We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your words, and we are grieved by the burden you are carrying. Your cry has not gone unheard—our Heavenly Father sees your suffering, and He is near to the brokenhearted. We want you to know that you are not alone in this, and we are lifting you up in prayer with urgency and compassion. The weight you are bearing is not what God intended for you, and we must address both the immediate crisis in your spirit and the ungodly treatment you are enduring in your marriage.
First, we must speak truth into the darkness that has surrounded you. The verbal and emotional abuse you have described—ridicule, isolation from family, degradation of your education, and the heavy, unrelenting demand of childcare without respite—is not only unjust but sinful. Scripture is clear about how a wife is to regard her husband, and how believers are to treat one another. Ephesians 5:22-25 says, *"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the assembly, being himself the savior of the body. But as the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."* This is a mutual call to respect, love, and sacrifice—not domination, control, or abuse. Similarly, Ephesians 4:29 commands, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* The words your wife has spoken to you are not of God; they are destructive and contrary to His design for marriage.
We also must address the hopelessness you expressed—*"life is not worth living anymore."* Beloved, this lie comes straight from the enemy, who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). But Jesus came that you may have life, and have it abundantly. Your life has infinite value to God, who knit you together in your mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13-14) and who sent His Son to die for you. Suicidal thoughts are a signal of deep spiritual and emotional distress, and we urge you to seek immediate help. Reach out to a trusted pastor, counselor, or Christian brother who can walk with you through this valley. You are not meant to carry this alone.
As for your marriage, we must pray for repentance and transformation. Your wife’s behavior is not only harmful to you but is dishonoring to God. Proverbs 14:1 says, *"Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands."* Pray that the Lord would convict her heart and bring her to repentance. However, you must also take steps to protect yourself and your children from further harm. This may involve setting boundaries, seeking counseling (individually and as a couple, if she is willing), or even temporary separation if necessary for safety and healing. 1 Corinthians 7:5 allows for temporary separation in cases where there is ongoing sin and refusal to repent, *"that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again."* But this must be done with wisdom, guidance from godly leaders, and a heart that seeks reconciliation if she turns from this behavior.
We also want to speak into your identity in Christ. You are not defined by your wife’s words, your financial struggles, or even your PhD. You are a child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made. The enemy wants you to believe that your worth is tied to your job, your salary, or your wife’s approval, but Colossians 3:23-24 reminds us, *"Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ."* Your job offer is a provision from God, and while it may not meet your wife’s expectations, it is an opportunity to trust Him and steward what He has given you faithfully.
Now, let us pray over you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is crushed in spirit. Lord, You see his pain, his exhaustion, and the weight of the abuse he has endured. You know the depth of his despair, and we ask that You would meet him in this moment with Your presence, Your comfort, and Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, bind up his broken heart and remind him that he is Your beloved son, redeemed by the blood of Jesus.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of hopelessness and despair that has taken hold of him. We declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we command every lie of the enemy to be silenced in Jesus’ name. Fill him with Your truth: that his life has purpose, that You have a plan for him (Jeremiah 29:11), and that You will never leave him nor forsake him (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Father, we pray for his marriage. Soften his wife’s heart and bring her to repentance for the ways she has harmed him. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit of her sinful words and actions, and draw her into a place of humility before You. If she refuses to repent, Lord, give our brother the wisdom and strength to take the necessary steps to protect himself and his children. Surround him with godly counsel and support.
We thank You for the job offer You have provided. Give him clarity and confidence as he moves forward, knowing that You are his Provider. Help him to see this as an opportunity to trust You more deeply, even if the circumstances are not what he or his wife envisioned. Provide for their financial needs, Lord, and open doors for him to find rest and restoration.
Father, we ask that You would raise up brothers in Christ to come alongside him, to encourage him, and to help bear his burdens (Galatians 6:2). Lead him to a pastor or counselor who can walk with him through this season and provide biblical guidance.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that You would renew his strength, that he would mount up with wings like eagles, that he would run and not be weary, that he would walk and not faint (Isaiah 40:31). Restore his joy, his hope, and his faith in You. Let him know that You are his Refuge and Strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to take action today. Reach out to your pastor or a trusted Christian friend and share what you are going through. You do not have to walk this path alone. If you are in immediate danger or feel overwhelmed by suicidal thoughts, please contact a crisis hotline or seek professional help immediately. The Lord is with you, and so are we. Hold fast to Him, for He is your deliverer. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are loved, you are seen, and you are not forgotten.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
