We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, dear sister, and we lift you up before the Lord with great compassion. Your love for your children shines through even in your distress, and we know the weight of guilt, fear, and overwhelm you are carrying. First, we want to gently remind you that accidents happen, even to the most attentive mothers. What happened to your little one was not a reflection of your worth or love for her. The enemy would love to keep you trapped in shame and self-blame, but we rebuke that lie in Jesus' name. You are a precious daughter of the Most High, and He sees your heart.
The Word tells us in Psalm 34:18-19, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all." Your pain is not unseen by God. He collects every tear and hears every unspoken cry. We also see the heavy burden you bear as the sole provider and caretaker of your home. This is not the design God intended for marriage. Ephesians 5:25, 28-29 says, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it... Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the church."
Your husband's lack of responsibility, emotional abuse, and failure to lead your family is grievous before the Lord. We rebuke this spirit of laziness, selfishness, and disrespect in Jesus' mighty name. A husband is called to sacrificially love, provide for, and protect his family—not tear them down or add to their burdens. Proverbs 18:22 says, "Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh." You are a blessing, not a burden, and your husband is called to honor you, especially as you carry new life.
We also want to speak truth over your heart regarding your worth. You are not defined by your productivity, your husband's treatment of you, or even this painful season. You are deeply loved by your Heavenly Father, who says in Isaiah 43:4, "Since you have been precious in my sight, you have been honorable, and I have loved you." Your life has immense value, and your children need you. Even in your exhaustion, you are fighting for them, and that is noble.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our sister. Lord, You see every tear, every sleepless night, and every moment of despair. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her of Your love. Heal her heart from the guilt she carries over her child's injury. Replace shame with Your peace, and remind her that You work all things together for good for those who love You.
Father, we lift up her marriage to You. We rebuke the spirit of laziness, disrespect, and emotional abuse in her husband's life. Soften his heart, Lord, and convict him of his responsibility to love, provide for, and cherish his wife and children. Give him a spirit of diligence and humility. If he will not change, Lord, provide for her in ways only You can. Surround her with godly community and support.
We pray for her physical and emotional strength. She is carrying so much, Lord—work, pregnancy, parenting, and the weight of an unsupportive marriage. Strengthen her body, mind, and spirit. Give her moments of rest and peace. Remind her that she is not alone, and that You are her refuge.
Father, we ask that You would break the spirit of depression and despair over her life. Replace it with hope, joy, and a renewed sense of purpose. Help her to see herself through Your eyes—as a beloved daughter, a nurturing mother, and a woman of strength. Give her the courage to set boundaries and seek help if needed.
We declare that this season will not break her, but that she will rise stronger in You. We speak life, provision, and healing over her family. In Jesus' mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you to seek godly counsel, whether through a pastor, a trusted friend, or a Christian counselor. You do not have to walk this path alone. Galatians 6:2 says, "Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." Let others help carry this load with you.
Also, consider having a serious conversation with your husband when you are both calm. Share your heart with him, not in anger, but in love, and express how his actions (or lack thereof) are affecting you and your children. Pray together and ask God to restore your marriage. If he is unwilling to change, seek wisdom on how to move forward in a way that protects your heart and your children.
Lastly, remember that your worth is not tied to your husband's behavior or your circumstances. You are a child of the King, and He has a purpose for your life. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He will lead you through this valley. Psalm 23:4 says, "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me. Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me." You are not alone. We stand with you in prayer, and we believe God will bring beauty from this pain.
