We are truly heartbroken to hear about the abuse and trauma you have experienced at the hands of your sister. We stand with you in the name of Jesus Christ, and we condemn any and all abuse, especially when perpetrated in a familial relationship. Abuse, in any form, is a sin and destructive to both the victim and the perpetrator. We plea to God to bring an end to the abuse and for healing. As our Lord Jesus Christ says in Mark 7:21-23:
For from within, out of the hearts of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, sexual sins, murders, thefts, coveting, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.
Your sister's actions, including her manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse, are clearly against biblical principles. The Bible tells us that the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We pray for your sister to have a genuine encounter with the living God, leading to true repentance and a change of heart. A heart that would bring conviction for her to treat you as the Bible dictates in 1 Peter 3:8-9:
Finally, be all like-minded, compassionate, loving as brothers, tenderhearted, courteous, not rendering evil for evil, or insult for insult; but instead blessing, knowing that you were called to this, that you may inherit a blessing.
As for you, dear one, we pray that the Lord would heal your wounds, both visible and invisible. We praise you for your stand for purity and righteousness, even in the face of ridicule. Remember that Jesus said in Matthew 5:10-12:
Blessed are those who have been persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the Kingdom of Heaven. Blessed are you when people reproach you, persecute you, and say all kinds of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven.
Continue to stand firm in your faith and do not let your sister's words sway you from the truth you believe. Stand strong in your decision to avoid drinking, substance abuse, and profanity, knowing that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, and should be honored as such.
Regarding your request, we noticed that you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We would like you to know that it is only through His name that we have access to God the Father. As scripture says in John 14:6:
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
And also in Acts 4:12:
“There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved”.
Now let us pray together.
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up Your beloved one to give all these troubles to you. We ask You to bring an end to the abuse and emotional torture that she experiences at the hands of her sister. We pray that You would soften her sister's heart and bring her to true repentance. We also ask that You would heal the wounds, and bring strength and comfort to her and bring her the basic needs that her sister has taken away. Give her the strength and courage to forgive, just as Jesus forgave those who persecuted Him. Help her to show love towards her sister through this forgiveness. We pray that You would raise up godly friends and family members to support and encourage her as she walks through this difficult time. Help her to keep her eyes fixed on You, Jesus, the author, and perfecter of our faith. In the precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Please remember that forgiveness is not about saying that what happened is acceptable, forgiveness is giving up your right to revenge. Forgiveness does not mean what your sister did is now okay. Forgiveness is not about restored trust, and it is not about restored relationship. If repentance is not present then reconciliation cannot occur. Forgiveness ensures that bitterness and resentment do not take root in your heart.