There is someone ### who I have been helping financially. This person is a ### but is still trying to build their channel and is struggling financially. They are a ### and a professing Christian although they may be a bit confused and involved in false teachings. This person recently moved and I told them that I'd help with anything they need which I still intend to do. But in the span of the past few days, they've been asking for things a lot. It hasn't been excessive (and maybe it's just stressful for me right now because I have my own responsibilities I'm trying to take care of at this time that I'm concerned about) but it has been multiple requests. I believe this person is honest. They always try to show me they are truly using the money I give them to get what they have asked for help with. But I do worry that they are getting too dependent. They are trying to get a job soon so they can provide for themselves. Please pray for me about this all. This person is now messaging me again. There is a certain way they always reach out to me when they may need something and they are reaching out again this way. I don't have any money right now to send them at this moment and likely won't for the next few weeks. Please pray for me about this. So the person told me what they want now. As I said previously, I can't send anything for a while though. The thing they're asking for is kind of a necessity but could also be seen as more of a want than a need. Please pray about all this. Pray that I am not being used in any way. So after posting this request, I told this person that I would have to wait until I got paid in a few weeks to send them something. They started messaging me again this week which is a week or two later from when I told them that I would have to wait until I got paid. Around the same time that they messaged me this week, I found out that I lost my weekly check from my new job completely because I filled out tax forms wrong and my entire check got taken up by taxes. I have no take home pay whatsoever because of this this week. I explained this to this person and told them that because of this, I'd have to wait until the end of next month to send them anything. I have to wait because this situation has pushed me back financially and stopped me from handling a lot of urgent responsibilities I needed to handle with that paycheck that I lost this week. I thought they understood but then I woke up just now and they have left me a voice message asking if I can send them something to help pay with rent. They were very apologetic and the amount is very small but I just don't have it at all. Please pray for me about this. I get stressed out about this situation - maybe because I have a lot of my own financial burdens. I love helping them but I'm wondering if I made the right decision to start doing so. I don't know what to think or do. I responded to this person's newest message and told them once again about my situation that is causing me to not be able to send them anything for a while. I'm not sure how they feel. I hope they don't feel bad in any way. But there is also nothing I can do. Please pray for them and for God to provide them with everything they need. Please also pray for me about this situation as a whole because, again, I just don't know what to think about it and feel a lot of stress about it. Since posting all those things, I feel uncomfortable continuing to send this person money because there's just something off about the whole situation. Please pray that God would providentially stop my relationship with this person in terms of sending them money. This person recently reached out to me again. As I've stated before, there's a certain way they reach out to me that always indicates they need something. Maybe this is a cultural behavior. Every time they reach out to me like this, it's always at a time where I already have a bunch of other responsibilities to deal with and it's not good timing. I agreed to help this person with something else but after that, again, I really am praying that God would providentially end this relationship because something about it doesn't seem right. Please pray for me about all this and that He would. This person has now asked me for money to get things for their house. I do not have the funds AT ALL to do that and will have to tell them so. Please pray that God would end this relationship. Thank you.
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We hear your burden, and we lift it before the Lord with hearts full of compassion and wisdom. This situation is not just about finances, it is about discernment, boundaries, and the condition of both your heart and the heart of your brother or sister in Christ. Let us first affirm that your desire to help is rooted in love, and Scripture calls us to generosity: "But whoever has the world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and closes his heart of compassion against him, how does God’s love remain in him?" (1 John 3:17). Yet, even in generosity, we must walk in wisdom and stewardship, for God also calls us to prudence: "For which of you, desiring to build a tower, doesn’t first sit down and count the cost, to see if he has enough to complete it?" (Luke 14:28).
The pattern you describe, repeated requests, a sense of dependency, and the timing of their outreach, raises concerns that must be addressed with both truth and grace. While their needs may be real, the manner in which they are communicated and the strain it places on you suggest a lack of self-sufficiency and, perhaps, an unhealthy reliance on others rather than on God. Scripture warns us: "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: ‘If anyone doesn’t want to work, neither let him eat.’" (2 Thessalonians 3:10). This is not to say they are lazy, but it is a reminder that God’s design is for His people to labor diligently and trust Him for provision, not to place undue burden on others.
