I posted this recently: "There is someone ### who I have been helping financially. This person is a ### but is still trying to build their channel and is struggling financially. They are a ### and a professing Christian although they may be a bit confused and involved in false teachings. This person recently moved and I told them that I'd help with anything they need which I still intend to do. But in the span of the past few days, they've been asking for things a lot. It hasn't been excessive (and maybe it's just stressful for me right now because I have my own responsibilities I'm trying to take care of at this time that I'm concerned about) but it has been multiple requests. I believe this person is honest. They always try to show me they are truly using the money I give them to get what they have asked for help with. But I do worry that they are getting too dependent. They are trying to get a job soon so they can provide for themselves. Please pray for me about this all. This person is now messaging me again. There is a certain way they always reach out to me when they may need something and they are reaching out again this way. I don't have any money right now to send them at this moment and likely won't for the next few weeks. Please pray for me about this. So the person told me what they want now. As I said previously, I can't send anything for a while though. The thing they're asking for is kind of a necessity but could also be seen as more of a want than a need. Please pray about all this. Pray that I am not being used in any way." I then posted "So after posting this request, I told this person that I would have to wait until I got paid in a few weeks to send them something. They started messaging me again this week which is a week or two later from when I told them that I would have to wait until I got paid. Around the same time that they messaged me this week, I found out that I lost my weekly check from my new job completely because I filled out tax forms wrong and my entire check got taken up by taxes. I have no take home pay whatsoever because of this this week. I explained this to this person and told them that because of this, I'd have to wait until the end of next month to send them anything. I have to wait because this situation has pushed me back financially and stopped me from handling a lot of urgent responsibilities I needed to handle with that paycheck that I lost this week. I thought they understood but then I woke up just now and they have left me a voice message asking if I can send them something to help pay with rent. They were very apologetic and the amount is very small but I just don't have it at all. Please pray for me about this. I get stressed out about this situation - maybe because I have a lot of my own financial burdens. I love helping them but I'm wondering if I made the right decision to start doing so. I don't know what to think or do. I responded to this person's newest message and told them once again about my situation that is causing me to not be able to send them anything for a while. I'm not sure how they feel. I hope they don't feel bad in any way. But there is also nothing I can do. Please pray for them and for God to provide them with everything they need. Please also pray for me about this situation as a whole because, again, I just don't know what to think about it and feel a lot of stress about it." And then I posted, "Since posting all those things, I feel uncomfortable continuing to send this person money because there's just something off about the whole situation. Please pray that God would providentially stop my relationship with this person in terms of sending them money." And then, "This person recently reached out to me again. As I've stated before, there's a certain way they reach out to me that always indicates they need something. Maybe this is a cultural behavior. Every time they reach out to me like this, it's always at a time where I already have a bunch of other responsibilities to deal with and it's not good timing. I agreed to help this person with something else but after that, again, I really am praying that God would providentially end this relationship because something about it doesn't seem right. Please pray for me about all this and that He would." This person has now asked me for money to get things for their house. I do not have the funds AT ALL to do that and will have to tell them so. Please pray that God would end this relationship. Thank you.
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We hear your heart in this situation, and we want to come alongside you in prayer and biblical counsel. First, we must acknowledge that your desire to help this person is rooted in love, a reflection of Christ’s compassion for those in need. However, we also see the strain this has placed on you, both financially and emotionally, and we must examine this through the lens of Scripture.
The Bible calls us to generosity, but it also warns against enabling dependency or being taken advantage of. Proverbs 19:17 says, "Whoever has pity on the poor lends to the Lord; he will reward him for what he has done." Yet, 2 Thessalonians 3:10 also reminds us, "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: ‘If anyone will not work, neither let him eat.’" While this person is seeking employment, their repeated requests, especially when you’ve made your own financial limitations clear, suggest a pattern that may not be healthy for either of you.
We must also address the spiritual concern here. You mentioned this person may be involved in false teachings. Scripture is clear: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even if they profess Christianity, if their beliefs or actions contradict God’s Word, we must be cautious. Proverbs 13:20 warns, "He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."
You’ve expressed discomfort and a sense that this relationship may not be God’s will for you. We believe the Holy Spirit is speaking to you through that unease. It is not unkind to set boundaries, it is wisdom. Jesus Himself withdrew from those who sought to use Him for their own gain (John 2:24-25). You are not responsible for this person’s provision; God is. Your role is to love them, pray for them, and point them to Christ, not to become their sole source of financial support.
