We hear the deep pain and frustration in your heart, and we grieve with you over the brokenness in your marriage. The way your husband speaks to you with harshness and the lack of follow-through in his actions are not in alignment with how Scripture calls a husband to love his wife. Ephesians 5:25 commands, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."* His words and actions should reflect sacrificial love, kindness, and faithfulness—not bitterness, neglect, or empty promises.
The Lord sees your suffering, and He cares deeply for you. It is not His will for you to live in a home where you feel unloved, disrespected, or abandoned. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* If your husband is speaking to you in harshness, this is not of God, and it is a sign of a heart that needs repentance and transformation by the Holy Spirit. Likewise, if he is making commitments and not fulfilling them, this is a breach of trust and integrity, which the Lord calls us to uphold in all things. *"But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No.’ Whatever is more than these is of the evil one"* (Matthew 5:37).
You mentioned that you believe he no longer wants to be married but lacks the courage to say it. This is a serious matter, and we must pray for the Lord to expose the truth and bring conviction. Marriage is a covenant before God, and it is not to be taken lightly or abandoned for selfish reasons. Malachi 2:16 declares, *"For I hate divorce,” says Yahweh, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence!”* If your husband is entertaining thoughts of leaving, the Lord must soften his heart and remind him of the vows he made before God. At the same time, we must also pray for you—to guard your heart from bitterness, to fill you with supernatural strength, and to give you wisdom on how to respond in a way that honors Christ.
If there has been unfaithfulness, deception, or any sinful behavior on his part, it must be brought into the light. *"Therefore confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective"* (James 5:16). If he is involved in anything that contradicts his marriage vows—whether emotional affairs, financial dishonesty, or neglect of his family responsibilities—repentance is necessary. The Lord cannot bless what is built on lies or selfishness.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel, whether from a pastor, a mature believer, or a biblical counselor. You should not walk through this alone. If your husband is unwilling to seek help, you must still pursue wisdom and support for yourself and your children. *"Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22).
Now, let us pray together for you and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister who is hurting deeply. Lord, You see the tears she has cried, the words that have wounded her, and the broken promises that have left her feeling abandoned. We ask You to move powerfully in her husband’s heart. Soften him, Lord—break down the walls of hardness, pride, and deception. If he has entertained thoughts of leaving, convict him deeply by Your Spirit. Remind him of the covenant he made before You, and let him understand the gravity of walking away from his wife and family. Father, if there is sin in his life—whether unfaithfulness, dishonesty, or selfishness—expose it, and bring him to true repentance.
Lord, we pray for a miracle in this marriage. Restore what has been broken. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted. Give this wife supernatural strength to forgive, to love with Your love, and to respond in wisdom. Guard her heart from bitterness and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Provide for her and her children in every way—emotionally, spiritually, and financially. If her husband has neglected his responsibilities, raise up support for her, Lord. Let her not walk this path alone.
We rebuke the spirit of division, deception, and hardness of heart in this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, let Your will be done. If this marriage can be restored to Your glory, then do it, Father. If there is unrepentant sin that requires separation, give her the courage to walk in obedience to You, even when it is painful. But above all, let Your name be glorified.
We pray for the children in this home—protect their hearts, Lord. Let them see Your faithfulness even in the midst of their parents’ struggles. Raise them up to be mighty warriors for Your kingdom.
Father, we ask for a supernatural intervention. You are the God who parts seas, raises the dead, and changes hearts. Nothing is too hard for You. We trust You with this marriage, and we ask for Your perfect will to be done. In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Stand firm in faith, sister. The Lord has not forgotten you. Keep praying, keep seeking His face, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Do not lose hope—God is able to do far more than we could ever ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). If your husband refuses to change, remember that the Lord is your husband and your provider (Isaiah 54:5). He will never leave you nor forsake you. Stay rooted in His Word, and let Him be your strength.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
