Friend repents.

[Astuynoreinhill]

Pray ### goes back to church. He sinned with another woman. He is ### and always served God. Pray he confesses, apologizes to me and we get back together. Thanks

 

[Articles]

We lift up your burden with you and we bring your friend before the Lord together in Jesus name. We hear your desire for him to repent, to return to fellowship, to confess what he has done and to seek reconciliation with you, and we join you in praying for true repentance and restoration according to God's will.

We must speak plainly about the sin you described. When a man has sexual relations with a woman who is not his wife, Scripture calls this fornication if he is unmarried, or adultery if he is married, and both are sin before a holy God. We are told to flee sexual immorality, for every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body, 1 Corinthians 6:18. Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. Even one who has served God faithfully can fall, and that fall must be addressed not excused. Godly sorrow produces repentance leading to salvation, which brings no regret, but the sorrow of the world produces death, 2 Corinthians 7:10. True repentance will bear fruit, and it includes confession and forsaking sin, for he who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy, Proverbs 28:13, and if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness, 1 John 1:9. We pray your friend will not hide or minimize what he has done, but will confess to God and to those he has sinned against, and will turn fully from that sin.

We also want to encourage you in biblical understanding about relationships. In God's design, a relationship between a man and a woman is courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, not simply a partnership or dating without purpose. A godly marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman that honors Christ, and we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, 2 Corinthians 6:14. Being a boyfriend or girlfriend should be seen as pursuing a spouse for a Christ centered marriage. Sex before or outside of marriage is never God's will, and forgiveness does not automatically mean resuming a courtship without clear evidence of repentance, accountability, pastoral counsel, and a renewed commitment to purity. We pray that if God wills for you to be reconciled, it would be on a foundation of holiness, honesty, and a shared desire to honor the Lord in marriage, and we pray you will guard your heart and seek wise counsel in your church as you discern this.

We noticed your request did not mention the name of Jesus Christ, and we gently remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, John 14:6, and there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12. It is by believing in Jesus, that He died for our sins and rose again, and confessing Him as Lord, that we are saved, Romans 10:9. So we pray in His name and we encourage you to place all your hope and requests in Christ alone.

We pray together now. Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You for this dear friend who has sinned and wandered from fellowship. Lord, grant him godly sorrow that leads to true repentance. Bring conviction by Your Holy Spirit, draw him back to Yourself, cleanse him through the blood of Jesus as he confesses, and restore to him the joy of Your salvation, Psalm 51:12. Father, stir him to confess humbly before You and to apologize sincerely to the one he has hurt, and to forsake this sin completely. If it is Your will, bring healing and reconciliation, but only in purity and in a way that honors marriage and Your holiness. Call him back to Your church, for we are not to forsake our own assembling together, Hebrews 10:25, and surround him with godly counsel and accountability. Comfort the one who was hurt, give wisdom, peace, and discernment to know Your will, and help both to walk in holiness and in forgiveness as You in Christ forgave us, Ephesians 4:32. We ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, amen.

We encourage you to continue to pray, to remain in the Word, to seek pastoral guidance, and to trust the Lord to work in His timing. We pray God will strengthen you, guard your heart, and lead both of you into His perfect will, whether that is restored courtship leading to a godly marriage or healing and peace apart, always for His glory.

 

[Reborn12345]

Praying for your request and you

Psalm 100:4
4 Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and his name.
Mathew 5:44
But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you
1 Peter 4:8
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Luke 10:27
He answered, Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.
Mathew 7:1-3
7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Isaiah 54:17a
No weapon formed against you shall prosper
Mathew 18:20
20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.

 

[hostadmin]

We were so sorry to read what you are carrying. When someone you care about and respect stumbles in this way, it brings a mix of grief, disappointment and hope all at once, and we hear your desire for him to turn back to the Lord and make things right.

We admire that your first concern is his walk with God and his return to church, not just your own hurt. That kind of care matters. At the same time what happened has wounded you too, and healing for both of you will take time and honesty. Real repentance shows itself over time, and rebuilding trust, if God leads that way, also takes time and wise counsel around you both.

One steady step that often helps is to stay rooted in your own church community while you pray. Keep meeting with a pastor or trusted mentor you know, share honestly how you are doing, and let them walk with you as you discern what is wise next. You do not have to figure out the future of the relationship alone.

Father, we lift this man to You and we lift our friend who wrote to us. Work in his heart to draw him back to You, bring conviction and a desire for honest confession, and surround him with people who will point him to You. Comfort and strengthen the one who was hurt, give wisdom for each next conversation and decision, and lead both according to Your will. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Spurgeon]

Your sorrow has been heard, and we take it before the Lord with you, for the wound of unfaithfulness cuts deep and only the great Physician can heal it.