Let us pray for you now:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up our brother/sister to You, who has shown a heart to help others but now feels burdened and uncertain. Lord, we ask that You would give them wisdom and discernment in this situation. Reveal to them Your will and grant them the courage to follow it, even if it means setting boundaries or stepping away from this relationship. Father, we pray for this person they have been helping. Provide for their needs according to Your riches in glory. Open doors for employment and surround them with godly community that will encourage them in truth. Lord, if there is any ungodly influence in their life, we ask that You would break its hold and draw them into a deeper relationship with You. Protect our brother/sister from guilt or manipulation, and let them rest in the knowledge that You are their Provider. We ask that You would heal any financial strain they are experiencing and bless them abundantly for their generosity. Guide them into relationships that honor You and reflect Your love. In all things, may Your name be glorified. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen."
We encourage you to trust God’s leading in this. If this relationship is not bearing good fruit, if it is causing you stress, enabling dependency, or drawing you away from God’s priorities, then it may be time to step back. You can still pray for this person and love them from a distance, but you are not obligated to continue supporting them financially. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Finally, we must address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Romans 10:9 says, "If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." Salvation is a free gift, and it is the foundation of a life lived in God’s will.
May the Lord give you peace and clarity as you navigate this situation. You are not alone, He is with you.
The Bible calls us to generosity, but it also warns against enabling dependency or being taken advantage of. Proverbs 19:17 says, "Whoever has pity on the poor lends to the Lord; he will reward him for what he has done." Yet, 2 Thessalonians 3:10 also reminds us, "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: ‘If anyone will not work, neither let him eat.’" While this person is seeking employment, their repeated requests, especially when you’ve made your own financial limitations clear, suggest a pattern that may not be healthy for either of you.
We must also address the spiritual concern here. You mentioned this person may be involved in false teachings. Scripture is clear: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even if they profess Christianity, if their beliefs or actions contradict God’s Word, we must be cautious. Proverbs 13:20 warns, "He who walks with wise men grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm."
You’ve expressed discomfort and a sense that this relationship may not be God’s will for you. We believe the Holy Spirit is speaking to you through that unease. It is not unkind to set boundaries, it is wisdom. Jesus Himself withdrew from those who sought to use Him for their own gain (John 2:24-25). You are not responsible for this person’s provision; God is. Your role is to love them, pray for them, and point them to Christ, not to become their sole source of financial support.
Let us pray for you now:
"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. We lift up our brother/sister to You, who has shown a heart to help others but now feels burdened and uncertain. Lord, we ask that You would give them wisdom and discernment in this situation. Reveal to them Your will and grant them the courage to follow it, even if it means setting boundaries or stepping away from this relationship. Father, we pray for this person they have been helping. Provide for their needs according to Your riches in glory. Open doors for employment and surround them with godly community that will encourage them in truth. Lord, if there is any ungodly influence in their life, we ask that You would break its hold and draw them into a deeper relationship with You. Protect our brother/sister from guilt or manipulation, and let them rest in the knowledge that You are their Provider. We ask that You would heal any financial strain they are experiencing and bless them abundantly for their generosity. Guide them into relationships that honor You and reflect Your love. In all things, may Your name be glorified. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen."
We encourage you to trust God’s leading in this. If this relationship is not bearing good fruit, if it is causing you stress, enabling dependency, or drawing you away from God’s priorities, then it may be time to step back. You can still pray for this person and love them from a distance, but you are not obligated to continue supporting them financially. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight."
Finally, we must address the absence of Jesus’ name in your request. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). If you have not placed your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so. Romans 10:9 says, "If you declare with your mouth, ‘Jesus is Lord,’ and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." Salvation is a free gift, and it is the foundation of a life lived in God’s will.
May the Lord give you peace and clarity as you navigate this situation. You are not alone, He is with you.
We hear the strain in your words, the tension between your generous heart and the growing sense that something isn’t right. It’s exhausting to feel pulled when you’re already carrying your own financial burdens, and the pattern you’ve noticed (the timing, the repeated requests even after you’ve explained your limits) makes your unease understandable. You’ve been clear, and you’ve been kind; now the kindest thing might be to let your “no” stand without further explanation.
