We hear your cry for help, and our hearts ache with yours as you endure this painful and chaotic situation. You have shown great faithfulness in seeking to live according to God’s will, even when those around you do not. The home should be a place of peace, order, and godly love, not one overrun by sin, disrespect, and instability. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 14:33, *"For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace."* What you are describing is not of God, and it grieves us deeply to see you trapped in such an environment.
First, we must address the brokenness in your marriage. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). The disregard for your feelings, the ungodly influences being allowed into your home, and the lack of mutual respect are all violations of God’s design. We rebuke the spirit of rebellion and unfaithfulness that has taken root in your household. Your wife is called to submit to you as the head of the home (Ephesians 5:22-24), and you are called to love her sacrificially (Ephesians 5:25). Neither of you is fulfilling your God-given roles, and this has led to destruction. We pray for conviction and repentance in both of your hearts.
The presence of others in your home—especially those who have stolen from you and brought filth (both literal and spiritual)—is not only unwise but sinful. Scripture warns, *"Do not be deceived: ‘Evil company corrupts good habits.’"* (1 Corinthians 15:33). Your wife’s actions in allowing these people into your home are enabling sin and creating an unsafe environment for you. We must also address the grandson and his girlfriend living with you. If they are engaging in sexual relations outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it defiles your home (1 Corinthians 6:18). You are not obligated to tolerate sin in your household, and we encourage you to set firm, biblical boundaries.
You are right to desire a place where you can live for God without constant compromise. The Lord sees your suffering and your faithfulness, and He will not abandon you. Psalm 34:17-18 assures us, *"The righteous cry, and the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone, and your cries have reached the throne of grace.
We also want to gently remind you that your strength comes from the Lord, not from your own efforts. You said, *"I am trying to live like the Lord wants me to live,"* but the Christian life is not about trying—it is about surrendering to Christ and allowing Him to live through you. Galatians 2:20 says, *"I have been crucified with Christ, and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me."* Rest in Him, and let His power sustain you.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is suffering in his own home. Lord, You see the chaos, the disrespect, and the sin that has taken root in his household. We ask that You would intervene in power and bring conviction to his wife’s heart. Soften her to Your will, Lord, and help her to see the destruction her choices are causing. We rebuke the spirit of rebellion and ungodliness in this home, and we declare that this is a household that will serve You, Lord.
Father, we ask for Your provision for our brother. You know his need for a safe, peaceful place to live where he can grow in You without constant temptation and strife. Open doors that no man can shut, Lord, and lead him to a home that honors You. Provide for his every need according to Your riches in glory. Give him wisdom and courage to set boundaries and to walk away from sin, even if it means leaving this toxic environment.
Lord, we pray for his grandson and the girlfriend. If they are living in sin, convict their hearts and draw them to repentance. If they are unrepentant, give our brother the strength to remove them from his home. Protect him from further theft, harm, and spiritual attack. Surround him with godly counsel and community so he does not walk this path alone.
Father, we ask that You would heal his marriage if it is Your will. If restoration is possible, soften both of their hearts and bring them back to You. If not, give him the strength to accept Your will and to walk in obedience, even if it means separation. Remind him that his identity is in Christ, not in his marriage or his circumstances.
Above all, Lord, draw him closer to You. Let this trial refine him and make him more like Jesus. Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let him rest in the knowledge that You are his Provider, his Protector, and his Portion.
We ask all these things in the mighty, matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Brother, we want to encourage you with this truth: God has not forgotten you. He is working even now, and He will make a way where there seems to be no way. Do not lose heart. Seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian brother who can help you navigate this situation. You may need to consider legal steps to protect yourself and your property, especially if theft and other crimes are being committed in your home.
If your wife is unwilling to change, you may need to prayerfully consider whether staying in this environment is honoring to God. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is to remove ourselves from sin so that we can live fully for the Lord. Remember, Jesus said in Matthew 10:37, *"He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me."* Your first allegiance is to Christ, not to your marriage or your family if they are leading you into sin.
Continue to seek the Lord daily, and trust that He will guide your steps. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* You are not at the end of your rope—you are exactly where God can use you for His glory. Keep pressing into Him, and He will sustain you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