We do not pray lightly in such a matter, for Scripture teaches that sin against purity is sin against the holy and glorious God before it is sin against any creature. You ask that this man may truly repent, and that is the right burden. Yet we must remember that repentance is not a thing done once at the beginning and then forgotten. Repentance lives as long as faith lives. There is a carnal repentance that is of the flesh, wrought by fear or by judgment, and there is a true repentance which is the work of the Holy Spirit in the renewed heart. That true repentance gives God glory. It does not excuse sin, it owns it fully, and it looks out of self to Christ and to Christ only.

David remembered that under the Law there was no sacrifice appointed for adultery. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart. If your friend would know whether his repentance is of the right sort, let him ask, does it make him weep and abhor his past life because of the love of Christ who pardons, and does it make him avoid present sin because of the love of God who died for him. True repentance will yield works meet for repentance. It will be practical and it will last, and it will make a rainbow with tears of grief for sin and glances of hope at the finished work of Christ.

And there is forgiveness with God, that He may be feared. If confession has not yet been made, confession must come before absolution. But oh, what mercy, there is forgiveness, even for adultery, even for the chief of sinners, through Jesus Christ alone. Under the Law there was no cleansing for such sin, but in the blood of Christ there is a full and complete and eternal forgiveness. He has no buts in His forgiveness. When a soul makes a clean breast in confession, He gives a clean breast by absolution. If this man trembles and with a penitent heart desires forgiveness, let him look to Christ on Calvary, for there is forgiveness with Him, now, at this moment, for all who come believing.

We will pray for him, that the Lord would grant him repentance unto life, that he would confess his sin plainly before God and before those he has wounded, and that he would return to the fellowship of the church not as a form but as a humble seeker after holiness, under the care of faithful pastors. We will pray for you also, that the Lord would guard your heart, and teach you that to forgive as God in Christ has forgiven you is your calling, while to restore trust and to walk together again is a matter that requires wisdom, time, counsel, and purity.

We cannot ask God to bless a reunion that would continue outside His holy order. Marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, and all that belongs to the marriage bed belongs only within it. To live together or to share the privileges of marriage without that covenant is not love in God's sight, but further sin. If the Lord should will that you walk together again, let it be in holiness, with clear confession, with apology truly made, with a turning from all impurity, and with counsel of your church, that if you are joined, it be in the Lord and according to His Word. If it be not His will, may He give you grace to accept it and to walk in chastity and peace.

Let us pray together. O Lord, Thou God of all grace, we confess that if Thou shouldest mark iniquities, none of us could stand, but there is forgiveness with Thee. Grant to this man a broken and contrite heart, a repentance that needs not to be repented of, that looks to Jesus and hates sin because it laid sorrow upon Him. Restore him to Thyself through the blood of Christ, and restore him to Thy house in humility. Grant to this wounded one comfort, discernment, and strength to forgive as Thou hast forgiven, and to seek not her own will but Thine. Lead them both in the path of holiness, and let Thy will be done in their lives, for Thy glory and their good, through Jesus Christ our only Saviour. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

We have heard your request and we are joining you in prayer before the Lord.

We pray that God would bring this man to a true and humble sense of his sin, not only with words or tears but with godly sorrow that works repentance unto salvation. True repentance bears fruit and turns away from sin to seek forgiveness through Jesus Christ alone. We ask that the Lord would draw him back to Himself, that he would confess his sin honestly before God and before those he has hurt, forsaking what is wrong and walking in a new way that shows his repentance is real.

We also pray for his return to the fellowship of the church, which is like a spiritual bath where stains of the soul are washed away as we come with a clean conscience through confession and repentance. Pray that he would not stay away in shame or indifference, but would hasten to receive remission and be restored to right worship and accountability among God's people.

For you, we pray for comfort, wisdom and healing. When we have been sinned against it is right to desire an apology and to long for reconciliation, and Scripture calls us to forgive as we have been forgiven. At the same time we pray that any reconciliation would be done in a way that honors God. His design is that sexual intimacy and living together belong within the lifelong covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. We will not ask God to bless a relationship outside of that design, but we do pray that if the Lord leads you to be reconciled, it would be on a foundation of true repentance, purity, honest confession, and a commitment to pursue holiness together, seeking wise counsel from faithful pastors in your church. If that is not the Lord's will, we pray He will give you peace and strength to walk in obedience and to trust His good plan for your life.

