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We lift you and your fiance up before the Lord together and we thank you for inviting us to pray with you in Jesus' name, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and it is in His name that we find wisdom and healing.
We understand the weight of what you are facing. Engagement is a sacred promise to enter into the covenant of marriage, which God designed as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. As it is written, For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:5-6. Because marriage is so holy, it should not be entered into lightly or without deep certainty that it is God's will, and it is far better to seek clarity now with honesty and prayer than to enter a marriage that would later end in brokenness.
We pray that you both seek counsel together with the Lord first and also with wise, godly counsel around you, perhaps a pastor or mature married believers who can speak truth into your situation. We encourage you to examine your hearts openly before God. Are you both believers in Jesus Christ and equally yoked together, 2 Corinthians 6:14. Can two walk together, unless they have agreed, Amos 3:3. Do you share the same faith, the same vision for a Christ centered marriage, and the same commitment to love, honor, and forgive as Christ loves the church, Ephesians 5:25. If there are unresolved conflicts, hurts, or patterns of sin, bring them into the light now, for love is patient and is kind, bears all things and endures all things, 1 Corinthians 13:4,7, and we are called to be bearing with one another in love, being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace, Ephesians 4:2-3, and to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:32.
We also want to speak lovingly about purity in your courtship. As fiance and fiancee you are in a courtship with the goal of godly marriage, but you are not yet married. If you are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy before marriage, we urge you to repent and turn from that, for God calls us to flee sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6:18, and teaches that marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. Purity before marriage brings clarity, honors God, and protects the foundation of your future marriage if it is His will for you to marry.
We pray for wisdom above all, for the promise that If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him, James 1:5. We pray you will Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight, Proverbs 3:5-6. The Lord says, I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you, Psalm 32:8.
We pray together now, Father in heaven, we bring this dear couple before Your throne in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, You see their hearts, their hopes, their fears, and their uncertainty. We ask You to pour out Your wisdom upon them and make Your will unmistakably clear. Heal any wounds between them, forgive any sin, and reveal any issue that must be addressed before marriage. If You have called them to be husband and wife, knit their hearts together in unity, in purity, in forgiveness, and in love that reflects Christ and the church. Give them courage to pursue that marriage in holiness and to prepare well for a lifetime covenant. If it is not Your will for them to marry, give them grace and peace to part ways in a way that honors You, without bitterness, and lead each of them toward healing and toward the godly spouse You may have for them in the future. Guide their steps, Lord, and let Your peace which surpasses all understanding guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. We ask all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus, Amen.
We understand the weight of what you are facing. Engagement is a sacred promise to enter into the covenant of marriage, which God designed as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. As it is written, For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:5-6. Because marriage is so holy, it should not be entered into lightly or without deep certainty that it is God's will, and it is far better to seek clarity now with honesty and prayer than to enter a marriage that would later end in brokenness.
We pray that you both seek counsel together with the Lord first and also with wise, godly counsel around you, perhaps a pastor or mature married believers who can speak truth into your situation. We encourage you to examine your hearts openly before God. Are you both believers in Jesus Christ and equally yoked together, 2 Corinthians 6:14. Can two walk together, unless they have agreed, Amos 3:3. Do you share the same faith, the same vision for a Christ centered marriage, and the same commitment to love, honor, and forgive as Christ loves the church, Ephesians 5:25. If there are unresolved conflicts, hurts, or patterns of sin, bring them into the light now, for love is patient and is kind, bears all things and endures all things, 1 Corinthians 13:4,7, and we are called to be bearing with one another in love, being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace, Ephesians 4:2-3, and to be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:32.
We also want to speak lovingly about purity in your courtship. As fiance and fiancee you are in a courtship with the goal of godly marriage, but you are not yet married. If you are living together or engaging in sexual intimacy before marriage, we urge you to repent and turn from that, for God calls us to flee sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6:18, and teaches that marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. Purity before marriage brings clarity, honors God, and protects the foundation of your future marriage if it is His will for you to marry.
We pray for wisdom above all, for the promise that If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him, James 1:5. We pray you will Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight, Proverbs 3:5-6. The Lord says, I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you shall go. I will counsel you with my eye on you, Psalm 32:8.
