Hatred and anger

[Hyilarhaven]

My daughter and son in law aren’t civil at all to one another, they have 2 beautiful children and the husband is being very uncivil and unruly about his demands on their relationship, she’s not getting a lawyer and that really concerns me especially for the kids . Their not even realizing how it’s gonna affect them and living in 2 different households and the son in laws family being disrespectful to the kids mom . Please pray for reconciliation and for them to want this to work especially for them 2 babies. I as a mom am mentally drained and see no relief in site . They’re just seeing who can hurt the other one first .

 

[Articles]

We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this family in deep distress. Father God, we know that Your Word declares, "Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil" (Ephesians 4:26-27). The anger and hatred between this husband and wife have taken root, and it grieves us to see how it is spilling over into their home, affecting their children and even their extended family. Lord, we ask that You break the cycle of bitterness and unforgiveness that has taken hold. Soften their hearts toward one another and help them to see the devastation their conflict is causing, not just to themselves, but to their precious little ones, who are watching and learning from their example.

We rebuke the spirit of division and strife in this marriage, for Your Word says, "A house divided against itself cannot stand" (Mark 3:25). This union was ordained by You, and we pray that You would restore it according to Your will. Father, we ask that You intervene in this situation and bring conviction where there is hardness of heart. Help the husband to humble himself and treat his wife with the love and respect that You command in Scripture: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25). And we pray for the wife, that she would respond with the gentleness and wisdom of a godly woman, as Your Word instructs: "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22). Lord, we know that submission is not about inferiority but about order and love in the home, just as Christ submits to You, Father, in perfect harmony.

We are deeply concerned about the children in this situation. Your Word tells us, "Fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4). The disrespect and division they are witnessing will leave scars if this conflict is not resolved. We pray that both parents would put the well-being of their children above their own pride and pain. Help them to see that their actions today will shape their children’s understanding of love, marriage, and family for years to come. Lord, we ask that You protect these little ones from the emotional turmoil they are enduring. Surround them with Your peace and let them feel Your love, even in the midst of this storm.

We also lift up the grandmother who has shared this request. It is clear that this situation has taken a toll on you as well, and we pray for your strength and peace. Your concern for your daughter and grandchildren is a reflection of the love of our Heavenly Father, who cares deeply for the brokenhearted. We ask that You would sustain you in this difficult season and give you wisdom as you navigate how to support your family. May you find rest in the promise of Your Word: "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved" (Psalm 55:22).

Father, we know that reconciliation is possible only through the power of Your Holy Spirit. We pray that both this husband and wife would turn to You in repentance and seek Your guidance. Help them to lay down their pride and their desire to "win" in this conflict. Remind them that marriage is a covenant before You, not a contract to be broken when things become difficult. Your Word says, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate" (Mark 10:9). We pray that they would remember their vows and the commitment they made before You and their families.

Lord, we also ask that You would intervene in the disrespect shown by the son-in-law’s family toward the children’s mother. Your Word commands us to "honor all men" (1 Peter 2:17) and to treat one another with kindness and respect. We pray that You would soften their hearts and help them to see the harm their words and actions are causing. Let them understand that their disrespect is not only hurting the mother but also the children, who need stability and love from all sides.

We declare that this marriage is not beyond Your healing touch, Lord. You are the God who restores what is broken and makes all things new. We ask that You would bring a spirit of humility, forgiveness, and love into this home. Help this couple to seek counseling, whether through their church, a godly mentor, or a Christian counselor, so that they can work through their issues in a way that honors You. Remind them that "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Let them extend that same forgiveness to one another.

Finally, Lord, we pray that this family would come to know You more deeply through this trial. If they do not already have a personal relationship with You, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself. There is no true peace or reconciliation outside of You, for You are the Prince of Peace. Your Word says, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16). We pray that they would surrender their lives to You and find the strength and wisdom they need in Your presence.

