Husband said he doesn’t love me anymore. ### a stay at home mom with a baby.

[Anonymous]

My husband has issues with addiction. He constantly wants to be high. He denies it. A week ago he got sick, and I asked him to try to make sure our baby didn’t get sick. He ignored me and took no precautions. Our baby got sick. She screamed and cried for 5 days because she couldn’t eat or sleep since she couldn’t breathe. I didn’t get to sleep for 4 days straight and he wouldn’t help me at all. He just kept saying he helps by going to work. I begged him to just hold her for a few minutes so I could just rest without screaming and he started calling me a name and saying “she wants you [name]”. Yesterday he was drinking and playing video games the entire day while I tried getting our baby comfortable. I had to hold her down while she screamed and she cried and it hurt me to see her so upset and uncomfortable, my eyes got teary. We needed groceries for the week. He doesn’t let me go to the store alone and our baby was sleeping. He went to the store and was getting angry about the list of food we needed. He was getting upset that he “couldn’t find anything” on the list and “the list was too long”. The dishes have been sitting in the sink since last week since my baby wouldn’t let me do literally anything as she was sick. The laundry piled high, the house is a huge mess, he spent the entire day playing video games and getting drunk. In the middle of all this, he said he needed sex. I was sick too. He didn’t care and he got what he wanted. I didn’t want him to turn over so he could mess with my anus because I don’t like it and he got angry. Yesterday, after he got home from the store, he asked me if he got everything. He missed a lot of items, and bought rotten avocados that we can’t use. Many of the items were for our baby to eat. I said you forgot some things and he got extremely angry told me he can never do anything right and all I do is complain and I’m never happy, he called me names, a dumb person, he flipped me off and he doesn’t love me anymore. All of this with our baby in my arms. He told me to get out and leave at 10 pm and he doesn’t love me anymore, then he went on a long rant about how I’m not his soulmate, I don’t let him do whatever he wants sexually so I must not love him (anal sex. He says because I did it a decade ago with a boyfriend that I have to let him do it or I don’t love him. He’s obsessed with my teenage boyfriend, constantly insulting me and harassing me about how I loved him and was so much more sexual with him. I stopped dating that person 5 years before I even met my now husband and was celibate for 3 years before I met my husband. I have hemorrhoids since giving birth and I don’t like anal sex and I never liked it and I don’t want to do it) and an entire long rant of complaining and yelling and harassing me in front of our baby. He said I am a bad mother because I got upset that she screamed for days with no help and because I got upset that I had to hold her down to suction her nose and other mothers’ babies get sick and I should be able to deal with it. I called him a loser for treating me this way in front of our daughter and he flipped out and said I’m a plebian and a lower member of society because he has a doctorate and I don’t and he works out 5 days a week and goes to work so he’s not a loser. He harassed me all night and said he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. He says I complain when he wants sex, because I was annoyed he wanted sex on day 3 of our screaming baby with no help and no sleep. He still got it but only what I was comfortable with. All he says over and over again is that he works so he can’t and shouldn’t do ANYTHING else, ever. He said he wants a divorce and if I don’t agree he will just ignore me. Earlier in the day I had to beg him to stop screaming random things at his video games because he was waking her up. After our baby got to sleep, he came in and started drunkenly throwing pillows and the remote and woke her up. This was devastating because she has been suffering for so long without sleep. He said I can go get a job and he’ll pay a thousand a month in child support if I go F off and he’s not working for someone who hates him and won’t let him do whatever he wants in bed “like I used to”. He tries to shove my legs up to my chest and insert himself as deep as possible and it hurts ever since I gave birth so I don’t allow that either. He doesn’t care about me or our child and doesn’t like when I tell him that. He got even angrier and wouldn’t stop messaging me hateful messages. Then he got angry it was 2 am and he had to work today. I feel so numb I don’t even know what to do. I am here, I have a baby, I moved with him to the middle of nowhere for his job. All my family is 15 hours or more away. I know NOBODY here. It gets freezing at night so we can’t leave. I have no job or money and there’s no work here. I don’t know what to do anymore I don’t want to be in pain and uncomfortable or violated during sex and I don’t want to be verbally abused. I can’t make him stop drinking or using marijuana, I can’t make him help occasionally with our baby. I feel my situation is hopeless. I feel the worst for having a baby with him, she doesn’t deserve to watch her mom be abused by her father.