We must also gently address the possibility that this relationship has become enabling rather than empowering. True love does not foster dependency; it encourages growth and responsibility. "Let him who stole steal no more; but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing that is good, that he may have something to give to him who has need" (Ephesians 4:28). If this person is capable of working but is not actively pursuing employment with urgency, then your continued financial support may be hindering their progress rather than helping it. This is not love, it is misplaced compassion.
Furthermore, we must rebuke any spirit of manipulation or entitlement that may be at work, whether knowingly or unknowingly. Scripture is clear: "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Philippians 2:4). Yet, when requests become frequent and pressured, especially when you have communicated your own financial limitations, it crosses into a lack of consideration for your well-being. True Christian fellowship does not demand; it gives freely and receives graciously.
We also note your stress and the toll this situation is taking on you. The Lord does not call us to carry burdens that He has not equipped us to bear. "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Your financial responsibilities to your own household and obligations must take precedence. "But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever" (1 Timothy 5:8). You are not being selfish by prioritizing your own needs and those of your family, you are being faithful.
Now, let us turn to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts heavy with concern for our brother/sister in this situation. Lord, we lift up to You, asking that You would meet every need according to Your riches in glory. Provide for them in ways that only You can, Father, and open doors of opportunity for them to find stable employment and financial independence. We pray that You would break any spirit of dependency or entitlement in their life and replace it with a spirit of diligence, trust, and gratitude.
Lord, we also lift up our brother/sister who has been giving so generously. Father, we ask that You would grant them wisdom and discernment in this situation. Give them the strength to set boundaries where needed and the courage to speak truth in love. We pray that You would release them from any guilt or obligation that is not of You, and that You would provide for their own financial needs abundantly. Protect their heart from bitterness, resentment, or fear, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we ask that You would providentially intervene in this relationship. If it is not Your will for this financial support to continue, we pray that You would make a way for it to end naturally and gently. Close doors that need to be closed, and open doors that lead to healthier, more balanced relationships. Guard both hearts from harm, and let Your will be done in all things.
Lord, we also ask that You would reveal any false teachings or confusion in ’s life. Draw them closer to You, Father, and let them be rooted and grounded in Your Word. Surround them with godly influences who will speak truth into their life and help them grow in their faith.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would heal any brokenness in this situation. Restore what has been strained, and let Your love and grace abound. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, through whom we have access to Your throne of grace. Amen.
In moving forward, we encourage you to prayerfully consider the following steps:
1. Set Clear Boundaries: It is not unkind to communicate your limits. You might say, "I care about you deeply, and I want to see you thrive. However, I am not in a position to continue providing financial support at this time. I believe God has a plan for your provision, and I will be praying for you as you seek Him and pursue employment."
2. Encourage Self-Sufficiency: If this person is capable of working, gently but firmly encourage them to seek employment with urgency. Offer to pray with them or help them brainstorm ways to generate income, but do not enable a mindset of dependency.
3. Examine Your Motives: Ask the Lord to search your heart and reveal any areas where you may be acting out of guilt, obligation, or a desire to "fix" their situation. True generosity flows from a heart of love, not compulsion. "Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7).
4. Seek Godly Counsel: If possible, speak with a pastor, elder, or trusted Christian friend about this situation. Sometimes an outside perspective can provide clarity and confirmation of what the Lord is speaking to your heart.
5. Release the Burden: Ultimately, this person’s provision is not your responsibility, it is God’s. Release them into His hands and trust that He will care for them. "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved" (Psalm 55:22).
6. Guard Your Heart: It is natural to feel stress or concern, but do not let this situation consume you. Spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, allowing His peace to guard your heart and mind. "Don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).
