Help! ..😭..😭I really prayed and cried a lot..

[Anonymous]

I had problems with pornography, masturbation, flirting (with the opposite sex) and sexual sins... Now there is a great improvement! Let us give all the glory and thanks for this to the Lord Jesus Christ! But there is still a great need for more improvement (lasting and true) for the glory of God! Let us pray for this...Please pray that God will help me and guide me to do whatever it takes to remove these sins forever from my life and heart, in the Name of Jesus Christ. Let us pray that God will also work, renew my mind, make me very wise, so that these sins will forever be far from me, in the Name of Jesus Christ! Let us pray that God will show me mercy, speak to me, give me understanding and deliverance. I really prayed and cried a lot...

 

[Articles]

We rejoice with you and give all the glory and thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ for the great improvement He has already worked in your life, and we join you in crying out for lasting and true deliverance for the glory of God. Your honesty about pornography, masturbation, flirting and sexual sins, and your desire to be free from them forever, is pleasing to God, for He desires truth in the inward parts and a clean heart before Him.

The Word of God calls us to flee sexual immorality, not to manage it or toy with it. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Jesus taught that this sin begins in the heart and mind, Matthew 5:28 says that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. That is why flirting, pornography and masturbation are not small matters, they are fornication in the heart and must be put to death, and sexual intimacy is reserved by God for marriage alone between one man and one woman for life. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 says For this is the will of God, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor.

We praise God that you have prayed and wept, for 1 John 1:9 promises If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. And 2 Corinthians 5:17 reminds us that if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. The improvement you see is the evidence that God is at work in you, and Philippians 1:6 assures us that he who began a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.

Lasting freedom comes through the renewing of the mind and radical obedience. Romans 12:2 says Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God. Philippians 4:8 calls us to think on whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure. This means we must do whatever it takes to remove the sources of temptation, to make no provision for the flesh, to guard our eyes and our heart, to cut off access to what causes us to stumble, to seek godly accountability and to fill our mind daily with Scripture. James 4:7 says Be subject therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Galatians 5:16 says Walk by the Spirit, and you won’t fulfill the lust of the flesh.

We pray together for you now.

Father, we come before Your throne of grace in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, and we thank You for the mercy You have already shown to our brother and for the victory You have begun. We ask that You complete this work and grant lasting and true deliverance. Create in him a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within him, Psalm 51:10. Renew his mind, make him very wise with the wisdom that comes from above, and teach him to hate sin and to love holiness. Give him understanding, speak to him through Your Word, and show him clearly whatever steps he must take to remove these sins forever from his life and heart. Help him to flee every appearance of sexual immorality, to guard his eyes and thoughts, and to walk by Your Holy Spirit day by day. When temptation comes, make a way of escape that he may be able to endure it, and when he is weak, be his strength. We ask that You keep these sins forever far from him, not by his own power but by the power of Jesus Christ who lives in him, and that his life would bring glory to You alone. Forgive him, cleanse him, restore him, and lead him in purity and in preparation for a godly marriage if it is Your will, that he may honor You in body and spirit which are Yours. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and our only access to You. Amen.

We encourage you to continue in daily prayer, in the Word, and in fellowship with mature believers who can hold you accountable. Do not be discouraged by the need for more growth, God is faithful and He hears your cries. Keep confessing quickly, keep fleeing quickly, and keep fixing your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith.

 

[hostadmin]

We were so encouraged to read your note. Hearing that you have prayed and wept before the Lord and are already seeing real improvement is a reason for thanksgiving, and we join you in giving Him glory for that. We also hear your deep desire for lasting freedom, not just a break from the behavior but a renewed heart and mind.

One thing we have found so helpful for others walking this same road is not trying to walk it alone. Temptation grows stronger in isolation, and steady, honest accountability brings light and strength. If you do not already have this, we would encourage you to invite one trusted, mature same-sex friend, mentor or pastor, or a small group focused on purity, to walk with you week by week. Someone you can be fully honest with about triggers and victories, who will pray with you and help you think ahead about practical steps like clearing away access to pornography and planning what to do when you feel vulnerable. Deciding those things while you are strong is often more fruitful than deciding in the moment of temptation.

We are grateful for your hunger for God's mercy and guidance, and we will keep praying for wisdom and endurance as you keep taking these steady steps.

Father, we thank You for the work You have already done in our brother's life and for his sincere desire to walk in purity for Your glory. Grant him mercy, clear understanding, and daily strength to turn from what entangles him. Renew his mind, guard his heart, and surround him with faithful support that helps him stay on Your path. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

There is great cause to give thanks unto the Lord with you, for every good gift and every perfect gift cometh down from the Father of Lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. That you have seen improvement in this fierce warfare against impurity is not of your own strength, but of His grace alone, and to Him be all the glory. We rejoice that He has heard your cries and has begun a good work, and we will join our prayers to yours that He will perfect it.

You do well to cry out still, for the Christian must keep himself unspotted from the world. He never expects to get any good from the world, and he must not be muddied by it. Above all, cry to God to preserve you from evil. When you find persons or places or images that are rather fast or rather loose, leave them, get away from them. Flee from that which would spot the garment. The only hope we can have of eternal life is by being parted from sin, for there shall never enter into heaven anything that defileth. We have, from day to day, to fight against sin till it is utterly put away from us.

Know this, that no earthly power can bring real freedom to the soul, it is grace and grace alone that brings it by the blood of the Covenant. You are a prisoner to sin by nature, but you are a prisoner of hope, for you are within reach of One who sets free from sin. The Lord Jesus Christ saves His people from their sins. Turn away from your feebleness to His strength, and from your sinfulness to His blood, the blood of the Covenant which washes black sinners whiter than driven snow. When the Lord sets His people free from the guilt and power of sin, He delivers them from the lash of sin, takes away the spirit of bondage and gives them the spirit of liberty.

Let us pray together for you now.

O Father, in the name of Jesus Christ Thy Son, we thank Thee for what Thou hast already wrought in this soul. We ask Thee to show mercy, to speak, to give understanding and full deliverance. Work in the heart and renew the mind, make wise unto holiness, and keep this Thy child unspotted from the world. Let the trial which has been a temptation from Satan become a trial from Thy hand for proving and strengthening. Grant lasting and true purity, not for a season only, but forever, that sin may be put far away and the life may be kept clean before Thee. Preserve from evil, lead not into temptation, and deliver from evil, by the power of the blood of Jesus. Amen.

Take courage and watch and pray without ceasing. Keep near to Christ, be full of His Word, for our Lord when He hung upon the cross was full of Scripture, and so must we be. Abide in Him, and He will keep you.