Mike God bless you. Mike God does not force anyone to do anything. He is soverign. He does not violate mankind will. He gives us choices. He does not blackmail, nor intimidate. but satan does all of these things and more. Mike since mankind is in a fallen state and are sinners. God says "lets not lean on the arms of flesh, for it will fail you". God wants us to trust in Him. You cannot blame God for what other people do in your life. Your relationship with God seems conditional. When things seems right with a woman, God is okay, but when things are not right, you say "You spit in my face".
The lady was not being sincere, and honest with you. We all have to face disappointment, rejection, tragedy in life and deal with them. God cannot be blame for someone who is avoiding being honest with you. God does not force you to believe in Him and make you do things.
Nor must we reject ourselves by punishing ourselves with threaths and causes others to worry for us.
God warns us in Jeremiah 17:5 curse is the man who trusts in man, maketh flesh his arm, whose heart departeth from the Lord. Verse 6. "...he shall be like heath in the desert, and shall not see good come:but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness..." Verse 7 Blessed is the man that trust in the Lord and who hope in the Lord. Verse 8 "for he shall be like a tree planted by the river and bear much fruits...."
Father I pray that this man will give his heart to You, and make You the center of his life, so there will be a balance in him. Father send ministering angels of salvation to minster to him.
I pray against the spirit of rejection over his soul that was hammered in his life. I also come against the spirit of self-rejcetion against himself, and rejection of You, Lord. Father take the scales from his eyes that has blinded him. Remove the darkness from his life, and draw him with your loving kindness. Father I pray that there will be a stirring up of courage in him, faith, love in him to use to rise up. I pray that he will forgive those who have hurt and rejected him. I pray that he begins to love himself. Oh Lord draw him with your love and save him in Jesus name..amen