Lastly, we must address the absence of the name of Jesus in your request. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is by His name that we are saved. "Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’" (John 14:6). "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12). If this person does not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, their greatest need is not financial, it is spiritual. Pray for their salvation, and if the Lord leads, share the gospel with them. True provision begins with a relationship with Christ.
We stand with you in this, trusting that God will guide your steps and bring resolution to this situation according to His perfect will. May He fill you with His peace and assurance as you seek Him.
The pattern you describe, repeated requests, a sense of dependency, and the timing of their outreach, raises concerns that must be addressed with both truth and grace. While their needs may be real, the manner in which they are communicated and the strain it places on you suggest a lack of self-sufficiency and, perhaps, an unhealthy reliance on others rather than on God. Scripture warns us: "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: ‘If anyone doesn’t want to work, neither let him eat.’" (2 Thessalonians 3:10). This is not to say they are lazy, but it is a reminder that God’s design is for His people to labor diligently and trust Him for provision, not to place undue burden on others.
We must also gently address the possibility that this relationship has become enabling rather than empowering. True love does not foster dependency; it encourages growth and responsibility. "Let him who stole steal no more; but rather let him labor, working with his hands the thing that is good, that he may have something to give to him who has need" (Ephesians 4:28). If this person is capable of working but is not actively pursuing employment with urgency, then your continued financial support may be hindering their progress rather than helping it. This is not love, it is misplaced compassion.
Furthermore, we must rebuke any spirit of manipulation or entitlement that may be at work, whether knowingly or unknowingly. Scripture is clear: "Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others" (Philippians 2:4). Yet, when requests become frequent and pressured, especially when you have communicated your own financial limitations, it crosses into a lack of consideration for your well-being. True Christian fellowship does not demand; it gives freely and receives graciously.
We also note your stress and the toll this situation is taking on you. The Lord does not call us to carry burdens that He has not equipped us to bear. "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Your financial responsibilities to your own household and obligations must take precedence. "But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever" (1 Timothy 5:8). You are not being selfish by prioritizing your own needs and those of your family, you are being faithful.
Now, let us turn to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts heavy with concern for our brother/sister in this situation. Lord, we lift up to You, asking that You would meet every need according to Your riches in glory. Provide for them in ways that only You can, Father, and open doors of opportunity for them to find stable employment and financial independence. We pray that You would break any spirit of dependency or entitlement in their life and replace it with a spirit of diligence, trust, and gratitude.
Lord, we also lift up our brother/sister who has been giving so generously. Father, we ask that You would grant them wisdom and discernment in this situation. Give them the strength to set boundaries where needed and the courage to speak truth in love. We pray that You would release them from any guilt or obligation that is not of You, and that You would provide for their own financial needs abundantly. Protect their heart from bitterness, resentment, or fear, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we ask that You would providentially intervene in this relationship. If it is not Your will for this financial support to continue, we pray that You would make a way for it to end naturally and gently. Close doors that need to be closed, and open doors that lead to healthier, more balanced relationships. Guard both hearts from harm, and let Your will be done in all things.
Lord, we also ask that You would reveal any false teachings or confusion in ’s life. Draw them closer to You, Father, and let them be rooted and grounded in Your Word. Surround them with godly influences who will speak truth into their life and help them grow in their faith.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would heal any brokenness in this situation. Restore what has been strained, and let Your love and grace abound. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, through whom we have access to Your throne of grace. Amen.
In moving forward, we encourage you to prayerfully consider the following steps:
1. Set Clear Boundaries: It is not unkind to communicate your limits. You might say, "I care about you deeply, and I want to see you thrive. However, I am not in a position to continue providing financial support at this time. I believe God has a plan for your provision, and I will be praying for you as you seek Him and pursue employment."
2. Encourage Self-Sufficiency: If this person is capable of working, gently but firmly encourage them to seek employment with urgency. Offer to pray with them or help them brainstorm ways to generate income, but do not enable a mindset of dependency.
3. Examine Your Motives: Ask the Lord to search your heart and reveal any areas where you may be acting out of guilt, obligation, or a desire to "fix" their situation. True generosity flows from a heart of love, not compulsion. "Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7).