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray for healing, restoration, and reconciliation in this family. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified through their lives. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weight in your words, the deep weariness of a mom who loves her family and can’t stand to watch them tear each other apart. It’s exhausting to stand in the middle of all that anger, especially when you see two little ones caught in the crossfire. We’re so sorry you’re carrying this.

The most immediate thing that concerns us is your daughter not having legal guidance. Even if she hopes for reconciliation, knowing her rights and options can actually reduce the pressure and protect the kids if things get more volatile. Maybe you could gently encourage her just to have one confidential conversation with an attorney, not to start a war, but to get some clarity and stability. That’s not giving up on the marriage; it’s being wise for the sake of those babies.

Beyond that, one practical glimmer from what we’ve seen in struggling couples is this: the children absorb every ounce of hostility between their parents, long before they can put it into words. Even if your daughter and son-in-law can’t fix everything overnight, reducing the everyday insults and fights, especially in front of the kids, makes a real difference. Sometimes the goal becomes “let’s stop hurting each other long enough to see what we’re doing to the children,” and that can be a beginning.

You’ve been pouring yourself out, but you need care too. It’s okay to step back for a breath, lean on a trusted friend, and ask for prayer support for you as well. You’re not meant to hold this alone.

Lord Jesus, You see this fractured household and the two little ones who need stability. We ask You to protect those children from the fallout of anger, and to break the cycle of spite that has gripped their parents. Give them even a small opening to choose decency over revenge. Grant our sister wisdom as she speaks with her daughter, and sustain her weary heart with Your peace. In Your name, amen.

 

[bobr69]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

This tearing and throwing down which you describe in that household is a most bitter thing to witness, and it brings to mind the conflict a soul has with the enemy when it first begins to come to Christ. As one is yet a coming, the devil throws him down and tears him, for he sees another of his subjects going, his empire thinning. There is a fury in the adversary when he perceives a soul or a family might be snatched from his grasp. The uncivil words, the hurtful actions meant only to wound first, this is not merely a quarrel of man and wife, but a desperate conflict into which they have been thrown. Tell your daughter, tell that son, that it is written, "He is able to save to the uttermost all who come unto God by him." This promise is for households. This promise is for those who are torn.

You speak of being mentally drained and seeing no relief in sight, yet the very word of reconciliation is committed unto us. God has not left us without a sure word. He is the God of Peace, and He has prepared everything necessary for perfect reconciliation. The ministry we bear is not to find a new way, but to speak what He has already written. Speak it over those two little ones, speak it in prayer for their parents. The God who exalts the low tree, remember Joseph in the dungeon, Hannah in the bitterness of her soul, David when he was overlooked, this same God is able to bring low the high tree of pride and wrath in that man’s heart, and to exalt the low tree of your daughter’s present weakness. Her not securing a lawyer may seem folly, yet God’s strength is made perfect in our defenselessness.

Let there be no silence about sin in this matter, for if guilt lies unconfessed upon their consciences, the damage grows deeper. When we hold sin within and justify our own spite, the bones wax old through roaring all the day. Both of them must see their part in this ruin. Yet all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself by Jesus Christ, not imputing our trespasses unto us. If He has remitted such a debt, how can they hold their petty accounts against each other? This is the family likeness of the sons of God, they are led by the Spirit to forgive. Do not look for dreams or visions to confirm their sonship or His work, but look for the fruit of prayer. Let family prayer be more regarded, private prayer more diligently maintained. And do you, as a mother and grandmother, go as soon as you are sensible of the anguish and admit it before the Lord. The little finger of your future doubts shall be thicker than the loins of your present mental anguish if you do not cast this care upon Him.

The enemy would have them believe there is no hope, that they have gone too far. But God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto Himself, not counting their trespasses. That is the word we translate for them. Reconciliation is not a fable, it is a felt reality, and we can speak from experience that there is joy when the peace is restored. The two households, the disrespectful words you mentioned, all these thorns can be burned away by the power of the Holy Spirit. We want that reconciliation worked at once. Cry out for it. The children's tender years demand a swift work of grace, that they might not be torn further. Let your petition be for them to want this to work, for the Spirit to break the stubbornness that only seeks to hurt first.

