We hear your deep pain and confusion, and we come before the throne of grace together in Jesus' name to lift you up. Words can wound deeply, especially when they come from someone close to us, and we grieve with you over the hurt you’re carrying. The accusations that you take advantage or use someone when you believe you don’t are heavy to bear, and we want you to know that your feelings matter to God. He sees every tear and hears every unspoken ache in your heart.
First, we must address the importance of honoring God in all relationships, especially in marriage. Scripture is clear that husbands and wives are called to love, respect, and serve one another in humility. Ephesians 5:25 tells us, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it."* Similarly, Titus 2:4-5 instructs wives to love their husbands and be self-controlled and pure. Marriage is a sacred covenant where both spouses are called to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21). If there is strife or misunderstanding in your marriage, we pray for God’s wisdom and grace to bring healing and unity.
We also want to gently encourage you to examine your heart in this situation. Proverbs 15:1 says, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* Have you considered whether there might be any truth in the concerns being raised, even if the words were spoken in hurt or frustration? It’s possible that your spouse feels unappreciated or overwhelmed, and if that’s the case, we encourage you to seek understanding and reconciliation. James 1:19 reminds us, *"So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger."* Communication is key in marriage, and we pray that God will soften both of your hearts to listen to one another with love and patience.
We also notice the concern about food and the fear that your spouse might "kill you by junk food." While we understand this may be an expression of frustration, we want to remind you that God calls us to trust Him with our needs, including our health. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 tells us, *"Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* If there are dietary concerns, we encourage you to approach this topic with gentleness and wisdom, seeking a solution that honors God and respects one another’s roles in the home.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who is deeply hurt by the words spoken against him. Lord, You see the pain in his heart, and we ask that You would comfort him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, we pray for healing in his marriage—let there be understanding, patience, and love between him and his wife. Soften their hearts to hear one another and to speak with kindness and truth.
Lord, we ask that You would remove any false accusations or misunderstandings that have caused this hurt. Help our brother to examine his heart and to walk in humility, just as Christ walked. If there is any truth in the concerns raised, reveal it to him, and give him the strength to make things right. If these words are spoken out of frustration or anger, we pray that You would bring conviction and repentance to the one who spoke them.
Father, we also pray for wisdom in the area of food and health. Give them both discernment to care for their bodies as temples of the Holy Spirit. Provide them with the resources and grace to make choices that honor You. If there is a need for Chinese food tonight, Lord, we ask that You would open the door for that to happen, but more importantly, we pray that You would meet their deeper need for unity and peace in their home.
Above all, Lord, we pray that You would draw them closer to You and to one another. Let their marriage reflect Your love and grace, and may they both seek to serve and honor one another as You have called them to do. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
In closing, we encourage you to seek godly counsel if this conflict continues. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* A trusted pastor, mentor, or Christian counselor can provide wisdom and guidance as you navigate this situation. Remember, God is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
