal face. People with mental illnesses have mostly problem with pride and rebellion and they dont want to submitt to God. But they are sometimes not guilty for that, because they are simply possessed by demons. So think about that, do you want to have relationship with demons. I am sure you dont want to. But you can still pray and fast for her and spend much less time then before. You may do it slowly so that it is not so hard to you and to her. Bind demons before you speak with her with the blood of Jesus. Couple of prophets say that this is the season (last couple of months) where christians will must get rid of old habits, old people etc. in order to achieve their real purpose in Christ. God has good things in store for you. Think about them. Do you have a dream? God has given you that dream. These are the desires of your heart. Can you take her with you to realize that dream, would she support your dream or would she dragg you down. Think about it....I have ended some relationship only after a long time of suffering because i was not sure, just as you are....so take your time.....God bless you....

Thank you very much for taking the time to write to me. She has some kind of Autism and this itself is a challenge to me.There are many reasons why I don‘t feel comfortable anymore.It‘s always chaotic with her.No stability.
One of the main reasons why I feel the way I do is, that she needed time and I gave it to her.Then she wanted to meet up abd I had plans.She was holding that against me.( she says she never did-but said that she had to wait for me) So basically I was waiting for her a few other times and was very worried how she might feel.Just to found out that she went out with other people.So that made me feel like that I need distance.There are so many things which do not work out for me.BUT: she is a hurt lost soul.And has a good heart.
I don‘t say I never want to see her again.But I don‘t feel like best friends anymore.

 

[MissJ]

Sounds similar to a situation with one of my customers, who also is a "problem person" for me.I would say ,maybe pray for wisdom to get the balance, she sees where she's being a problem and is divinely helped in her problems ,a nd therefore doesn't need to put the lean on you anymore.Or finds someone else to help her {who doesn't mind}, so you're off the hook.Or just pray for her from a distance, so she gets the help she needs,yet without draining you. Like I say , this reminds me of a person I deal with, who creates her own problems by doing things in a dumb way, then falls on others to bail her out.{And doesn't take advice to get a better way of doing things.} So I can relate to what you're saying.

Thank you very much for writing me your thoughts.
She already goes to therapy and seeks help.She also said that she doesn‘t want to be a burden to me. We don‘t see eachother very often ( no more). But I still feel like it doesn‘t „ match“ anymore.She would text me to meet up and I feel like I don‘t want that.
I said more about that in my post to natasha.
She feels no one likes her.All of her friends left her.She is Autistic ( light kind). Her lifestyle is much different from mine.We had a nice time s while ago and I tried to accept her but a lot of things happened since then.
She drank too much,smoked and there was always drama.
And that gives me Anxiety.
I don‘t want to tell her to leave my life.But I also don‘t feel like meeting up.That might sound weird...but that‘s how I feel for more than 1 year now.

 

[HMC1957]