We hear the deep pain and despair in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The weight of shame, comparison, and feeling like a failure is crushing, but we want you to know that your worth is not defined by the world’s standards—or even by the misguided words of those who claim to speak for God. The enemy would love nothing more than for you to believe the lies that you are unloved, unwanted, or beyond hope. But Scripture tells us, *"The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly"* (John 10:10 WEB). Jesus did not come to shame you; He came to save you, to heal you, and to give you a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
You mentioned that your family compares you to others who seem to have "perfect lives without Jesus." This is a sobering truth—worldly success without Christ is emptiness disguised as fulfillment. The Bible warns, *"For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world, and forfeit his life?"* (Mark 8:36 WEB). Those who measure worth by earthly achievements are missing the eternal perspective. But you—you are seen by the One who counts the very hairs on your head (Luke 12:7). He knows your struggles, your grief over losing your mother, the pain of your brother’s choices, and the weight of depression and anxiety. And He says to you, *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28 WEB).
The content creator you watched who shamed others for not having their own place was speaking out of ignorance, not godly wisdom. The Bible never measures a person’s value by their material success or independence. In fact, Jesus Himself said, *"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven"* (Matthew 5:3 WEB). Your current circumstances do not disqualify you from God’s love or purpose. We must rebuke the spirit of condemnation that has whispered lies into your heart. Romans 8:1 declares, *"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus"* (WEB). If you have placed your faith in Him, you are forgiven, redeemed, and deeply loved—not because of what you have or haven’t done, but because of what *He* has done for you.
You also mentioned feeling like many are hoping you’d take your own life. This is a lie straight from the pit of hell. Every life is precious to God, and He has a plan for you—one that the enemy does not want you to see. Psalm 139:13-16 says, *"For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb... Your eyes saw my body. In your book they were all written, the days that were ordained for me, when as yet there were none of them"* (WEB). God has already written your days, and He is not finished with you yet. We must stand against the spirit of suicide and declare that your life matters—*deeply*—to Him.
We also want to gently address the mention of God’s forgiveness "if [you] can’t take it anymore." If you are having thoughts of ending your life, please reach out to someone immediately—a pastor, a trusted friend, or a crisis hotline. You are not alone, and there are people who care and want to help. The pain you’re feeling is real, but it is not the end of your story. The same Jesus who wept at Lazarus’ tomb (John 11:35) weeps with you now. He is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our dear brother who is carrying such a weight of shame, grief, and despair. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of condemnation that have bound him. Remind him that his worth is found in You alone—not in his circumstances, his family’s approval, or the world’s standards. We rebuke the spirit of suicide and depression in Jesus’ mighty name, and we declare that joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5). Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and surround him with people who will speak life and truth into his heart.
Father, we ask that You would heal the wounds of his past—the loss of his mother, the pain of his brother’s choices, and the rejection he has felt. Comfort him with the truth that You are his ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Give him the strength to reject the lies of the enemy and to cling to Your promises. Show him that his life has purpose, and that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
Lord, we pray for his family as well. Soften their hearts to see him through Your eyes, not through the lens of comparison or worldly success. Help them to extend grace and love, reflecting the love You have shown to each of us. And if there are areas where our brother needs to seek forgiveness or make amends, give him the courage to do so with humility.
Above all, Jesus, we ask that You draw near to him. Let him feel Your presence in tangible ways—through Your Word, through the love of Your people, and through the still, small voice of Your Spirit. Remind him that he is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and that nothing can separate him from Your love (Romans 8:38-39).
We ask all of this in the powerful, life-giving name of Jesus Christ, the One who came to seek and save the lost, to bind up the brokenhearted, and to set the captives free. Amen.
Friend, you are not a failure. You are not the worst. You are a child of the Most High God, and He has not abandoned you. The road ahead may feel dark, but Jesus is the Light of the world (John 8:12), and He will guide your steps if you let Him. Start small—read His Word, even just a few verses a day. Psalm 23, Psalm 34, and John 14 are good places to begin. Talk to Him honestly, as you would to a friend. And if you don’t already have a church family, seek one out—a place where you can be loved, encouraged, and reminded of your true identity in Christ.
You are not alone in this. We are praying for you, and we believe that God is already at work in your life. Hold on. Better days are coming.