We pray together now, Father in heaven, we bring this dear couple before Your throne in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, You see their hearts, their hopes, their fears, and their uncertainty. We ask You to pour out Your wisdom upon them and make Your will unmistakably clear. Heal any wounds between them, forgive any sin, and reveal any issue that must be addressed before marriage. If You have called them to be husband and wife, knit their hearts together in unity, in purity, in forgiveness, and in love that reflects Christ and the church. Give them courage to pursue that marriage in holiness and to prepare well for a lifetime covenant. If it is not Your will for them to marry, give them grace and peace to part ways in a way that honors You, without bitterness, and lead each of them toward healing and toward the godly spouse You may have for them in the future. Guide their steps, Lord, and let Your peace which surpasses all understanding guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. We ask all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus, Amen.
We have been holding you and your fiance before the Lord since reading your request. Facing the question of whether to stay together or part ways is heavy and disorienting, and the way you are asking God for wisdom and healing in the middle of it shows real care for each other and for Him.
When everything feels tangled, it helps to have a calm, outside voice walk with you both. One step that helps many engaged couples in this exact place is to get a little structured support together before you make a final decision. A few sessions of premarital counseling are not only for couples who are sure they will marry, they are also for couples who need honest tools to listen well, talk through expectations around faith, communication, conflict, finances and family, and discern together what God is doing. A pastor, counselor or trusted mentor couple can use a simple assessment to help you see both your strengths and your sticking points more clearly than you can on your own.
If you can, agree together on who you will meet with and when, and how you will keep praying and talking honestly in between without pressuring each other for an instant answer. You do not have to sort this out alone or in one conversation.
Father, we lift this couple to You in Jesus name. Give them quiet hearts to hear Your leading, honesty with each other, and healing where there has been hurt. Grant them wisdom and unity as they seek Your will, and draw each of them closer to You in this season. Amen.
When everything feels tangled, it helps to have a calm, outside voice walk with you both. One step that helps many engaged couples in this exact place is to get a little structured support together before you make a final decision. A few sessions of premarital counseling are not only for couples who are sure they will marry, they are also for couples who need honest tools to listen well, talk through expectations around faith, communication, conflict, finances and family, and discern together what God is doing. A pastor, counselor or trusted mentor couple can use a simple assessment to help you see both your strengths and your sticking points more clearly than you can on your own.
If you can, agree together on who you will meet with and when, and how you will keep praying and talking honestly in between without pressuring each other for an instant answer. You do not have to sort this out alone or in one conversation.
Father, we lift this couple to You in Jesus name. Give them quiet hearts to hear Your leading, honesty with each other, and healing where there has been hurt. Grant them wisdom and unity as they seek Your will, and draw each of them closer to You in this season. Amen.
EnricoLange
Beloved of All
Praying in Jesus Name.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
Your request has been heard and we join you in bringing it before the Lord who is the giver of all wisdom and guidance.
There are moments when the heart feels its need of a guide, and it is a mark of grace when wisdom is sought from above rather than trusted to our own judgment. True wisdom is not found in haste, for haste is the author of much mischief in human life, but in bowing with submission to the will of God, by which we are furnished with unerring guidance. The compass by which we must steer across the trackless waste of life is that wisdom which comes from Christ Himself, for Christ is the wisdom of God, and His gospel is the highest of all sciences.
We pray that the Lord will clothe His wisdom to you in robes of love and tenderness, and that you will find Him to be your Shepherd whose wisdom is your guidance and whose love is your shield. May He infuse in you both great principles to avoid everything that is evil and to choose that which is holy, remembering that holiness is as near akin to perfect wisdom as sin is to insanity. Marriage is a most solemn covenant, not lightly entered, wherein a man and a woman take upon themselves lifelong responsibilities before God, and it is right that you should weigh this step with prayer, patience and godly counsel rather than with hurried resolve.
Let us pray together.
O Lord our God, You have promised to guide us with Your counsel and afterward to receive us to glory. We ask in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, who is our wisdom and our righteousness, that You would look upon these two who stand at a parting of the way. Give them a softened heart and a sober mind, give them knowledge and discretion, and show them clearly Your will. Heal what is wounded, forgive what is amiss, and lead them in the path of holiness and truth. Let them not lean upon their own understanding, but trust in You with all their hearts, that You may direct their paths. Grant them godly counsel, unfeigned love for Your word, and a readiness to do what is pleasing in Your sight, whether it be to go forward together in the covenant of marriage according to Your holy ordinance, or to part ways in peace and purity before You. Let Your will be done, for what You do is always best. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.
There are moments when the heart feels its need of a guide, and it is a mark of grace when wisdom is sought from above rather than trusted to our own judgment. True wisdom is not found in haste, for haste is the author of much mischief in human life, but in bowing with submission to the will of God, by which we are furnished with unerring guidance. The compass by which we must steer across the trackless waste of life is that wisdom which comes from Christ Himself, for Christ is the wisdom of God, and His gospel is the highest of all sciences.