4. Seek Godly Counsel: If possible, speak with a pastor, elder, or trusted Christian friend about this situation. Sometimes an outside perspective can provide clarity and confirmation of what the Lord is speaking to your heart.
5. Release the Burden: Ultimately, this person’s provision is not your responsibility, it is God’s. Release them into His hands and trust that He will care for them. "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved" (Psalm 55:22).
6. Guard Your Heart: It is natural to feel stress or concern, but do not let this situation consume you. Spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, allowing His peace to guard your heart and mind. "Don’t be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).
Lastly, we must address the absence of the name of Jesus in your request. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father, and it is by His name that we are saved. "Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’" (John 14:6). "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12). If this person does not know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, their greatest need is not financial, it is spiritual. Pray for their salvation, and if the Lord leads, share the gospel with them. True provision begins with a relationship with Christ.
We stand with you in this, trusting that God will guide your steps and bring resolution to this situation according to His perfect will. May He fill you with His peace and assurance as you seek Him.
We can feel the weight of this in your words, the genuine care you have for this person, mixed with the stress of your own responsibilities and that sharp shock of losing a whole paycheck. That alone would be disorienting, and having to explain it again while still being asked for help must have felt like a knot in your stomach.
What stands out to us is the pattern you’ve noticed: a certain way they reach out, a dread that stirs in you before you even hear the request. That’s not selfishness, that’s your internal boundary system trying to get your attention. Healthy boundaries aren’t walls that make us unloving; they’re the property lines that let love be genuine and sustainable. Right now, your ability to give is gone, and that’s not a failure, it’s simply reality. Saying no because you have nothing to give isn’t unkind; it’s honest.
Something practical: consider writing down a brief, simple phrase to use when they reach out again, something you can send without having to re-debate the whole situation internally each time. Something like, “I care about you, but my situation hasn’t changed and I’m not able to help financially.” Having that ready can lower your stress in the moment and protect you from carrying guilt that doesn’t belong to you.
We’re also praying with you that God would close this door if it’s not right. That’s a prayer we can join with a clear conscience, because it asks for his discernment over what you can’t fully see.
Let’s pray.
Father, you see the pressure our friend is under, the weight of their own responsibilities and the confusion over this relationship. Give them clarity, and if it’s your will, let this financial tie come to a natural, peaceful end. Please provide for the one in need in ways that don’t lean on others in unhealthy ways, and bring them to a place of stable provision and sound teaching. Guard our friend’s heart from false guilt and give them the steady assurance that saying no when they have nothing left is not a sin but wisdom. In Jesus’ name, amen.
What stands out to us is the pattern you’ve noticed: a certain way they reach out, a dread that stirs in you before you even hear the request. That’s not selfishness, that’s your internal boundary system trying to get your attention. Healthy boundaries aren’t walls that make us unloving; they’re the property lines that let love be genuine and sustainable. Right now, your ability to give is gone, and that’s not a failure, it’s simply reality. Saying no because you have nothing to give isn’t unkind; it’s honest.
Something practical: consider writing down a brief, simple phrase to use when they reach out again, something you can send without having to re-debate the whole situation internally each time. Something like, “I care about you, but my situation hasn’t changed and I’m not able to help financially.” Having that ready can lower your stress in the moment and protect you from carrying guilt that doesn’t belong to you.
We’re also praying with you that God would close this door if it’s not right. That’s a prayer we can join with a clear conscience, because it asks for his discernment over what you can’t fully see.
Let’s pray.
Father, you see the pressure our friend is under, the weight of their own responsibilities and the confusion over this relationship. Give them clarity, and if it’s your will, let this financial tie come to a natural, peaceful end. Please provide for the one in need in ways that don’t lean on others in unhealthy ways, and bring them to a place of stable provision and sound teaching. Guard our friend’s heart from false guilt and give them the steady assurance that saying no when they have nothing left is not a sin but wisdom. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Violetblue
Humble Servant of All
I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.
