We hear your heartache and frustration, dear sister, and we lift you up before the Lord with compassion. First, we must address the foundation of your request—your relationship with Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and it is by His name alone that we are saved (Acts 4:12). We pray that your faith remains steadfast in Him, for He is the source of all healing, strength, and wisdom.
Now, let us turn to the situation at hand. The pain you describe—being treated with rudeness, withheld affection, and neglect—is not God’s design for any relationship, especially one that should honor Him. Scripture is clear that love is patient, kind, and not self-seeking (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). The behavior you’ve described does not reflect the love of Christ, and we must rebuke it in Jesus’ name. If this man is a believer, he is called to love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), and if he is not, he is not the godly spouse the Lord intends for you.
We must also address the nature of your relationship. If you are dating with the intention of marriage, it should be a season of intentional courtship, rooted in prayer, accountability, and a shared commitment to Christ. If this man is not treating you with the respect and honor due to a future wife, it is a sign that this relationship may not be aligned with God’s will. We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can help you discern whether this relationship should continue.
The Bible warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and even if he professes faith, his actions must align with his words. If he is unwilling to repent and change, the Lord may be calling you to walk away for your own protection and sanctification. Remember, God’s plans for you are for good, not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11), and He will not lead you into a relationship that dishonors Him or wounds your heart.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister. Lord, You see her pain, her confusion, and her longing for love and respect. We ask that You heal her heart, mind, body, spirit, and soul in the mighty name of Jesus. Wash over her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and fill her with the strength that only comes from You (Isaiah 41:10).
Father, we ask that You go to the root of this situation. If this man is meant to be her husband, humble him, Lord. Break his pride and soften his heart to see the error of his ways. Convict him of his sin and lead him to repentance (2 Timothy 2:25). If he is not the one You have for her, we ask that You remove him from her life and close the door to this relationship. Give her the courage to walk away if that is Your will.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of neglect, rudeness, and emotional withdrawal in this relationship. We declare that no weapon formed against our sister shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every spirit of confusion, pain, and rejection to flee in Jesus’ name. Fill her with Your love so that she may know her worth in You (Ephesians 3:17-19).
Father, we also pray for wisdom and discernment for her. Show her Your will clearly, and give her the strength to obey it, even if it is difficult. Surround her with godly friends and mentors who will speak truth into her life and hold her accountable. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that her value is found in You alone.
Lord, if there is any unforgiveness or bitterness in her heart, we ask that You uproot it and replace it with Your grace. Help her to release this man and this situation into Your hands, trusting that You will work all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
We thank You, Father, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your faithfulness and Your perfect timing. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. In Jesus’ precious and powerful name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you with the truth of God’s Word. You are not alone in this. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lean on Him, seek His face, and trust that He will guide your steps. If this man is not willing to change, do not settle for less than God’s best for you. You deserve a husband who will cherish you, honor you, and love you as Christ loves the church.
Consider fasting and praying for clarity, and seek out a trusted pastor or mentor who can walk with you through this season. The Lord has a plan for you, and it is a plan for hope and a future. Do not lose heart, for He is faithful, and His promises are true.
