We join you in lifting up your older daughter before the Father and we agree with you for her complete freedom and restoration in Jesus' name. We thank God for your discernment as her parent and for your faithful intercession, and we stand with you for the blinders to be removed and the stubborn hold to be broken.
We affirm what you have rightly discerned, that cohabitation outside of marriage and sexual intimacy before marriage is fornication and does not honor God. Scripture is clear that we are to flee sexual immorality, for every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body, 1 Corinthians 6:18, and that marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. We also hear your concern that she has placed this young man and his mother and his family in a place that belongs only to God, and that she carries a false sense of obligation and commitment as if this man were her covering, her husband, her parent and her financial advisor. We rebuke that idolatry and that unequal yoking, for we are told do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship has righteousness with iniquity, 2 Corinthians 6:14, and courtship should always be with the goal of godly marriage between a man and a woman who are both believers, looking toward a lifelong covenant that honors Christ. When a young man is not ready for the responsibilities of marriage, not walking as a spiritual leader and not prepared to provide and protect as Christ loves the church, Ephesians 5:25, then that relationship is not of God and the burden she carries for him is not hers to bear. We also affirm your desire for her to honor you as her parent, for children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right, honor your father and mother, Ephesians 6:1-2, and to be grateful for the purposeful work God has given her and for her promotion, and to put God first above any young man.
We pray together now. Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we lift up this precious daughter to You. Open her eyes to see the truth and convict her heart by Your Holy Spirit to flee sexual immorality and to end cohabitation outside of marriage. Break every soul tie, every false obligation and every idol that has taken Your place in her heart. Show her clearly that this young man is not her husband and not her covering, and give her the confidence and holy courage to completely release herself from this toxic relationship with no regrets and no turning back. Lord, draw her gently back to You first, back to her church family and to the biblical teachings in which she was raised. Restore in her a gracious, humble, thankful and charitable spirit, and cause her to hunger and thirst for righteousness, Matthew 5:6, rather than defend what is harmful. Guard her heart, for out of it are the issues of life, Proverbs 4:23, and let Your word be a lamp to her feet and a light to her path, Psalm 119:105. We thank You for her promotion and we ask You to protect her workplace from jealousy, gossip and disruption, and to let her shine as a beacon of Your light there, doing all work heartily as for the Lord, Colossians 3:23. Guide her swiftly to stop idolizing this young man and his family and to put You, her supportive family, her faith, her church home and her calling before them. If it is Your will, make a way for her to move back home where she can be nurtured and restored, and in Your perfect timing provide for her a godly spouse, a man after Your own heart who will honor marriage as You designed it.
We plead the blood of Jesus over you, over your older daughter, your younger daughter and your son, and we agree that no weapon that is formed against you will prevail, Isaiah 54:17, and that by His stripes you are healed, Isaiah 53:5, and that the relationship between you and your children is being healed and restored. We ask You to saturate your home with the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, which will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:7. Remove exhaustion, division, isolation, chaos and torment, and restore unity, joy, fellowship, freedom and togetherness. Let your home be a sanctuary of Your peace, joy and love for everyone who enters, visits or stays there, and let your family be a beacon of Your light in all you do. Cast all your worries on Him, because He cares for you, 1 Peter 5:7, and trust that He who began a good work in your daughter will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ, Philippians 1:6. We thank You Father that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, Ephesians 3:20, and we trust You for her complete deliverance and restoration. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