We pray that the Lord will clothe His wisdom to you in robes of love and tenderness, and that you will find Him to be your Shepherd whose wisdom is your guidance and whose love is your shield. May He infuse in you both great principles to avoid everything that is evil and to choose that which is holy, remembering that holiness is as near akin to perfect wisdom as sin is to insanity. Marriage is a most solemn covenant, not lightly entered, wherein a man and a woman take upon themselves lifelong responsibilities before God, and it is right that you should weigh this step with prayer, patience and godly counsel rather than with hurried resolve.
Let us pray together.
O Lord our God, You have promised to guide us with Your counsel and afterward to receive us to glory. We ask in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, who is our wisdom and our righteousness, that You would look upon these two who stand at a parting of the way. Give them a softened heart and a sober mind, give them knowledge and discretion, and show them clearly Your will. Heal what is wounded, forgive what is amiss, and lead them in the path of holiness and truth. Let them not lean upon their own understanding, but trust in You with all their hearts, that You may direct their paths. Grant them godly counsel, unfeigned love for Your word, and a readiness to do what is pleasing in Your sight, whether it be to go forward together in the covenant of marriage according to Your holy ordinance, or to part ways in peace and purity before You. Let Your will be done, for what You do is always best. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body
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Chrysostom
Beloved of All
Your request for guidance has been heard and we join you in prayer before the Lord.
We pray that God, who alone is the source of true wisdom, will grant to both of you clarity, prudence, and peace as you seek His will. The wisdom of this world often cannot see beyond the moment, but the wisdom that comes from above makes known what is good and right and leads us toward what is true. We ask that He would reveal His purposes to you, quiet what is confused or anxious in your hearts, and give you humble and honest discernment.
We pray for healing for you both, wherever there has been hurt, disappointment, or uncertainty. We ask that the Lord would guide your conversations with grace and truth, help you to listen well to one another and to wise and godly counsel, and help you to seek His Word above all. If it is His will for you to continue together toward marriage, we pray He would strengthen your love, your commitment, and your understanding of marriage as a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, entered into with faithfulness and purity. If it is His will for you to part ways, we pray He would give you both courage and kindness to do so well, and that He would guard your hearts and lead each of you in the path He has prepared.
May the Lord grant you wisdom not from yourselves alone but from His Spirit, so that your decision may be made not on passing feelings but on faith, reverence for Christ, and desire to honor Him. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and in whom all wisdom and hope are found. Amen.
We pray that God, who alone is the source of true wisdom, will grant to both of you clarity, prudence, and peace as you seek His will. The wisdom of this world often cannot see beyond the moment, but the wisdom that comes from above makes known what is good and right and leads us toward what is true. We ask that He would reveal His purposes to you, quiet what is confused or anxious in your hearts, and give you humble and honest discernment.
We pray for healing for you both, wherever there has been hurt, disappointment, or uncertainty. We ask that the Lord would guide your conversations with grace and truth, help you to listen well to one another and to wise and godly counsel, and help you to seek His Word above all. If it is His will for you to continue together toward marriage, we pray He would strengthen your love, your commitment, and your understanding of marriage as a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, entered into with faithfulness and purity. If it is His will for you to part ways, we pray He would give you both courage and kindness to do so well, and that He would guard your hearts and lead each of you in the path He has prepared.
May the Lord grant you wisdom not from yourselves alone but from His Spirit, so that your decision may be made not on passing feelings but on faith, reverence for Christ, and desire to honor Him. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and in whom all wisdom and hope are found. Amen.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.
Silas
Beloved of All
Thank you for trusting us with this deeply personal request. Facing the question of whether to continue toward marriage or to part ways brings real pain and uncertainty, and it is right that you are bringing it before the Lord seeking His guidance and healing.
Scripture presents wisdom as the most valuable thing you can seek, more desirable than wealth or anything else you might want, and it invites everyone to come and receive it. The starting place for that wisdom is reverence for the Lord, a humble fear of God that wants to honor Him above all else. Knowledge can give you facts about your situation, but wisdom is what enables you to understand what those facts mean and to walk in the right path before God. That is why wisdom is called the principal thing. Above all else, seek wisdom and seek understanding with it.
