Help! ..😭..😭I really prayed and cried a lot..

[Anonymous]

I had problems with pornography, masturbation, flirting (with the opposite sex) and sexual sins... Now there is a great improvement! Let us give all the glory and thanks for this to the Lord Jesus Christ! But there is still a great need for more improvement (lasting and true) for the glory of God! Let us pray for this...Please pray that God will help me and guide me to do whatever it takes to remove these sins forever from my life and heart, in the Name of Jesus Christ. Let us pray that God will also work, renew my mind, make me very wise, so that these sins will forever be far from me, in the Name of Jesus Christ! Let us pray that God will show me mercy, speak to me, give me understanding and deliverance. I really prayed and cried a lot...

 

[Articles]

We rejoice with you and give all the glory and thanks to the Lord Jesus Christ for the great improvement He has already worked in your life, and we thank Him for hearing your prayers and your tears. We know that every good progress comes from His mercy and grace, and we praise Him that He has not left you in your struggle but is leading you toward freedom.

We also hear your cry for lasting and true deliverance, for a renewed mind and a heart where these sins will be forever far away, and we join you in praying for that complete victory for the glory of God. The struggles you mention, pornography, masturbation, flirting with the opposite sex and other sexual sins, are indeed sexual immorality that grieves the heart of God and defiles the temple of the Holy Spirit. Scripture is clear and loving in its correction, Flee sexual immorality Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body 1 Corinthians 6:18, and For this is the will of God, your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4. Jesus Himself taught that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart Matthew 5:28, which shows that pornography and lustful flirting are not small matters but sins of the heart that need to be brought into the light, confessed and forsaken. Sex is a gift reserved for the lifelong covenant of marriage between a man and a woman, and any sexual activity outside of that, including masturbation fueled by lust and flirting that stirs up desires outside of a godly courtship aimed at marriage to a fellow believer, is fornication that God calls us to flee. If you confess your sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness 1 John 1:9.

We encourage you that God who began this good work in you will complete it. Being confident of this very thing, that he who began a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ Philippians 1:6. Lasting victory does not come by willpower alone but by the renewing of the mind and walking by the Spirit. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind Romans 12:2, and Walk by the Spirit, and you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh Galatians 5:16. We urge you to take practical steps in obedience, to make a covenant with your eyes as Job did Job 31:1, to cut off every source of temptation, to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ 2 Corinthians 10:5, to fill your mind with what is pure and holy, Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think about these things Philippians 4:8, and to seek accountable fellowship with mature believers who can pray with you and help you stand. No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it 1 Corinthians 10:13.

We pray together for you now.

Father, we come before Your throne of grace in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, and we thank You for the mercy You have already shown to our brother, for the tears You have seen and the prayers You have heard, for the improvement You have given. We ask You to continue Your work and to establish lasting and true deliverance for Your glory. Lord, create in him a clean heart and renew a right spirit within him Psalm 51:10. Renew his mind by Your Word, make him very wise and give him understanding, help him to hate what You hate and love what You love, and teach him to do whatever it takes to remove these sins forever from his life and heart. Grant him a deep deliverance, speak to him, show him Your mercy, and guard his eyes, his thoughts and his heart. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit so that he may flee sexual immorality and walk in purity, for blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God Matthew 5:8. Keep him from flirting and from every path that leads back to lust, and if it is Your will, prepare him for a godly marriage that honors You, a courtship that leads to a lifelong commitment with a believing spouse, rather than fleeting pleasures that lead to death. Give him strength in the moment of temptation to take the way of escape You provide, and let him live as one who glorifies You in his body and spirit, which are Yours 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and our salvation, for there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved Acts 4:12. Amen.

We encourage you to keep crying out to Him, for The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles Psalm 34:17. Keep confessing quickly, keep staying in the Word daily, keep praying without ceasing, and keep trusting that His grace not only forgives but teaches us to deny ungodliness and worldly lusts and to live soberly, righteously, and godly Titus 2:12. We are standing with you for complete freedom, that these sins will indeed be forever far from you by the power of Jesus Christ.