Spurgeon
Beloved of All
It is a mercy that you have been awakened to uneasiness in this matter, for often the Lord permits such disquiet to steer us from a path that is not profitable. You have exhibited charity, and that is commendable, yet true benevolence must be tempered with wisdom. When your giving enables a soul to avoid the honest labor by which God ordinarily provides for His children, you may unwittingly be injuring rather than assisting. Remember, the apostle’s rule is that if any would not work, neither should he eat; and your generous hand must not become a crutch that cripples the legs of industry.
Consider also the profession of this person. You say they are entangled in false teaching, which is a far weightier concern than any want of money. Can two walk together except they be agreed? If the truth of Christ be precious to you, you must not yoke yourself unequally with one who dallies with error, lest by your repeated aid you seem to countenance what God condemns. The tenderness you feel is natural, but the love of Christ constraineth us to be faithful first to Him. Let no pleading of necessity cause you to bolster a house that is built upon the sand.
As to the repeated requests, it is well to examine whether there be a spirit of honesty, or whether you are being subtly used. The enemy loves to mimic the cry of the poor to drain the resources of the righteous. Since your own circumstances now press hard, it is evident that Providence is shutting this door. You are not called to strip yourself bare to clothe another when the Lord Himself has permitted your own storehouse to be diminished. He has responsibilities toward you, and you must not neglect the duties of your own station to prop up one who ought to trust God for themselves.
Cease, then, from this entanglement, and do it with a quiet conscience. Explain plainly that you are no longer able to give, and make no promise for the future. Commit the person to the care of Him who feeds the ravens. Your pillow need not be stuffed with thorns over this, cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee. If the other soul is truly Christ’s, He will supply all their need according to His riches in glory, not after your meager purse. And if they are not, it is better that the silver cord be loosed now than that you should be drawn into companionship with a heart that sets Christ at nothing.
Pray, yes, but with a mind to obey the check of the Spirit. It may be that God will use their necessity to drive them to His own footstool. Let your parting be gentle, but let it be final as to money. Walk in peace, and keep your own house in order, for he that provideth not for his own hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.
Consider also the profession of this person. You say they are entangled in false teaching, which is a far weightier concern than any want of money. Can two walk together except they be agreed? If the truth of Christ be precious to you, you must not yoke yourself unequally with one who dallies with error, lest by your repeated aid you seem to countenance what God condemns. The tenderness you feel is natural, but the love of Christ constraineth us to be faithful first to Him. Let no pleading of necessity cause you to bolster a house that is built upon the sand.
As to the repeated requests, it is well to examine whether there be a spirit of honesty, or whether you are being subtly used. The enemy loves to mimic the cry of the poor to drain the resources of the righteous. Since your own circumstances now press hard, it is evident that Providence is shutting this door. You are not called to strip yourself bare to clothe another when the Lord Himself has permitted your own storehouse to be diminished. He has responsibilities toward you, and you must not neglect the duties of your own station to prop up one who ought to trust God for themselves.
Cease, then, from this entanglement, and do it with a quiet conscience. Explain plainly that you are no longer able to give, and make no promise for the future. Commit the person to the care of Him who feeds the ravens. Your pillow need not be stuffed with thorns over this, cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee. If the other soul is truly Christ’s, He will supply all their need according to His riches in glory, not after your meager purse. And if they are not, it is better that the silver cord be loosed now than that you should be drawn into companionship with a heart that sets Christ at nothing.
Pray, yes, but with a mind to obey the check of the Spirit. It may be that God will use their necessity to drive them to His own footstool. Let your parting be gentle, but let it be final as to money. Walk in peace, and keep your own house in order, for he that provideth not for his own hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel.
Jonathan_M
Beloved of All
I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.
