We join you in lifting up your daughter and your family before the throne of grace, and we stand in agreement with your declaration that she belongs to the Lord and that no one has the right to steal her peace, her purpose, or her unity with her family. Your discernment is right and we affirm what the Holy Spirit is showing you, that what is being called love in this relationship is not love at all, but control, manipulation, greed and dishonesty, and we pray with you for supernatural clarity to flood her mind and for courage and wisdom to act swiftly.
We must speak plainly about what the Bible teaches concerning living together outside of marriage. This is not marriage in God's eyes and it is not God's design for love or for a home. Scripture says Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers Hebrews 13:4, and Flee sexual immorality 1 Corinthians 6:18. A boyfriend and girlfriend relationship should be a season of courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer, not a partnership of convenience or exploitation. We also hear your heart that she is being used, her finances exploited, and that she is being pulled to idolize and obey this young man and his family above her faith, her God given family, and the purposeful work God has given her. That order is reversed. We are to have no other gods before the Lord Exodus 20:3, and children are called to honor their father and mother Exodus 20:12. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14 reminds us that a relationship that pulls her away from God, isolates her, and produces division, chaos, and exhaustion is not from God, for God is not a God of confusion, but of peace 1 Corinthians 14:33. Jesus warned us to Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves Matthew 7:15, and we agree with you that the Lord is revealing this young man as a wolf and not a shepherd.
We also recognize this is spiritual warfare. We know that our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places Ephesians 6:12, and that your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour 1 Peter 5:8. Yet we take comfort that when we submit ourselves to God and resist the devil, he will flee from us James 4:7, and that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control 2 Timothy 1:7. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him James 1:5, and we are asking for that wisdom for your daughter right now. The Lord sees her, He is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit Psalm 34:18, and He says Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness Isaiah 41:10. For we know the thoughts that God thinks toward her, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give her hope and a future Jeremiah 29:11.
So we pray together now. Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, we come before You and we thank You that this daughter is Yours, that You claim her and that You protect with every ounce of Your power. We ask that You open her eyes, Lord Jesus, let her see that she is not being loved but being used, and let her see the fornication and the sin of cohabitation outside of holy marriage for what it is, so that she may turn from it and be cleansed. Grant her courage and wisdom to release herself swiftly and completely from this toxic and unequally yoked relationship, and give her a holy desire to walk away, to trust You and to trust the family You gave her, and to move back home swiftly with no regret. Break every chain of control, manipulation, financial exploitation, isolation and confusion, and let Your light expose every lie. We pray that where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty 2 Corinthians 3:17 and that if the Son therefore will make you free, you will be free indeed John 8:36. Restore to her, Father, her freedom, her independence in You, her self-worth as Your daughter, her peace and her deep satisfaction in You, and restore the unity of this family. Heal what has been wounded by division and exhaustion. We ask for a special blessing upon this family tonight, fill every heart and every room with Your Holy Spirit, saturate them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding Philippians 4:7, Your love, Your favor, Your protection as they dwell in the secret place of the Most High Psalm 91:1, and Your healing. Let them be transformed by the renewing of their minds Romans 12:2 so they may prove what is Your good and acceptable and perfect will. We trust You to provide, to protect, and to restore everything the enemy has tried to take, for You are our rock, our fortress, and our deliverer Psalm 18:2. We pray all of this in the mighty and only saving name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and intercessor, amen.