Husband as divorce - no child

[Daywell]

My name is ###. I and my husband ### are married for 14yrs but don't have a baby. We would have had a baby but when I married and came my mother in law used to torcher alot and use to create fight between me and my husband. He is used to not take any interest in me. And then I started staying in my parents home for few years. My mother in law spoke negative about me not having a baby. Since then we are struggling to have a baby of our own. After that I tried ivf also which didn't work. I don't know the reason of failure. We are still struggling to get a child. My mother in law ### is now fueling and creating fight between me and my husband again. My husband is giving me divorce for that reason as I am unable to conceive. Please pray that the bitterness between me and my husband ends soon and we should have our own baby soon.

 

[Articles]

We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister in Christ who is enduring such deep pain in her marriage and longing for a child. Father God, You see every tear she has shed, every moment of loneliness, and every word spoken against her in bitterness. We stand in the gap for her, declaring that You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Lord, we ask that You would intervene in this marriage, softening hearts and restoring what has been fractured.

First, we must address the root of division in this home. The Bible is clear that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, becoming one flesh (Genesis 2:24). It is not God’s design for a mother-in-law to sow discord between husband and wife, nor for a husband to neglect his God-given responsibility to love, cherish, and protect his wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). We rebuke the spirit of strife and manipulation that has taken root in this family, and we declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, we pray that Your truth would pierce through the lies that have been spoken, and that both husband and wife would seek You above all else.

We also lift up the deep grief of childlessness. The Bible tells us that children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward (Psalm 127:3). Yet we know that even in barrenness, You are working for Your glory. We pray for healing, whether it be physical, emotional, or spiritual, that would open the womb in Your perfect timing. We declare that Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Hannah, and Elizabeth all conceived in their old age by Your miraculous hand, and we trust that You are the same God today (Hebrews 13:8). If medical intervention is needed, we ask for wisdom for the doctors and peace for this sister as she endures treatments. But above all, we pray for Your will to be done, knowing that Your plans are for good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11).

Now, we must speak plainly about the threat of divorce. The Lord hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence (Malachi 2:16). Marriage is a covenant before God, not to be broken lightly. We rebuke the enemy’s attempt to destroy this union and call this husband to repentance for even considering divorce. We pray that he would remember his vows and choose to love his wife as Christ loves the church, sacrificially, unconditionally, and with patience. If there has been hardness of heart, we ask that You would soften it, Lord. If there has been neglect, we ask that You would convict and restore. We declare that what God has joined together, let no man separate (Matthew 19:6).

To this dear sister, we say: You are not forgotten. You are not less than. Your worth is not defined by your ability to conceive, but by the blood of Jesus Christ that was shed for you. We encourage you to draw near to the Lord in this season, for He is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Seek Him in prayer, in His Word, and in the fellowship of believers who can uphold you. If your husband is willing, seek godly counseling together, someone who can speak truth into your marriage and help you both navigate this trial with wisdom and grace.

We also urge you to examine your heart before the Lord. Have you held onto bitterness toward your mother-in-law or husband? Have you allowed resentment to take root? The Bible warns us that bitterness defiles many (Hebrews 12:15). We pray that You would help her release any unforgiveness, Lord, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Help her to love her enemies, to bless those who curse her, and to pray for those who mistreat her (Luke 6:27-28).

Finally, we must address the foundation of our faith. It is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not placed your trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith, and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God (Ephesians 2:8).

Heavenly Father, we lift up this marriage before You now. We ask that You would heal the wounds, restore the love, and bring forth new life, both in the form of a child and in the renewal of this union. We declare that this sister is not abandoned, not forsaken, and not without hope. You are the God who makes the barren woman a joyful mother of children (Psalm 113:9). We trust You to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Strengthen her faith, Lord. Give her patience in the waiting. Fill her with Your joy, even in the midst of sorrow. And may Your name be glorified in this situation, no matter the outcome.

We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the deep ache in your words, the years of longing, the hurtful words from your mother-in-law, the distance between you and your husband, and now the threat of divorce. That is an enormous weight to carry, and we are so sorry you’re walking through this.

When bitterness takes root, it often grows out of grief that hasn’t been fully tended. Infertility is a profound loss, and the pain can make a marriage feel like a battleground instead of a safe place. The bitterness you feel, and that your husband feels, may be less about the lack of a child and more about the unprocessed sorrow, the misunderstandings, and the outside voices that have pulled you apart. We don’t want to minimize that; your hurt is real.

A practical step we’d gently suggest is to ask your husband to meet with a pastor or a Christian counselor together, not just to “fix” the childlessness, but to help you both grieve what you’ve lost and heal the relational wounds. A counselor can give you both tools to communicate, to face the disappointment without letting it turn into blame, and to decide, together, what the next season of your marriage might look like. You don’t have to sort through all this alone.

Even if you cannot see it now, your marriage is worth fighting for, not because it’s perfect, but because God uses even broken places to do new things. We are asking Him to bring comfort to your heart, to soften your husband’s heart toward reconciliation, and to give you both wisdom.

Please pray with us:

Father, we lift up this wife to You. You see her tears, her loneliness, and her longing for a child. Wrap her in Your peace. Guard her from bitterness, and give her the courage to reach out for wise, godly help. We pray for her husband, ease his anger and draw him toward mercy. If it honors You, restore this marriage and make it a place of mutual care. In the waiting, be their portion and their hope. In Jesus’ name, amen.

 

[Prayingwoman]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.