 

[Anonymous]

Addition: He also told me that I’m the one with no money who can’t pay rent and he can do good luck figuring out a place to live. We’ve been married for ### years and dating for almost ###. I worked until ### months ago. I worked until ### hours before I gave birth. He just keeps saying over and over again that he works and that’s his contribution. A hard job. I can’t help but feel upset that God let me get into this situation with a man who hates me so much. I don’t know what to do.

 

[Articles]

We are deeply grieved and heartbroken as we read your plea for help. Your pain is palpable, and the weight of your suffering is heavy upon our hearts. First and foremost, we want to acknowledge the immense strength it takes to endure what you have described. You are not alone, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s intervention, healing, and justice in this situation.

The treatment you have endured is not only unbiblical but also abusive—emotionally, verbally, and physically. Scripture is clear that marriage is a covenant of love, respect, and mutual submission, not a license for one spouse to dominate, demean, or harm the other. Ephesians 5:25-28 (WEB) states, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without defect. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* Your husband’s actions are a far cry from the sacrificial, Christ-like love that God commands. His addiction, neglect, and cruelty are sins that must be confronted with truth and repentance.

His demand for sexual acts that cause you pain and violate your boundaries is not only unloving but also sinful. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (WEB) says, *"Let the husband render to the wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife to the husband. The wife doesn’t have authority over her own body, but the husband. Likewise also the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body, but the wife. Don’t deprive one another, unless it is by consent for a season, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer, and may be together again, that Satan doesn’t tempt you because of your lack of self-control."* This passage emphasizes mutual respect and consent, not coercion or demands that disregard your well-being. His obsession with past relationships and his harassment over sexual acts you do not consent to are manipulative and ungodly. You are not obligated to submit to sin, and his behavior is a violation of the marriage covenant.

His neglect of your child, his refusal to help during her illness, and his verbal abuse in front of her are deeply disturbing. Proverbs 22:6 (WEB) reminds us, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Your husband is modeling behavior that is harmful and sinful, and it is heartbreaking that your daughter is witnessing this. You are right to be concerned for her well-being, and we pray fervently for her protection and for God to soften your husband’s heart toward both of you.

His addiction to substances is another area where he is in bondage, and it is clear that his choices are destroying your family. Proverbs 23:20-21 (WEB) warns, *"Don’t be among those who drink too much wine, or those who gorge themselves on meat; for the drunkard and the glutton shall become poor; and drowsiness clothes them in rags."* His refusal to acknowledge his addiction and his prioritization of it over his family’s needs are sins that require repentance. We rebuke the spirit of addiction in his life and pray for his deliverance from this bondage.

We also rebuke the spirit of pride and entitlement that has taken root in his heart. His belief that he is exempt from helping with the home or childcare because he works is a distortion of biblical headship. 1 Peter 4:10 (WEB) says, *"As each has received a gift, employ it in serving one another, as good managers of the grace of God in its various forms."* His work is not an excuse to neglect his responsibilities as a husband and father. His pride in his education and physical fitness is misplaced, for *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble"* (James 4:6 WEB). We pray for humility to replace his arrogance and for his eyes to be opened to the damage he is causing.

Your feelings of hopelessness and isolation are understandable, but we want to remind you that God sees you, hears you, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18 WEB). You are not trapped, even if it feels that way. Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB) says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* We encourage you to seek help immediately. Reach out to a local church, a trusted pastor, or a Christian counselor who can provide support and guidance. If you are in physical danger, do not hesitate to contact local authorities or a domestic violence hotline. Your safety and your child’s safety are paramount.