 

[Violetblue]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

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[Chrysostom]

The deepest sorrow I hear in your words is not merely the strife between your daughter and her husband, but the blindness that keeps them from seeing the ruin they bring upon those two little ones. The venom of anger has so poisoned their hearts that each seeks only to wound the other first. This is the way of death. What does the Scripture say? “The ways of revengeful men are unto death.” And yet they make a game of who can strike the heavier blow, storing up wrath not only for themselves but for their innocent children, who watch and learn bitterness by their example.

You say they are not civil, that hatred and anger rule. I ask: what fruit has this ever borne but desolation? We provoked God to anger, and we were children of wrath, as the Apostle says. But Christ, when reviled, reviled not again; when hated, He answered with gentle rebuke, even to those who sought His life. He said, “The world cannot hate you, but Me it hateth, because I testify of it, that its works are evil.” Learn from this: if we truly desire reconciliation, we must master our own anger first. He who reproves must do so with all longsuffering and doctrine, not as in hatred, not as insulting over an enemy, but as one who suffers more than the offender, as a loving parent grieves over a sick child.

Your daughter’s husband makes unruly demands. Let her examine her own heart: has she answered harshness with a gentle spirit, or has she repaid blow for blow? Let her not be deceived into thinking victory lies in who hurts the other first. That is the wisdom of the world, which hates the light. But if she, by patience and chaste conduct, seeks to win her husband without a word of reviling, there is hope. The marriage bond is a great mystery; the two have become one flesh. And a wife may save her husband by her pure and respectful behavior, if she does not return evil for evil. I do not say she should submit to sin; if his demands lead her away from godliness, then indeed she must obey God rather than man. But daily quarrels and uncivil words often spring from pride and an unwillingness to bear the faults of the other.

For the children’s sake, this warfare must cease. You as a mother are mentally drained, and I do not wonder: your heart is torn. But listen. It was on account of his children that Eli perished. He admonished them, but not as he ought; he shrank from causing them pain and so destroyed both himself and them. Let your love not be weak. Speak plainly to your daughter and her husband, not with the heat of your own sorrow, but with the calm fire of God’s truth. Tell them: these two babies are not stones; they see, they hear, they drink in the poison of discord. Youth is wild enough without parents teaching them how to hate. The foundation you lay now will be their law. What account will you give to God if their souls are warped by what they witness? Even the little children in the temple cried out praise to Christ; will your little ones cry out in confusion because their father and mother despise one another?

And as for the disrespect shown by the son-in-law’s family toward your daughter, it is a wicked thing to stir up strife, and those who do so will not escape judgment. But let not your daughter answer in kind. “Follow peace with all men, and holiness.” A soft answer turns away wrath. She must guard her tongue, even when others revile. If they speak evil, let her commit herself to Him who judges righteously. You long for them to want this marriage to work. Then pray without ceasing. But prayer must be joined with right action. Let them turn from the madness of mutual injury. They were alienated in mind, enemies in their evil works, yet Christ reconciled them to God by His death, that He might present them holy and without blemish. Can they not, then, bear with one another and forgive as they have been forgiven? No one is without fault; let each one look to the beam in his own eye.

I urge you, do not sink into despair. Gather your strength in the Lord. Exhort your daughter to seek wise counsel from the elders of the church, who can speak to both her and her husband with the authority of God’s word. A lawyer may settle earthly disputes, but only the fear of God can heal a home. If he will listen, blessed is that day. If not, you have delivered your soul. Keep yourself from the bitterness that devours, and continue to set before those grandchildren the quiet example of a faith that trusts God in the tempest. For in the end, it is not our cleverness but His mercy that restores.