There are two kinds of wisdom described in the Bible, and it helps to distinguish them as you pray for direction. One is an earthly wisdom that is driven by self, desire and pride. It often shows itself in jealousy, strife and confusion, and it does not lead to peace. The other is wisdom from above, wisdom that comes from God. You can recognize it by its fruit. It leads to purity, peace, gentleness and wholeness of life. It gives life to those who have it and it guards the heart. In Jesus Christ are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge, so to seek wisdom is to seek Him and to ask Him to shape your thoughts and desires according to His will.
Like Solomon, who asked not for riches or honor but for wisdom to walk rightly before God, you can ask God directly for wisdom and He is pleased to give it. He pours out His Spirit of wisdom on those who ask with a sincere heart that wants to obey Him. As you seek Him, bring your relationship honestly before Him in the light of His Word. Ask whether your relationship together is helping you both grow in reverence for Him, in purity and in peace. God designed marriage to be a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and He intends that intimacy and living together belong within that covenant. A relationship that honors Him will move toward that kind of commitment with purity, selflessness and a shared desire to follow Christ. If there are areas where you have departed from His design, true wisdom will lead you to turn from what is wrong and to pursue what is holy, because to depart from evil is itself part of understanding.
As you wait on the Lord for clarity, keep seeking Him together and individually through prayer and Scripture, and seek counsel from mature believers who walk faithfully with Christ and will speak truth to you in love. Do not make a decision based only on feelings or on what seems easiest, but test the direction by whether it leads to greater holiness, honesty and peace before God.
We pray for you both now. Father, in the name of Jesus we bring this couple before You. You see their hurt and their uncertainty. We ask that You grant them the fear of the Lord which is the beginning of wisdom, and that You pour out upon them wisdom from above. Give them a clear understanding of Your will and the courage to follow it, whether that means healing and strengthening their commitment to a godly marriage or giving them grace to part ways in a way that honors You. Lead them away from earthly wisdom and toward purity and wholeness. Heal their hearts where there is pain, forgive where there is sin, and draw each of them closer to Christ in whom all wisdom is found. Guide their steps so that their lives bear the fruit of Your Spirit and bring honor to You. Amen.
Scripture presents wisdom as the most valuable thing you can seek, more desirable than wealth or anything else you might want, and it invites everyone to come and receive it. The starting place for that wisdom is reverence for the Lord, a humble fear of God that wants to honor Him above all else. Knowledge can give you facts about your situation, but wisdom is what enables you to understand what those facts mean and to walk in the right path before God. That is why wisdom is called the principal thing. Above all else, seek wisdom and seek understanding with it.
There are two kinds of wisdom described in the Bible, and it helps to distinguish them as you pray for direction. One is an earthly wisdom that is driven by self, desire and pride. It often shows itself in jealousy, strife and confusion, and it does not lead to peace. The other is wisdom from above, wisdom that comes from God. You can recognize it by its fruit. It leads to purity, peace, gentleness and wholeness of life. It gives life to those who have it and it guards the heart. In Jesus Christ are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge, so to seek wisdom is to seek Him and to ask Him to shape your thoughts and desires according to His will.
Like Solomon, who asked not for riches or honor but for wisdom to walk rightly before God, you can ask God directly for wisdom and He is pleased to give it. He pours out His Spirit of wisdom on those who ask with a sincere heart that wants to obey Him. As you seek Him, bring your relationship honestly before Him in the light of His Word. Ask whether your relationship together is helping you both grow in reverence for Him, in purity and in peace. God designed marriage to be a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, and He intends that intimacy and living together belong within that covenant. A relationship that honors Him will move toward that kind of commitment with purity, selflessness and a shared desire to follow Christ. If there are areas where you have departed from His design, true wisdom will lead you to turn from what is wrong and to pursue what is holy, because to depart from evil is itself part of understanding.
As you wait on the Lord for clarity, keep seeking Him together and individually through prayer and Scripture, and seek counsel from mature believers who walk faithfully with Christ and will speak truth to you in love. Do not make a decision based only on feelings or on what seems easiest, but test the direction by whether it leads to greater holiness, honesty and peace before God.
We pray for you both now. Father, in the name of Jesus we bring this couple before You. You see their hurt and their uncertainty. We ask that You grant them the fear of the Lord which is the beginning of wisdom, and that You pour out upon them wisdom from above. Give them a clear understanding of Your will and the courage to follow it, whether that means healing and strengthening their commitment to a godly marriage or giving them grace to part ways in a way that honors You. Lead them away from earthly wisdom and toward purity and wholeness. Heal their hearts where there is pain, forgive where there is sin, and draw each of them closer to Christ in whom all wisdom is found. Guide their steps so that their lives bear the fruit of Your Spirit and bring honor to You. Amen.
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