thank you all for ur prayers, i turned out to be not pregnant praise the lord. im so thankful.. God is our god <3 Amen
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Shalom, BeGodtheglory,
We praise God for this being in your favor.
So, let's discuss why you gave yourself to someone before marriage. The reason why God says not to is because of the complications that arise from having sexual relationships outside of marriage. You noticed I wrote, 'relationships' because the usual case, it will be repeated with different guys (I'm not say "you" but it is a common occurence).
So ask yourself these questions:
Why did it happen?
Was it peer pressure or was it something else?
What are you determined to do to make sure it doesn't happen again?
What are you determined to do with your life?
What short term and long term plans and goals do you have?
How will you be able to accomplish those things if you have a child to care about and the father of the child doesn't care?
A guy who does not respect your desires of wanting to honor the Lord in abstaining from a sexual relationship outside of marriage is not a guy who is worthy to have you in their life. They should in fact, encourage you to press into the things of God. Your heart should be so hidden in Christ that any man that comes into your life has to go through Him in order to have your heart.
For this reason, it is best to be with likeminded friends when you go out. Perhaps to be safe, it would be good to go on outings in a youth group situation instead of a one on one date.
Also, things can get out of hand if drugs and alcohol are involved. You want to stay safe and be safe, do you not? Make wise decisions concerning your life choices, the people you see, hang around with, go to places with. These are all important decisions to make. If your friend is not helping you make wise decisions then, I would reconsider why I am hanging around them.
God has an awesome plan for your life. He sees your created value and the amazing potential that is waiting for it to be brought into fruitition. He loves you with an incredible and indescribible love! If your desire is to be married, then, set in motion the man of God you want to be married to. What kind of characteristics are you wanting in a mate? Write them down and present them to the Lord and ask Him to prepare this man for you. Then wait on Him. Don't jump into a relationship, being friends is a good way to discover what type of person you are spending time with.
These are NOT questions for you to answer here on a public forum, but for yourself to figure out and make decisions on.
Peer pressue is hard to get past, but beloved of God, for this reason, your determined stand in Christ will help you make that decision. You are a new creation, if Yeshua/Jesus is your Lord. This in itself have given you abounding blessings and favor!
If communication lines are open between your parents and yourself, they are your first line of defense to help you stay the course for your life. Scripture says to:
Pro 1:8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:
Pro 1:9 For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck. Pro 4:20
My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings.
Pro 4:21 Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart.
Pro 4:22 For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.
Pro 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
Father, thank you for your daughter. Direct her steps to follow You in all Your ways. Bring godly wise counselors into her life who will be able to help her made godly wise decisions. Help her to be obedient to your will for her life. For your plans and purposes for her are for good and not for evil, to give her a hope and a future.
Holy Spirit, help BeGodtheglory with dealing with issues in her life. Teach her what being a new creation really means. Open up your word Lord to this amazing daughter of yours so she will always walk in it's truths and lead others into Your presence through Your Son, Yeshua/Jesus Christ.
In Yeshua's name. Amen.
Let me clarify this statement:
"These are NOT questions for you to answer here on a public forum, but for yourself to figure out and make decisions on."
These are areas of your life for you to go to God with and ask Him to help you stay the course with Him, perhaps even with the help of your parents.
thank you so much