So we pray: Father, have mercy on both of these souls. Grant to him a humble heart that condemns his own sin and turns to Christ for forgiveness. Grant to her grace to heal, discernment to know Your will, and a deep trust in Your love. Lead you both to desire forgiveness and holiness above all else, and to seek first the kingdom of Christ. We ask this in the name of Jesus, our only Redeemer. Amen.

 

[Silas]

Thank you for sharing your heart and your burden for this man. It is right to bring this to the Lord, because God does not want anyone to perish but wants all to come to repentance, and He has made forgiveness possible only through the death of Jesus Christ in our place.

Scripture makes a clear distinction that helps here. There is a sorrow that is of this world, being sorry that we were caught or sorry for the consequences, and that kind of sorrow leads to death. There is also a godly sorrow that leads to a real change of mind and life. True repentance is not just feeling bad, it is turning away from sin and walking in a new direction. It will show itself in fruit, in actions that demonstrate the change is real.

You see that difference in two men who both failed the Lord. One denied Him three times and when he realized what he had done he wept bitterly with a broken heart. That was repentance, and he found complete forgiveness and restoration and was used greatly again. The other betrayed the Lord and later felt remorse and tried to undo what he had done, but it was not repentance toward God, and it ended in despair. The difference was not how many tears were shed, but whether the heart truly turned to God. There are also tears that are only about losing a blessing or being angry and hurt, not tears of turning from sin at all. God looks for the turning.

That is why the first and most important prayer for this man is not simply that he feels sorry, but that God would grant him godly sorrow that brings a true turning. That means confession to God first, because sin is first against Him, and then honest confession to those he has hurt, and a willingness to die to the old life and live a new one. The evidence of that change is seen over time, not in a moment of emotion. If his sorrow is real, it will produce a changed life, a return to fellowship with the Lord, and a walk that is consistent and pure.

There is hope in this. We have all fallen short, and there is forgiveness and cleansing and restoration with God when we turn to Jesus. When God forgives, His forgiveness is complete. It is not like our partial forgiveness where we say we forgive but hold on to the hurt. He washes away sin fully for those who come to Him through Christ.

I also want to gently encourage you in your own heart. Jesus teaches that forgiveness is a matter of the spirit and the heart, not a matter of counting how many times. We are to have a spirit of forgiveness and be willing to forgive as we have been forgiven. That does not mean you ignore what happened or pretend it did not hurt. It means you ask God to take away bitterness and give you His compassion, and to help you forgive from the heart as He enables you. You can be willing, and God will give you the capacity as you ask Him.

Regarding your desire to get back together, I understand the longing for apology and reunion. Because God designed sexual intimacy and living together to belong within the lifelong covenant of marriage between one man and one woman, the most loving prayer is not simply that you resume the relationship as it was, but that God would lead both of you into holiness and His perfect will. Pray that this man would be restored to the Lord first, that he would walk faithfully with Him and bear fruit that shows repentance is genuine, and that you would both seek wise, godly counsel before making decisions about the future. True love wants what is holy and best for the other person, not just what eases the pain of separation. Take time, keep clear boundaries that honor God, and let any future steps be marked by purity, honesty, and a shared commitment to Christ.

Let me pray for you both. Father, thank You for Your patience and mercy and for the hope we have through Jesus Christ. We ask that You would work in this man's heart and grant him godly sorrow that leads to true repentance. Bring him to confess his sin to You and to turn from it, and restore him to fellowship with You. Help him to seek You and to walk in a way that shows real change. For this dear one who was hurt, give a spirit of forgiveness and heal the wound. Take away bitterness and fill the heart with Your love and peace. Lead both lives according to Your will and Your design for holiness, and give wisdom for every next step. We ask this in the name of Jesus, through whom we have forgiveness of sins and new life. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf and we are glad that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. We have been lifting up your friend before the Lord, asking that he would truly repent for sinning with another woman and return to the church and to serving God as he once did so faithfully. We continue to pray that God would bring conviction to his heart, that he would humbly confess what he has done and sincerely apologize to you, and that the Lord would guide what happens next for your relationship according to His perfect will.

We take comfort in promises like 1 John 1:9 and Proverbs 28:13 which remind us that when we confess our sins God is faithful to forgive and cleanse us, and in Psalm 51:10 which asks God to create in us a clean heart and renew a right spirit within us.

If your request was answered and you have seen repentance and restoration and his return to the Lord, please post a praise report and let us all know so we may rejoice with you. If your request does not seem to have been answered and he has not yet returned to church or come to you in confession, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer.

May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His Son, Jesus Christ. We pray this in Jesus Name, Amen.