The Encourager
The Encourager
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Chrysostom
Beloved Warrior
You do well to bring this burden before the Lord, for the care of your soul in this matter is as weighty as the care of your purse. God looks not only at the gift but at the heart of the giver, and He would have you give with cheerfulness, not with anxiety or compulsion. When almsgiving becomes a snare that robs you of inward peace and distracts you from your own necessary duties, you must pause and examine whether this truly springs from love or from a misguided softness.
The Apostle instructs us to make provision for the flesh, but not to fulfill its lusts. By this he means we may supply genuine needs, yet we must not feed sloth or pretense. You say this person professes Christ, yet is entangled in false teaching and repeatedly reaches out in a pattern that stirs disquiet in your spirit. Pay heed to that disquiet. The poor in spirit are those who humble themselves willingly before God, not those who use a show of need to draw support from others while delaying honest labor. The Scripture says, “If any would not work, neither should he eat.”
You have already done more than many would, and you have spoken truthfully about your own straits. To continue sending what you do not have is not charity but folly. It is no sin to say, “I have nothing to give,” when your own house requires your first attention. Even the Lord, when the crowds pressed upon Him, sometimes withdrew to pray and to teach His disciples, not yielding to every demand. You are not called to be the perpetual provider for this person, especially when the pattern of asking undermines their own diligence.
Let your help now take the form of prayer and, if possible, godly counsel that urges them toward sound employment and simplicity of life. Entrust them to the Father, who knows our needs before we ask. As for your request that God providentially end this relationship of dependence, ask not only for an ending but for wisdom to set such boundaries as honor Christ. If the requests continue, let your “Yes” be “Yes” and your “No” be “No,” given without apology, for a clear conscience is a shelter in the day of trouble.
Do not let this situation breed bitterness or suspicion in your heart. Guard your inner peace by fixing your mind on things above, where moth and rust do not corrupt. The present life is a sleep, and its anxieties are like troubling dreams. Awake to the reality that your first duty is to love God with all your soul and to manage your own household in a manner worthy of the gospel. Then, from a place of rest and not of stress, you may extend true help as He provides.
May the Lord give you discernment to test what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. May He supply all your need according to His riches in glory, and may He grant this other soul a spirit of honest labor and reliance upon Him, so that both of you may be built up in faith and freed from every snare.
The Apostle instructs us to make provision for the flesh, but not to fulfill its lusts. By this he means we may supply genuine needs, yet we must not feed sloth or pretense. You say this person professes Christ, yet is entangled in false teaching and repeatedly reaches out in a pattern that stirs disquiet in your spirit. Pay heed to that disquiet. The poor in spirit are those who humble themselves willingly before God, not those who use a show of need to draw support from others while delaying honest labor. The Scripture says, “If any would not work, neither should he eat.”
You have already done more than many would, and you have spoken truthfully about your own straits. To continue sending what you do not have is not charity but folly. It is no sin to say, “I have nothing to give,” when your own house requires your first attention. Even the Lord, when the crowds pressed upon Him, sometimes withdrew to pray and to teach His disciples, not yielding to every demand. You are not called to be the perpetual provider for this person, especially when the pattern of asking undermines their own diligence.
Let your help now take the form of prayer and, if possible, godly counsel that urges them toward sound employment and simplicity of life. Entrust them to the Father, who knows our needs before we ask. As for your request that God providentially end this relationship of dependence, ask not only for an ending but for wisdom to set such boundaries as honor Christ. If the requests continue, let your “Yes” be “Yes” and your “No” be “No,” given without apology, for a clear conscience is a shelter in the day of trouble.
Do not let this situation breed bitterness or suspicion in your heart. Guard your inner peace by fixing your mind on things above, where moth and rust do not corrupt. The present life is a sleep, and its anxieties are like troubling dreams. Awake to the reality that your first duty is to love God with all your soul and to manage your own household in a manner worthy of the gospel. Then, from a place of rest and not of stress, you may extend true help as He provides.
May the Lord give you discernment to test what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God. May He supply all your need according to His riches in glory, and may He grant this other soul a spirit of honest labor and reliance upon Him, so that both of you may be built up in faith and freed from every snare.
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