Sometimes the most loving boundary is a firm one that trusts God to provide for the other person in ways you cannot. You’re not their only lifeline, and stepping back doesn’t make you ungenerous, it makes you wise. You’ve already prayed for God to providentially end this financial tie, and we join you in that. In the meantime, it may help to decide once and for all that this season of giving has closed, and then simply not respond to future requests with money or promises. No guilt, no extended apologies. You can still care without funding.
We’re praying that God releases you from this weight and confirms what you already sense: that it’s time to let go. Ask Him to guard your peace and to make His provision clear for both of you.
Prayer: Lord, we lift this friend to You. You see the stress, the good intentions, and the tangled feelings. Grant clarity and courage to set the boundaries that honor You and protect what You’ve entrusted. Provide for the other person’s genuine needs in Your own way, and release our friend from any false guilt. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Sometimes the most loving boundary is a firm one that trusts God to provide for the other person in ways you cannot. You’re not their only lifeline, and stepping back doesn’t make you ungenerous, it makes you wise. You’ve already prayed for God to providentially end this financial tie, and we join you in that. In the meantime, it may help to decide once and for all that this season of giving has closed, and then simply not respond to future requests with money or promises. No guilt, no extended apologies. You can still care without funding.
We’re praying that God releases you from this weight and confirms what you already sense: that it’s time to let go. Ask Him to guard your peace and to make His provision clear for both of you.
Prayer: Lord, we lift this friend to You. You see the stress, the good intentions, and the tangled feelings. Grant clarity and courage to set the boundaries that honor You and protect what You’ve entrusted. Provide for the other person’s genuine needs in Your own way, and release our friend from any false guilt. In Jesus’ name, amen.
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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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The trial you now endure is not a strange thing, though it presses heavily. True charity rejoices to give, yet it must not foster an unwholesome dependence, nor be mistaken for that boundless store which belongs to God alone. The relationship of marriage, as I have often said, is one of nearness but not of original birth, so, too, the bond of Christian kindness is voluntary, and must not be abused to bind a soul in perpetual beggary. Our Maker is the Husband of His church, and He assumes all responsibility for His own; we, His instruments, are never meant to usurp His throne. Your aid, though well intended, seems now to have bred an expectation that threatens both your peace and their soul.
When the people of Israel were entangled in the land, the Lord led them there that He might display His power against the foe. This financial strait may be the very means by which God ends an unhealthy tie. Do not despise this chastening pinch of your own purse; it may be His providential hand steering both you and that misguided professor away from a snare. That you feel unease when they approach is no small signal, Jonathan’s love for David began in no self-interest, but a grasping spirit soon reveals itself. You are right to pray for release.
Yet let your heart be tender still. There are poor and ignorant ones among Christ’s brethren, and we must not be ashamed of them, nor grow hard. But we are called to give as the Lord prospers, with cheerfulness, not under compulsion. When the message comes at the worst season, and always seeks a gift, wisdom looks heavenward. The Spirit giveth not the spirit of fear, but of a sound mind. Depend not on your own understanding; trust Him to break this bond in His time, and meanwhile speak the truth in love, firmly and without guilt. The Lord will provide for that person’s true needs, and for all the pressing burdens upon your own shoulders. He who brought you through the Red Sea shall not fail you in this wilderness.
When the people of Israel were entangled in the land, the Lord led them there that He might display His power against the foe. This financial strait may be the very means by which God ends an unhealthy tie. Do not despise this chastening pinch of your own purse; it may be His providential hand steering both you and that misguided professor away from a snare. That you feel unease when they approach is no small signal, Jonathan’s love for David began in no self-interest, but a grasping spirit soon reveals itself. You are right to pray for release.
Yet let your heart be tender still. There are poor and ignorant ones among Christ’s brethren, and we must not be ashamed of them, nor grow hard. But we are called to give as the Lord prospers, with cheerfulness, not under compulsion. When the message comes at the worst season, and always seeks a gift, wisdom looks heavenward. The Spirit giveth not the spirit of fear, but of a sound mind. Depend not on your own understanding; trust Him to break this bond in His time, and meanwhile speak the truth in love, firmly and without guilt. The Lord will provide for that person’s true needs, and for all the pressing burdens upon your own shoulders. He who brought you through the Red Sea shall not fail you in this wilderness.
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