We also urge you to consider separation if his behavior does not change. While marriage is sacred, it is not a license for abuse. 1 Corinthians 7:15 (WEB) says, *"Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* If your husband refuses to repent and continues to harm you and your child, separation may be necessary for your protection and well-being. You are not required to endure abuse in the name of marriage.

We pray for you now, lifting you and your daughter to the throne of grace:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her precious child. Lord, You see the pain, the exhaustion, and the fear she carries. You know the nights she has spent without sleep, the tears she has shed, and the weight of the abuse she has endured. Father, we ask for Your divine intervention in this marriage. Soften her husband’s heart, Lord. Break the chains of addiction, pride, and entitlement that bind him. Convict him of his sin and lead him to repentance. If he will not turn from his ways, Lord, we ask that You provide a way of escape for her and her child. Surround her with Your protection, provision, and peace.

Father, we pray for her daughter, that You would shield her from the harm she has witnessed. Comfort her, Lord, and let her know that she is loved and valued by You. Heal the wounds that have already been inflicted and restore what has been broken. Provide this sister with the strength to make the difficult decisions ahead. Give her wisdom to know when to seek help, when to set boundaries, and when to walk away if necessary. Surround her with godly counsel, supportive friends, and a community that will stand with her.

Lord, we rebuke the spirit of hopelessness that has taken hold of her heart. Remind her that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1 WEB). Provide for her needs, Father. Open doors for employment, safe housing, and financial provision. Let her know that she is not alone, for You are with her always (Matthew 28:20 WEB).

We pray for healing in her body, mind, and spirit. Heal the physical pain she endures, the emotional trauma she has suffered, and the spiritual wounds that have been inflicted. Restore her joy, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7 WEB).

Father, we also pray for justice. Expose the truth of what is happening in this home, and let Your righteousness prevail. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free. Amen.

In the days ahead, we encourage you to cling to God’s promises. Psalm 91:14-15 (WEB) says, *"Because he has set his love on me, therefore I will deliver him. I will set him on high, because he has known my name. He will call on me, and I will answer him. I will be with him in trouble. I will deliver him, and honor him."* God is your deliverer, and He will not abandon you. Seek Him with all your heart, and He will guide your steps. You are not without hope, and you are not without help. The God of the universe is fighting for you, and we stand with you in prayer and support.

 

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Dear sister in Christ,

Our hearts ache for you as you carry this heavy burden. We want you to know that you are not alone, and we are here to lift you up in prayer. We understand the pain, exhaustion, and fear you're experiencing, and we want to remind you of God's unfailing love and presence in your life.

Firstly, we want to acknowledge the strength it takes to endure what you've been through. You are a warrior, standing firm in the face of adversity, and we commend you for your resilience.

We also want to assure you that God sees your tears, hears your cries, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). He is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Trust in Him with all your heart, and He will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Your husband's actions are not only harmful but also sinful, and they are not a reflection of the biblical model of headship and love in marriage. His addiction, neglect, verbal abuse, and physical harm are all forms of abuse that you do not deserve. We rebuke the spirit of addiction, pride, and entitlement that has taken root in his heart and pray for his deliverance and repentance.

We urge you to seek help immediately. Reach out to a local church, a trusted pastor, or a Christian counselor who can provide support and guidance. If you are in physical danger, do not hesitate to contact local authorities or a domestic violence hotline. Your safety and your child's safety are paramount.

We also want to remind you that while marriage is sacred, it is not a license for abuse. If your husband refuses to repent and continues to harm you and your child, consider separation for your protection and well-being. You are not required to endure abuse in the name of marriage.

In the days ahead, cling to God's promises. He is your deliverer, and He will not abandon you. Seek Him with all your heart, and He will guide your steps. You are not without hope, and you are not without help. The God of the universe is fighting for you, and we stand with you in prayer and support.

Please know that we are here for you, and we will continue to lift you up in prayer. Do not hesitate to reach out if you need someone to talk to or if there's anything we can do to support you.

In Jesus' name, we pray.

Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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