 

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We are grateful you shared this so honestly, and we rejoice with you that you are seeing real improvement. We hear how much you have prayed and wept through this, and how deeply you want a lasting freedom that honors God, not just a temporary break. That desire itself is a good work of God in your heart.

We have found that struggles like pornography, masturbation and flirting often lose power not only through private determination but through bringing them into the light with another trusted person. Isolation is where temptation grows strongest, while steady, honest accountability helps us stay faithful when we feel weak. One practical step that helps many is to invite one mature, same sex believer, a pastor or a small Christian support group, to walk with you weekly, someone you give permission to ask you direct questions and to hear from you quickly when you feel tempted, not only after a fall. Clearing away remaining triggers, like access to certain sites or private situations, is part of that same honesty.

Change of the mind and heart is usually gradual, and God forms wisdom over time as we keep surrendering and keep walking in the light.

Father, we thank You for the progress You have already given our brother and for his hunger for purity. Give him mercy, clear understanding, daily strength to turn away, and faithful people to walk beside him. Renew his mind and guide his steps, and keep drawing him close to Jesus, in whose name we pray, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

We thank God with you for the mercy already shown, and we give all glory to the Lord Jesus Christ for every step of improvement which His grace has wrought in you. It is a good sign that you mourn over sin and cry unto the Lord, for He does not despise a broken and contrite heart, and He has heard your prayers and your tears.

Yet we hear your further cry, that you need a lasting and true deliverance, that these sins of pornography, masturbation, flirting and all sexual uncleanness may be forever removed from your life and heart. You do well to ask for this, for charity and purity are the two great garments of Christianity, and without holiness no man shall see the Lord. When lust has conceived, it brings forth sin, and sin when it is finished brings forth death. Any sin, whatever it is, if we cling to it and love it, will bring forth death. You have tasted the poison of the cup of lust, and you know that it makes the very bones to rot, and therefore you are right to flee from it with all your soul.

Know this, that deliverance from the power of sin is as much the work of God as deliverance from the guilt of sin. It is not of him that wills, nor of him that runs, but of God that shows mercy. He must bring you forth, for you cannot bring yourself forth. Where we look for justification, there must we also look for sanctification, for as we are justified through Jesus Christ, we must also expect to receive sanctification from a heavenly source. The Lord has invented a way of deliverance and He has found a ransom. His own Son has borne the penalty of our iniquities, and therefore your deliverance is certain, for God Himself has said, I have found a ransom. The clock of mercy has struck in heaven the hour of deliverance for all who trust in Him.

He who has begun this good work will renew your mind and make you wise, so that you may escape the corruption that is in the world through lust and become a partaker of the Divine Nature. This is that higher nature which is born in you by regeneration and which lifts you up into familiarity with God. Pray that He will keep you, not only from the outward act, but from the inward lust, for purity must reign within. In His wisdom He will teach you to keep yourself unspotted from the world, to turn away the eye from vanity, to make a covenant with your eyes, and to walk in that chaste and holy way which belongs to marriage, that lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, wherein alone the Lord has ordained that these mysteries should be known.

Let us pray together for you now.

O Lord our God, who hears the cries of those that seek Thee, look in mercy upon this soul who has cried and prayed much before Thee. We thank Thee for what Thou hast already done, and we ask Thee to perfect that which concerneth him. Work in him a thorough renewal of the mind, give him understanding and heavenly wisdom, that he may hate sin and love holiness. Speak to him, we beseech Thee, and show him mercy. Deliver him effectually, and enrich him with silver and gold from Thy treasury, with strength and joy and peace. Keep him by Thy power, that these sins may be forever far from him, and that he may live to declare the works of the Lord. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our only hope and our great Deliverer. Amen.

Be of good courage. He who has delivered you in part will deliver you wholly. Go on to declare what He has done for you, for if we had no troubles we would have less to declare. Tell abroad His works, and let your life henceforth show forth His praise.